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RE: Abuse or training - 4/8/2008 2:29:31 PM   
xxblushesxx


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I agree. It's just people saying, "well, I guess I could've hit something, but I didn't know I did" that flag my radar.

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RE: Abuse or training - 4/8/2008 3:36:22 PM   
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Thank you.  As a rule of life - one of my apriori's I do not accept "The Peoples Court" in any fashion - as any model or representation of reality whatsoever.  Now that being said,.... the car was mine, but I have given it to her as hers.  In my name.  And so dear if it is "hers" it is hers unless her neglect would give cause to remove it from her "possession".  Finally  your last point is perhaps your most insightful.  She is indeed very submissive.  But only if it's her "idea".  So the cat and the mouse play.....

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I hear that on People's Court all the time.
Always remember that if you hit something (even lightly) with your car, you are going to feel it. (especially if it's something big and heavy like, oh...say....another car or a garage.)
Btw...whose car is it? Inquiring minds...
Also, people who say that someone who fights is not a submissive has obviously never had to fight their own submission. Or...it could be that she *is* submissive, but not to him....


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RE: Abuse or training - 4/8/2008 3:42:04 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

My thoughts exactly.   I do have a fairly high deductible so will not pursue insurance adjusting..... it is a pie plate sized ding with a scratch.  Perhaps my leaving it there will be a regular reminder of her transgression, my grace....... and OK.... so I get some mileage (no pun intended) out of it.

As for me talking to her,  well after the fact it really was mostly me talking ..... she was choking a gagging down some salty oysters trying to make ammends best she could.  I think what she was muttering was something akin to "Oh honey I am so sorry, what could I do to ever earn your forgiveness.  Don't be made at me anymore......"

"Just a moment longer dear, and your forgiveness will be complete".... was my twitching reply.

~Fast Reply~

Just a thought...

It's true that if she was in the car at the time she would probably feel the impact but it's also possible that someone backed into her while she was not in the car and her honestly not notice. I drive a car with a hatch and could easily overlook damage to it for at least a day. I usually walk towards it with the front facing me and don't put much in the back. However, an auto body shop could probably tell you how they think the damage was caused.

Glad to hear you talked to her.


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RE: Abuse or training - 4/8/2008 5:14:24 PM   
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Again whose car is it? If it is yours, you can what you please with it. But if it is hers and someone really did back into her and she didn't notice, I think it's pretty shitty of you to just leave it.

I guess I have to take back the part about of being glad. Next time try listening to her. Did she actually withhold information? You said she didn't notice so unless you think she is lying she doesn't have any transgression. With all the problems going on in your relationship, I can promise that you are part of them.

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RE: Abuse or training - 4/8/2008 6:58:19 PM   
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Only submissive if it's "her idea"? 

And this means what, to you ?

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RE: Abuse or training - 4/8/2008 7:00:29 PM   
xxblushesxx


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It could mean someone who is growing in their submissiveness, someone who is not submissive, or just someone who fights it. You don't know unless you're her.



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RE: Abuse or training - 4/9/2008 2:36:10 AM   
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OK.  So my bitchy subbie that challenges me at every turn of the road is holding something out on me.  In fact she fights me over everything.  Fights against blow jobs, fights against butt fucks, fights against yes and fights against no
 
apologies if i repeat something someone else has said, read some of the thread, but not all.... anyway....

sounds to me like a sub who really wants a spanking and youre not delivering. she's being a cow at every turn, pushing and pushing and youre only now thinking about dealing with her.  theres a post around here about maintenance spanking and maybe you should read it.  if youre not giving her what she needs to settle her and get that 'feel' of physical dominance from you then she's going to brat out.. apparently.  not to scare you, but backing the car into the garage door is only a fraction of what she could get up to!  spank her already FFS!!

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RE: Abuse or training - 4/9/2008 4:43:31 AM   
DesFIP


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Could also be someone who cannot express her submission safely because she knows the dominant in question is not at all interested in what's best for her, only for what gets him off. If his response to her having a car accident is to get gleeful at an excuse to punish her instead of seeing if she's okay, then he is not a safe dominant to submit to.

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RE: Abuse or training - 4/9/2008 12:57:40 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mrmorpheuslunar

Interesting replies.  Some were right on target, had good insight, and wise counsel.  Some however were trying to sell their own domination and or persona's with the posting, and hey - that's OK cause it's a sounding board of who we are.

All in all, Your right.... there was an absence of some essential information - but I thought it extraneous to the issue and unnecessary to render judgement.

So at the end of the day..... yes I presented the damage to her, and asked her response to it.  I was not using the issue as an opportunity to lord it over here and wanky wanky as some suggested.  Although I was engaging my imagination regarding the dispositon of justice.  Her response to me was that she was unaware of it until earlier in the day when one of her friends pointed it out to her.  She did not know if she caused the damage upon backing out of the garage, or if someone damaged the hatch by backing into her.

I extended grace to her upon her explanation.

And I do thank all for their deliberations and input.


See I told you it was the trolls!!!



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