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-=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 8:21:52 PM   
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Some people ask me about the difference between RLslavery and D/s fantasy role-play slavery.  There are very valid arguments between the M/s & D/s communities that one is no different than the other.  After all, on the surface, "consensual slavery" seems like a perfect oxymoron. 
 
You would be surprised how many people do not agree on or understand the definition of a slave.  Lets bow to the wisdom of Webster for a moment:

Slave - noun
1. a person who is the property of and wholly subject to another; a bond servant. 

2. a person entirely under the domination of some influence or person: a slave to a drug. 
 
In the M/s world I know slaves that are marked, branded or have signed legal guardianship papers.  The D/s world argues that it is only “extended” role-play…  that is a hard comment to contradict because from that point of view, "extended" could also apply to the 8 years of college that allows people to legally “play doctor” too.   So where does the line between a real slave and role-play get drawn?  To me, the first indicator between role play and “living” something is exactly that.  Do you want to “play” doctor for the weekend or do you want to “be” a doctor as your chosen profession? 
 
I say we use the same lines that society uses to determine real doctors, their badge, symbol, sheepskin or whatever.  That would mean legal guardianship or permanent ownership markings is paramount to "real" ownership.  I also think that 8 years service is equal to a degree. 
 
So for those seeking validation, looking to draw lines and make slavery more real, consider the “markers” in your life.  Are you branded, tattooed or marked in a permanent way?  Have you assigned guardianship?

To those that have aged past the initial rush of sweet lust and have grown to like the bittersweet taste that years of service in slavery reveals, you deserve a sheepskin for the curriculum vitae of your life’s work.  Know that old Masters recognize you on first sight by your ways… but you already knew that.   :)

 
To those that this little diatribe has helped understand that they like role play, do not measure or compare it to RLslavery.  No one thing is better or comparable to the other.  Life is fun and you should find someone that likes role play too.  I enjoy role play, don’t you?
 
So many here at collrme.com confuse and/or compare role-play slavery with lifestyle slavery and vice versa.  Both are equally satisfying to those who partake in it.  Often the trick in life is that it takes longer to figure out what you need than it does to find it once you know what it is.
 
I welcome your comments and expanding this perspective.

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 8:43:54 PM   
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My first question would be this:

What about those of us who brand our subs?


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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 9:11:49 PM   
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My first question would be this:
What about those of us who brand our subs?

Great question! 
This touches the heart of what lays between the core of many Ds & Ms relationships.  I presume it is a negotiated limits D/s relationship with a mark of ownership on the submissive? 


I would imagine that from the D/s perspective you feel you own your submissive under conditional terms and limits of the relationship. 

 
From my narrow M/s perspective, it's not property if it negotiates.  It's more like a conditional employment than ownership. 
 
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Is the brand exteme role-play in D/s?  
Does the brand signify something other than owner/property... does it express love instead? 

Can a brand be a mark or milestone of ownership in M/s but mean something else in D/s?
 
I love defining absolute truths.  Looking forward to replies. 

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 9:12:39 PM   
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Somedays, I wonder if I'm real or just somebody else's dream.  And, if I'm just someone else's dream, what happens when the dreamer wakes up.  The first time I had that scary thought was when I was five years old.  Most days I try not to think about it because, ya know, the possibility that I'm a dream is just too freaking terrifying.  But, I'm pretty sure something went terribly wrong somewhere along my developmental path.   

If I don't have a clear sense of my own reality, what sense am I to make of the idea of a "real" slave?

Coming at it from a different direction:  Full ownership would include the power over life and death.  How would one prove that one has that power? One would have to kill them.  So the only "real" slave is a dead slave.  (I'm not making this shit up.  I'm just condensing Hegel.)  Of course, if the Master were to seek that proof, he'd lose that slave in finding it.  Which leads me to conclude that some questions are best not asked, lest the foundations crumble and the edifice comes tumbling down.

Just be content with the slave you have and stop worrying about if its real.

ed to add:  Ok, I've sufficiently scared myself.  I don't want to know if I'm real or not.  I really, really don't.


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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 9:20:20 PM   
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Since I can't get ten people to agree on exactly what being a girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife means I'll just assume that anyone trying to define slave, sub, master, dom, owner or otherwise for other people is simply being silly.

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 9:25:54 PM   
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What makes you qualified to say who is doing real slavery and who's doing role play slavery. And that real slaves have to give legal counsol to their doms.

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 9:39:03 PM   
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[grabs popcorn and sits back to watch the fun]

I just love philosophical discussions. Things like 'real' vs. 'role-play' can be discussed ad nauseum, and we'd all end up in the same place.


To each of us, what we are doing is 'real' - to us.

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 9:39:17 PM   
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i don't guess this is to argue or add, but just to touch on my own thoughts, and keep in mind as i make little effort to remain politically correct or worried what might piss people off to read, they're just opinions i felt like sharing.  it's more of how i came to my current standpoint than me professing "this is what it is".

in some sense i see real slavery as simply being an impossibility, if for no other reason at least that where i live there's a law where one person cannot own another even if both parties were in agreement.  let alone the word ownership, "responsibility" is a word that is hit and miss in this line of thinking.   in context of calling oneself a slave, they cannot be a slave without an owner, and a person cannot claim to be an owner without property, so i often think they need something better to identify "themselves", such as the sense a submissive and a dominant do not need one another to continue to hold their titles.  it seems enough people find that it makes sense to call yourself something like a mistress, master, dom/me, sadist, etc rather than to say or address yourself as "owner", instead of saying as a mistress i am "an" owner, but the word slave ended up not being a definition of human property, but instead became a title for that property. 

other thoughts i've had are in line that you can offer your services willingly without even so much as being related to a slave in the least, especially since that person made the choice to, something slaves aren't exactly afforded by standard definitions.  the biggest reason i used to scoff at the word was a slave acts because they are made to or have no choice, where someone simply in service of another has motivations for carrying things that isn't simply self preservation, but when i look around in a setting like bdsm "these slaves" can simply walk away any time they want because they have no obligations and are not property of anyone else, and in most sense of truth never will or can be.  so i was always thinking "these people are delusional or simply idiots living in a fantasy, this isn't being a slave", i could imagine the old woman from the wendy's commercials yelling "where's the slavery?!".

that was the mindset i had when, although i was more than aware that i was submissive as can nearly be defined, decided to as well label myself as a submissive rather than a slave, and the mindset that made me have an initial unappealing viewpoint of people that called themselves a slave.

now the fantasy can be intriguing and powerful, and there are plenty of people who like the fantasy of things like rape, or being forced into servitude, but eventually the word being "forced" being used enough eventually hit me with what felt like an obvious epiphany; they're not talking about "forced slavery" they're talking about "consentual slavery".  while maybe it might not have a legal stamp of approval, this was a concept that didn't seem like an impossibility, and sort of seemed agreeable and not very different from what i was identifying with in my views of submission, in the desire that i wanted to feel like "i'm yours".

but the whole consensual slavery idea, pretty much says pffft to the whole legalities and standard viewpoints of all it, and now the difference between a submissive and a slave started seeming like it isn't what they do, or why they do it, but just in how they view themselves.  surely the difference between a slave and a submissive can't be what they do, or what they are asked to do, as these are things governed by who will task them and the person's devotion to whatever their cause is will be the deciding factor in what they will find that they are allowing themsevles to be subjected to, and it could only be further credited to the fact a submissive is just as likely to have less limits and be more willing than a slave is.  when the word consensual is put in, i found you can also no longer simply try to pinpoint what a slave's reasons for doing something may be, as their desire to please could be just as high or higher than a submissives.  over time i just started seeing more and more similarities and feeling like i was shedding some naivety.

the word consensual also blows apart and pisses on any legality issues in concept, since although they can't legally be property, they are free to live under whatever jurisdiction and abide by whoever's rules they choose to.  it doesn't have to be legally acknowledged by the government or anyone else; if i'm free, then i'm free to surrender that freedom and oblige to my own choices in giving control to someone else without the approval of any 3rd party, and if my consent is retracted, the slavery is abolished but only the owner or the slave could make that call.  in some degree the consent still heavily makes it related to roleplay, but i think the larger degree is that it doesn't matter what it is called, it's how you feel about it.  you can't rape the willing, but can't you willingly be a slave?  of course, but still in the definition that i've come to know of slavery, even though you could willingly become one, the ability to back out didn't seem any definition of a slave.  even in the case of forced slavery, if the slave tried to escape this and attempted running away, regardless if they were caught or not, they were still someone's slave. 

i still at times kept looking at things perhaps too literally, that slaves have no rights, no right to opinion, to vote, or despite being put to work, no right to have a job as the money they earned would be their own, yet property cannot own property.  in times when i would still look at slavery being just a bit too much of purely fantasy, other concepts i gathered from people such as "consentual non-consent" only helped to make me less closed minded, and help me understand different viewpoints and why someone would choose the title slave over submissive. 

currently i live with the viewpoint that a slave and a submissive basically consist of the same makeup, but that the individual looks upon themselves and doesn't see the same reflection as one another, and the biggest reason for the difference in names has probably simply been because of how they see themselves, and how they wish to be seen by others.

i look at myself as a submissive open to the idea, and possibility of slavery, where before i would have though it might be something that could only exist in a dream, though as you can tell i have my own viewpoints as to what it would mean and what it would require.  namely i look at the slave as the laborer, and the owner as the provider.  but a slave and submissive is not differentiated by what they do, what is done to them, what they allow, or the reason for why or what they partake in, let alone their motivations in doing so, it is simply one of two words that a person will feel more association with.  where people go from there will probably and hopefully never cease to surprise.

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 9:45:30 PM   
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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 9:53:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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My first question would be this:
What about those of us who brand our subs?

Great question! 
This touches the heart of what lays between the core of many Ds & Ms relationships.  I presume it is a negotiated limits D/s relationship with a mark of ownership on the submissive? 


I would imagine that from the D/s perspective you feel you own your submissive under conditional terms and limits of the relationship. 

 
From my narrow M/s perspective, it's not property if it negotiates.  It's more like a conditional employment than ownership. 
 
-=questions=-
Is the brand exteme role-play in D/s?  
Does the brand signify something other than owner/property... does it express love instead? 

Can a brand be a mark or milestone of ownership in M/s but mean something else in D/s?
 
I love defining absolute truths.  Looking forward to replies. 


This could be quite the colorful post, once all of the hues and highlights are done.

I specified the brand because it was an activity that you mentioned.  It was used to make the point that it isn't the activities that make the difference between D/s and M/s.  I would highly doubt it is the extreme of either.

The brand specifically is an ownership brand.  It is literally "LP" with the bottom of the "L" blending into the top of the "P".  It looks very much like an old fashioned cattle brand.  (I would provide a picture here, but it would be removed by the mods.)  Still, I would not say it wasn't a sign of love, as much as ownership.  That is My interpretation, and doesn't necessarily reflect anyone else's, but it was how I viewed it.

To the last question, I can speak only for Myself.  For Me, it was a mark of ownership.  When I placed the hot metal on his skin, it didn't matter to Me if he were sub or slave.  Whether his term for Me is Mistress or m'Lady.  Whether we were M/s or D/s.  My boy was certainly branded as My property.


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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 9:57:57 PM   
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What makes you qualified to say who is doing real slavery and who's doing role play slavery. And that real slaves have to give legal counsol to their doms.

Please do not confuse 'RL slavery' with the common misnomer of "real" and "true" as often used here in this online community.  RL slavery simply signifies the presence of an M/s protocol. 
 
I presume you were referring to legal guardianship.  I do not suggest that slaves notch their ears, get branded, tattooed, where a livestock tag in their ear or give their Master's legal guardianship.  I did however suggest that the D/s community cut the M/s community some slack and acknowledge those acts as having the credibility as earmarks to RL slavery. 
 
Perhaps as a sub/switch to a "Daddy Dom" in a D/s relationship you can exert the self awreness consideration required to cut us M/s lifestylers the very slack and respect I requested in the OP?

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/8/2008 11:51:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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My first question would be this:
What about those of us who brand our subs?

Great question! 
This touches the heart of what lays between the core of many Ds & Ms relationships.  I presume it is a negotiated limits D/s relationship with a mark of ownership on the submissive? 


I would imagine that from the D/s perspective you feel you own your submissive under conditional terms and limits of the relationship. 

 
From my narrow M/s perspective, it's not property if it negotiates.  It's more like a conditional employment than ownership. 
 
-=questions=-
Is the brand exteme role-play in D/s?  
Does the brand signify something other than owner/property... does it express love instead? 

Can a brand be a mark or milestone of ownership in M/s but mean something else in D/s?
 
I love defining absolute truths.  Looking forward to replies. 

This could be quite the colorful post, once all of the hues and highlights are done.

I specified the brand because it was an activity that you mentioned.  It was used to make the point that it isn't the activities that make the difference between D/s and M/s.  I would highly doubt it is the extreme of either.

The brand specifically is an ownership brand.  It is literally "LP" with the bottom of the "L" blending into the top of the "P".  It looks very much like an old fashioned cattle brand.  (I would provide a picture here, but it would be removed by the mods.)  Still, I would not say it wasn't a sign of love, as much as ownership.  That is My interpretation, and doesn't necessarily reflect anyone else's, but it was how I viewed it.

To the last question, I can speak only for Myself.  For Me, it was a mark of ownership.  When I placed the hot metal on his skin, it didn't matter to Me if he were sub or slave.  Whether his term for Me is Mistress or m'Lady.  Whether we were M/s or D/s.  My boy was certainly branded as My property.

The brand design sounds beautiful.  Ownership in my perspective means property and perhaps by my understanding as used in the OP, you have an M/s relationship and you marked your property.  Human property is defined by Webster as slave.
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A slave, contrary to common belief, does not have to be a submissive.  However, they have to surrender control in a TPE

Inversely, a slave can be a submissive and/or submissive.  Perhaps your slave is a submissive???  That would meet the criteria of the OP milestones for RL Slavery and explain yoru statement about branding your sub, human property etc.


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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/9/2008 12:18:49 AM   
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RL of Roleplay....  if some one is happy it doesn't really mathers. What mathers is the effect it has on the participants.
(yes there are difference, but mostly those only bother to the ones not involved)

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/9/2008 1:54:36 AM   
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A slave, contrary to common belief, does not have to be a submissive.  However, they have to surrender control in a TPE


it seems that i see you saying this quite often, but i'm curious... despite you yourself calling slavery "total submission", in consentual slavery what other type of person do you really expect to completely "submit" total control both willingly, and of their own desires, besides someone who is... "submissive"?  do you give credibility to people's boastings when they are simply putting on a facade, or do you take things for what they are? 

and how is it that you speak of "slaves submitting" as often as you speak of submission and slavery having nothing to do with each other?  and do you so often also use the word surrender the rest of the time, as to further avoid the word "submit" which is an absolute synonym of surrender, sharing an identical meaning?

is it that your definition of a submissive would likely seem askewed from others, or very pronounced, rather than the very literal and highly abstract definition of "someone who submits to others" which leaves no end to possible interpretation, yet is very clear cut in saying "this is all it takes"?  i'm not saying "this is what a slave is" but isn't that what a slave does, "submits to others"?  is your understanding of a submissive just that they are people who inherently roll over rather than choose to submit, or a person who feels the urge to submit, or people who simply show a streak of repetitive similar behavior associated with others?  wouldn't they all be submissive, but none of them a definitive?

even if you want to bring the words forced and oppressed into what you're calling "slavery", in which of course a different view of acceptance would come into play, where still is this lack of submission involved in it, where is the part that they are unrelated?

you can separate the words submission and servitude, and you can separate the words submission and slavery, you can seperate the titles submissive and slave, but how you're going to pull the act of submission out of slavery, i am eager to find out.  everybody has their own feelings and definitions, but this isn't just semantics and word play.  you say you love defining absolute truths, but in such a pursuit you're going to have to look past the semantics...  but some despair in that goal should absolutely be obvious in the fact that while these words have absolute definitions, and may include absolute requirements, it is applied to an "absolute abstract". 

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/9/2008 1:58:48 AM   
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A slave, contrary to common belief, does not have to be a submissive.


what is common believe and who decides it is wrong ;)
(just curious)

well I can agree..when you have a real slave (the ones in the fields and mines of afrika) that they are not sumissive....aka forced. But in the lifestyle you have a choice...even a slave..and therefor I see them as submissive

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/9/2008 4:30:31 AM   
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I'm curious as to what you mean by legal guardianship papers. Because the only ones I know of are there to appoint a guardian should the person be incapacitated, they don't come into play until there is a medical emergency. If you're talking conservatorship, you need to prove to the court that the person is not competent and I doubt this has happened. POA? Can be revoked in a minute.

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/9/2008 5:03:19 AM   
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You would be surprised how many people do not agree on or understand the definition of a slave. 

 
What surprises me is how many people feel that their definition of "slave" (or any of the other labels we use) is the one-and-only definition.  It surprises me more how many of those people feel that they can decide which labels other people should use. 
 
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In the M/s world I know slaves that are marked, branded or have signed legal guardianship papers.  The D/s world argues that it is only “extended” role-play… 


I haven't see the d/s world arguing that.  I have seen folks who don't understand 24/7 power exchange relationships say that they're all just extended roll play, whether m/s or d/s.  There are plenty of folks out there who define slavery or 24/7 in such a way as to make those things impossible - they argue that since you can't legally own another person there is no such thing as a slave in a kink context, or that because no one can engage in a scene 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, there is no such thing as a 24/7 d/s or m/s relationship.  I don't see any reason to take such opinions seriously. 
 
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So for those seeking validation, looking to draw lines and make slavery more real, consider the “markers” in your life.  Are you branded, tattooed or marked in a permanent way?  Have you assigned guardianship?

 
It seems to me that those seeking validation and looking to draw lines should ask themselves why they feel this is important.  Does it really matter what folks outside your relationship think about what you're doing?  Do you think that people who don't see things the way you do are going to care where you draw lines?  Marks and paperwork aren't going to make one's slavery more real.  They're symbols and expressions, they aren't what being a slave is about.
 

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/9/2008 5:27:11 AM   
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In the M/s world I know slaves that are marked, branded or have signed legal guardianship papers.  The D/s world argues that it is only “extended” role-play…  that is a hard comment to contradict because from that point of view, "extended" could also apply to the 8 years of college that allows people to legally “play doctor” too.   So where does the line between a real slave and role-play get drawn?  To me, the first indicator between role play and “living” something is exactly that.  Do you want to “play” doctor for the weekend or do you want to “be” a doctor as your chosen profession? 
 

The difference is that a "doctor" is an entity that has been created by society and is objectively "real". It is a position and identity that is recognized by the mass majority and we have official qualifying bodies that determine who is and who is not a doctor.

To my knowledge, no such organization or body exists for slaves and the identity of being a slave is not one that is legally recognized by society.

It's cool if you and your friends want to get together and come up with qualifying standards to determine whether someone does or does not qualify as a slave. Personally, if you ask me, I find that kind of stuff to be a bit annoying and pretentious and mostly driven by a desire to be "more special" than other people.

However, at the end of the day, we have a word for these roles, positions and identities that are not recognized by the society that we live in.

It's called "role-playing".
 
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I say we use the same lines that society uses to determine real doctors, their badge, symbol, sheepskin or whatever.  That would mean legal guardianship or permanent ownership markings is paramount to "real" ownership.  I also think that 8 years service is equal to a degree. 
 

The problem is that you are not society, you have no legal power, and you have no authority granted by the ruling body of this society to determine the qualifying standards for a "slave" or the power to make "slave" a recognized part of this society.

So...at the end of the day...you are just some guy on the Internet who is making up standards to make his role-playing more "real" then everyone else's.

I think the determining factor for real slavery is the wearing of bright clown hair and a bright red clown nose. This is the M/S protocol that determines who is and who is not "real" vs "role-playing".

Now...let's figure out which one of us has more authority over this subject given that we both meet the same criteria of being guys on the Internet with no official power over this subject.

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So for those seeking validation, looking to draw lines and make slavery more real, consider the “markers” in your life.  Are you branded, tattooed or marked in a permanent way?  Have you assigned guardianship?

 
Validation from who? From you? Some guy on the Internet who has come here to set the standards for who is "real" and who isn't "role-playing"?
 
That's kind of arrogant, don't you think?
 

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/9/2008 6:22:03 AM   
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I think the more interesting question to ask is why does this question, in various and sundry forms, keep being asked by various individuals.  Is it just people trying to feel what they do is more special?  Or people seeking to validate what they are doing as being "real" or "legitimate", perhaps because so many are used to having society at large validate them?  Is it just a desire for understanding, to sort out who is who and what is what... and where individuals fit in the scheme of things?

This sort of question gets asked repeatedly by all types, dominants, submissives, new and not so new.  The arguments over the "difference" between a slave vs a submissive go on and on.  Less frequently you see the differences between a dominant and a master/mistress debated... or more particularly who has the right to call themselves a master.  There are some peculiar and interesting patterns in all that if you step back and look at it.  Some I have noticed include...

Someone calling themselves a submissive or dominant is rarely challenged.
Someone calling themselves a Mistress is not often questioned, unless they ask for tribute.
Someone calling themselves a Master is often questioned or challenged, as are what qualifies them as such or who has the "right" to call themselves such.
Someone calling themselves a slave is sometimes questioned or challenged, as is what qualifies them as such and what defines "slavery" as opposed to, in contract to or compared to historical examples of slavery.
Whether slavery in the lifestyle sense is compared to or contrasted against historical examples seems to vary depending on whether said lifestyle is being defended on moral/ethical grounds (contrasted) or justified as a valid lifestyle (comparitive).

Overall there seems to be a subtext to it all... a sort of communal "belief" that while almost anyone can be a submissive or dominant, that being a slave or master is somehow separate and "special".  That being a slave somehow represents greater devotion and dedication, while being a master is a title that must somehow be earned or otherwise awarded.  Yet when these things are bluntly spelled out, they are often decried as not being the case... which while no doubt true for some individuals, seems to ignore the repetitive pattern of questions and debates that underscore the aforementioned "unconscious" belief.

Why do "we" (as a community, a forum, and other various gathered groupings) seem to care so much what someone calls themself?  Be it master or mistress or dom or domme or sub or subbie or babygirl or slave or pet or dog?  The fact that it is so often debated indicates that on some level, and for many, it very much does matter... but how often have we really considered why it matters?  What is really at issue here?  What beliefs or ideals are we not acknowledging or examining?

Why do we care?

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RE: -=RL Slavery vs Role-play Slavery=- - 4/9/2008 6:24:50 AM   
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No lifestyle slave will ever be true property .... they can consent to stay but can also walk away whenever they choose and you have no say or legal rights in that matter should they  choose to leave you , that is one area of consentual slavery that you as a master will never have control over, ..therefore true legal consentual slavery is impossible because you cannot force them to stay in bond to you ... so it boils down to roleplay

heck even boyfriends/girlfriend will get tatoos to represent a union between them so as a  it does not mean ownership or mean they have a TPE relationship and as Celeste pointed out ..you cannot have legal guardianship over a minor or an adult who is mentally incapacitated but not a slave.   So neither of your qualifiers can be used as proof of lifestyle  slaves

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