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Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Are doms so insecure... (4/10/2008 1:32:02 AM)
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I'm probally going to be playing Devils Advocate here. I've only read the first couple of pages of this thread. Hope this contributes something somewhat new.
The marvels of technology. The internet has made it very easy for people to become involved in online romances. Just not a BDSM issue, but this issue is hitting home with many couples, families and relationships.
In short, during troubled periods or rocky roads in a relationship, it's very easy for another person to turn towards somebody else for warmth and affection, or just understanding.
There are all kinds of studies being conducted regarding internet addiction and social interaction and even the effects of using a computer has on the brain. The fact remains, that it becomes very easy for people to hook up with others. Often these people are avoiding working out their relationship problems, instead they hope online and spend hours clicking away in IM's, Emails or whatever with other people.
Mind, I tend to agree with many people about the whole Trust factor here. One should be able to trust the person in the relationship they have. However, the evils of technology are changing social interactions and the Internet is a distraction or can become a distraction from spending time together or working on the relationship itself. Hell some people have become wrapped up in online games, World of WarCrack.
I think many people are not trusting of the technology and how their partner is using it. Many people are falling victim to cyber additions and developing relationships that can distract from their primary relationship.
So, my quess is that some of these Doms are insecure, some are simply aware of the risks involved and wish to curve it some. To keep things under control so that they don't get out of control.
Hell, even kids are spending countless hours clued to the Net in chatrooms and such.
Everybody talks about Doms having 101 subs on the line online or sub/slaves with a slew of prospective Doms on the line. Sooner or later there is only so much time you can devote to keeping up with people in your Yahoo IM list or email. I think many people will have a primary person they are interested, but have a list of fall backs. It's almost becomes a big game of screening people, talking with them and such.
The Fact remains that there are many Doms/men that are online that don't respect other peoples relationships. This is an Adult personals site after all, where people come here to meet other people with the hope of getting hooked up. The very nature of the Other side is for this purpose. Having a message like this on a profile, will prevent men from wasting time trying to hit on somebody who's already involved. The sub/slave partner does not have to deal with reading needless mindless emails from guys on here.
Anyways, I guess it all depends upon the motivations of such messages posted on profiles. A little hard to judge anybody as being insecure just over this little bit of information. I'm certain a few sub/slaves even get a big warm and fuzzy knowing that their Master/Daddy/Dom or whoever is screening things or that she has been given a Rule or Order to follow. LOL...
I'm just tossing out a maze of thoughts on this. Who the Hell really knows who is really secure or not.
I think everybody has some form or level of insecurity, some just have more then others. LOL
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