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ORIGINAL: khem

I also want to add that you might be naturally very dominant, but with a girl like you've got, you can help but be encouraged in a way that is above and beyond.  

And here I thought I could have one serious conversation about group sex, BDSM, domination, and picking up hot girls without having anyone get turned on

I agree, when there's an organic growth to the sexuality of a relationship, it can be a beautiful thing.  I'm more or less addressing the issue of when, in an already established and committed relationship, one of the partners decides to change the rules.  It happens; people grow and change, certainly, and that needs to be accounted for, but sticking feathers up your partner's butt doesn't make them a chicken.

Understandably, I think this does derive from male submissives vastly outnumbering (self-identified) female dominants.  When I was in Japan in the Marines, there were 10 males who spoke English to every 1 female.  Learning Japanese quickly reduced those odds to a 1 to 1 ratio; it's far easier to land a date if you learn the language. 

The point I'm driving at, is why would a male submissive try to 'convert' a woman into a female dominant, instead of seeking out a partner who is generally compatible in other ways, and with a dominant personality to begin with.  In *that* kind of situation, when the woman is attracted to the man on other levels, like you, she'll naturally have her dominant (or submissive depending on which side of the fence) tendencies amped. 

And yeah, char can bring the dominant out in the meekest mouse, methinks

Stephan

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

Do you consider a woman who dominates her husband simply because he expects her to dominate him to be the same as a woman who dominates him naturally?

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

This seems to fit very snugly with what I see amongst male cuckhold situations; the man in question desires to see his wife pleased,

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

This seems to fit very snugly with what I see amongst male cuckhold situations; the man in question desires to see his wife pleased,

This is a misconception and needs to be corrected.  From the 20+ cuckolds whom I have talked to, overwhelmingly most are driven by their own fetish rather than by a need to please -- and sometimes at the expense of the woman's personhood.  As expressed by many, it's an ugly thing.  (blows kisses to the yummy, well-intentioned cuckolds)

As to a woman doing certain acts at the behest of her partner, that cannot, by definition, be domination.  (It might be topping.)  Domination is about power and intent; the acts are window dressing.  If I want my partner to clean the bathroom (naked or otherwise), and he whinges and pesters until I beat his ass instead, is that an act of domination on my part?  I don't bloody think so.

MSS

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By the lesser-known namesake of masochism, this is an oddly chaste novel of fetishism, female domination, bitterness, obsession and pain play. Indeed, I wonder if this book somehow influenced laws that have restricted sadomasochistic practices from being filmed in combination with more commonplace sexual practices. Masoch's tale of young Severin convincing a self-assured woman -- Wanda -- to dress as he pleased and allow him to worship her as her slave seems to be pretty much the basis of most of the common femme domme initial online interactions with potential slaves. Unlike deSade's "take because you can / the weak consent because they allow themselves to stay weak" world of Libertinism, the foundation of Masoch's world seems to be recreating a consenting woman into his own image of a goddess -- not hers. At the end of the novel, Masoch makes a strange turn in commenting that he feels that relationships like Severin's and Wanda's will no longer be necessary once society truly treats women as equals.

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ORIGINAL: Stephann
Do you consider a woman who dominates her husband simply because he expects her to dominate him to be the same as a woman who dominates him naturally?