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What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 10:48:52 AM

chamberqueen

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I have been tasked with learning more about slavery from other slaves to make me a better one. I'm not looking for a debate about what a slave is, but for qualities or actions that make a slave a good one.

I know that slaves still think and feel, act respectfully, and are pleased to do their duties. I know that it is still their job to communicate well within the limits that they are given and it is still their right to use a safe word when they feel it is necessary.

Besides these common things, I would love to hear what makes you good at serving. (Dominants are welcome to share their viewpoints.)

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 10:50:24 AM

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No one can really answer that for you. What makes me good at serving my owner may be rotten for yours.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 10:52:52 AM

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I apologize if I asked incorrectly. I'm not asking what will make ME a good slave - I'm asking what people do that makes them feel like THEY are good slaves.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 10:55:23 AM

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I do what he wants ultimately - even if he doesn't like it in the short-term. Such as reminding him that he needs to get off the computer because it's time to do X.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 11:05:39 AM

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Quick reply:

Having an owner who is good at keeping me living as his slave, good at bringing about obedience to his will and in a nutshell is very good at both dominating and managing me.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 11:06:05 AM

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quote:

...what people do that makes them feel like THEY are good slaves...

what this slave DOES, that makes her feel that she is a good slave:

obey Master.

put Our relationship FIRST, before anything or anyone else.

what this slave IS, that makes her feel that she is good slave material:

a person with a lack of desire to call any shots, coupled with an inability to effectively dominate another individual.

an individual with a submissive personality, a preference for being the submissive part of a D/s relationship as well as a sexual submissive(bottom).

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 11:06:56 AM

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i have said before that i feel my job is to adore him, to obey him, and to make his life easier.

we don't live together, so that means i consider planning my evening activities around when he is available (whenever possible).

when we are to see each other, i make sure dinner is taken care of, either by picking something up on my way there or by preparing and serving it once i arrive.

i do my best to obey his commands without hesitation or question-other than to clarify if i haven't understood his order. on an occasion where i feel i cannot comply, i ask permission to speak freely about the issue without immediately telling him no. (that's not a good idea anyway!)

basically, even when he requires nothing of me, i try to stay at the ready. i can't tell you how many times we'll just be 'hanging out' at his house, lazing on the couch, and he'll order me to get him something out of the blue. i used to balk at this-but now i just get up with a 'yes Sir' and a smile on my face.

i try to make it all about him because it can so easily turn into the 'Me Me Me!!' show. i am very emotionally sensitive about certain things-and sometimes i COMPLETELY misread him, so i also do my best to keep that in check. and for me, focusing on him makes the insecurities and fears disappear.

that's how it works for me, anyway. YMMV. (your mileage may vary, for those who aren't up on the acronyms!)

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 11:19:11 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rawkmehard

YMMV. (your mileage may vary, for those who aren't up on the acronyms!)

Thanks for that lol! i was wondering.....

Anyhoo... Master appreciates my opinion and my help when they are wanted/needed. i kneel at His feet and follow His orders, even in absence, at all times. i am not all "yes sir, no sir" when i feel it is inappropriate ie sometimes Master needs some downtime from being my Dom and needs to be my boyfriend/partner. i am open and available at all times, even when asleep, or in pain - i am His to use as He sees fit and it fills me with joy when He excercises this right!

That is just the stuff i can put my finger on...hope it helps?

Gabrielle x

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 11:19:26 AM

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quote:

I'm asking what people do that makes them feel like THEY are good slaves.

He does

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 11:24:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tahlly
He does

Surely that should go without saying, i think the OP was asking for something more specific than that....

Gabrielle

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 12:12:34 PM

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Beyond my very submissive nature, which makes me good at serving, obeying and making him happy, our relationship also involves my willingness to grow and learn and to be open to expanding my role. Master has tons of experience when compared to mine, so while I am very obedient at this moment, I am also more than willing to learn what further things I can do to serve. Mindset has a lot to do with this. While I have no idea what he may have in store for the future, I do know that I will do whatever it is that I can to meet his new expectations.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 12:21:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

I apologize if I asked incorrectly. I'm not asking what will make ME a good slave - I'm asking what people do that makes them feel like THEY are good slaves.

i don't have to feel ...i am (a good submissive)

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 12:54:08 PM

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Well i am not a slave i am a sub but will add a subs pov. What makes me a good sub is seeing to Masters needs, whether he want a drink, back rub, sexual service. Anything i can do to decrease his stress level. I also obey him and try to make him laugh.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 12:58:45 PM

TwistedLeather

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i'm not a slave these days, i'm my Owner's loyal and faithful pet. By my definitions, something else entirely and a result of what's happened in my life. Still, i'm a good girl because i'm happy when i know and feel that i've made him happy. But when i was a slave, what made me good at being one wasn't just simply my submissive nature. It was my willingness to put aside my own desires to grant him his. i was his slave because i discarded my limits and boundaries to give him what he wanted. i would go over and beyond what was expected of me to suprise him, or to make him smile and laugh. i was always going out of my way to do little things for him to show him that i was always thinking about him, and that i was his un-ending servant. i didn't wait for a command to relax him, or do something i knew he'd like. There was very little i would have denied my Master, like it or not.

Many of those things i'll still do today for my Owner. But it's just how i am.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 2:05:53 PM

metalmiss

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i have been ordered to read and contribute to this post by my Master.. It is a subject i have difficulty trying to find the words to answer, so please bear with me as my original, disallowed reply was "i am because He says i am.."

What makes me a good slave?

Well.. excluding the 'obvious' which you have already mentioned..

i am enthusiastic in my day to day life - excluding mornings (j/k) and my deep-seated need to please Him adds to this.. i apply this to every area of my life, no matter what i am doing.

i always behave in a manner that He would find acceptable regardless of His presence at that moment, keeping in mind that my actions, especially when around other
members of Our community, reflect directly on Him.
Excellent manners & genuine politeness never cost anything.

i pay a great amount of attention to detail in everything that i do, especially within the tasks i perform directly for Him or for His benefit, which comes from the understanding that the smallest things in life are always the most important.

No matter what is happening within my life my Master is always at the forefront of my mind, i always put Him first, no matter what.. Which to some out there might seem a silly or stupid thing to say, but i mean it within a real life context.. If something serious was to happen in my life, that would take priority as far as what i was doing is concerned, but my Master would be my first port of call for support, advice & comfort.. He is the first person i would turn to no matter what, even if it was something that i found hurtful or difficult to discuss.

Which brings me to my final point of what makes me a good slave..
my openness.. i am open to Him in all senses of the word and at all times.. However, i use it now in the sense of emotional, psychological & personal openness.. i never hesistate to tell Him what i am thinking, whether i consider that it concerns/is likely to interest Him or not.. In submitting myself to Him i understand that i gave up any right to personal space, both inside of my head and out.
Being open to my Master is sometimes difficult, for example if i have done something or behaved in a manner i think He might disapprove of and i am hesitant to tell Him, but to be closed to Him in any sense would be even worse.. Only by my being completely open to Him in all ways can He truely know the girl He owns.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 2:10:18 PM

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My Owner says I am a good slave. I dont think there is any criteria for what makes me a good slave, but She is happy wth me, and so I am a good slave.
How I act , were I in her other boy Angel's position would make me a terrible slave. She expects something completely different from him and gets it. And it is unthinkable for me to act his way, actually its the stuff of nightmares for me.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 2:30:37 PM

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what makes me a good slave? ((shrugs)) I never claimed to be a good slave.

MS

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 3:09:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chamberqueen
I would love to hear what makes you good at serving.

My chocolates. Will post pics later, if all works out.

And my love of being my Domina's playtoy.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 3:42:42 PM

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A couple of things she missed, which to Me are vital...... no matter what I require her to do, wether she likes/enjoys it or not, wether she detests it or is scared of it, wether she finds it difficult to do.... she gives it 100% effort. What 100% is maybe different today than it was yesterday for many reasons, but she puts her all into whatever I have told her to do.

she also understands that obedience is not enough. Going through the motions, doing something grudgingly is not enough. Attitude counts for much and if I have her do something then she is doing that for Me and even if she gets nothing else from it, the fact that it is FOR Me should give her something positive to focus on no matter how hard it may be.

she may lack confidence in herself sometimes, I know she found this thread hard to answer.... but *I* am well pleased with My girl and am proud to Own her.

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RE: What makes you a good slave? - 4/11/2008 4:31:48 PM

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Good question, and there's no possible way I can include them all:

Good working knowledge of pop culture and classical cinema, theater, music and literature.

Excellent background in debate and contextualizing, excellent research skills.

Quick learner, follows directions well

Fastidious organizer, excellent relational memory and trivialist

Offline friendships and contacts to the scene on many levels

Young and in fairly good physical condition, no diseases

Sexually educated and experienced

Computer literate with moderate level of experience in average office programs and database management

No children or sick relatives currently needing daily attending

Independent means of transportation

Excellent shopping and styling skills

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