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Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 12:07:17 AM   
MissChicane


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Status: offline 		For those of you Doms/Masters/PYL out there - do you talk with your subs/slaves/pyl on a daily basis? I just started a relationship with a girl - and I'm really into her, but I hardly get to talk to her...

So how do all your online relationships go?
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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 12:23:34 AM   
Kasia


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ORIGINAL: MissChicane

For those of you Doms/Masters/PYL out there - do you talk with your subs/slaves/pyl on a daily basis? I just started a relationship with a girl - and I'm really into her, but I hardly get to talk to her...

So how do all your online relationships go?

My online relationships are just that - online relationships, meaning I dont at least take them very seriously. I consider them to be sort of friendship on casual base.
If you just started to know someone and hardly get to talk with her, I woudnt call that relationship at all.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 12:24:53 AM   
SirSix72


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Status: offline 		Cant really say I do the online thing,,,and I am poly,,,,,,,I have tried the log distance thing before but how can you Master someone online? The online experience is for chatting and finding those that you seek the real enjoyment is the real time experience,,,,,,

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 12:28:49 AM   
MissChicane


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Status: offline 		I talk to her on the phone sometimes... she's coming down here pretty soon.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 12:39:24 AM   
SirSix72


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Status: offline 		thats a good start,,but solid plans and the time to build trust that she is going to deliver herself is the prize you are after,,,,,,Im not trying to be pesimist but after a decade at this there have been just a small few that actually delivered themselves and a very large group that didnt,,,,even the ones that did deliver decided a couple of months into it that this wasnt for them,,,,,,so weigh your options carefully and the making of soild plans to meet will usually let you know if the opposite party is a serious as you are,,,I dont speak for everyone but I do speak from my experiences



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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 1:28:16 AM   
Kasia


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Status: offline 		I can too speak only from my own experience - I met my husband online and we live happily so far for the last 4 years.
So, dont get me wrong, I am not saying that online started relationships dont work. Its just that they work too rare based on lot of things. First, you have to be honest and trusting but still with your both legs on the ground and not too expecting. And I do think it takes a bit of personal luck to find someone special that way.

I did meet my man online, but I had no relationship with him online - I just met him, found out he interests me, and the very soon next step for me was to meet him in real and see if things work out for us. After 10 days of chatting I decided and realised. For some it may last longer (I am very expeditive once I decide and I decide fast), but not too long.

Internet is just a medium to meet people through, but not to maintain any serious relationships. Just my opinion.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 1:37:49 AM   
Padriag


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ORIGINAL: MissChicane

So how do all your online relationships go?

Unfortunately they often don't go very well. My experience has been that the majority of people I meet online are only really interested in online. They're using online as a way to explore ideas and live out fantasies vicariously without having to take any real risks or actually get involved. Some of those who do so do eventually make the leap into real life, but predicting when that will happen is nearly impossible. There are some who have emotional and/or psychological problems and at the first sign of these my advice is to back off an be just a friend.

Still, there are some who meet through the internet and go on to have wonderful relationships in person. But my experience here has been that those who will do so don't remain an online relationship very long... that is, they move to real life as soon as circumstances permit. That said, if someone says they want a real relationship but continuely resists visiting, meeting, and establishing other forms of contact... be very wary.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 4:45:13 AM   
preciousflower


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Status: offline 		maybe it's just been the places i've met the people.....or maybe it's just the way NC men are, but the few that i've met in r/t really have no clue how to conduct a relationship. thus, i've ventured into trying an online relationship with someOne from a different state. so far, things are going great and there are plans in the works of meeting in r/t.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 5:20:26 AM   
JohnWarren


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ORIGINAL: preciousflower

maybe it's just been the places i've met the people.....or maybe it's just the way NC men are, but the few that i've met in r/t really have no clue how to conduct a relationship. thus, i've ventured into trying an online relationship with someOne from a different state. so far, things are going great and there are plans in the works of meeting in r/t.


If you are anywhere near Charlotte, check out CapeX. Libby and I have lectured there and have found them to be a great group. We have several play partners who are members.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 5:34:01 AM   
Padriag


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ORIGINAL: preciousflower

maybe it's just been the places i've met the people.....or maybe it's just the way NC men are, but the few that i've met in r/t really have no clue how to conduct a relationship. thus, i've ventured into trying an online relationship with someOne from a different state. so far, things are going great and there are plans in the works of meeting in r/t.

LOL Precious... so you're saying you're up to your armpits in rednecks too? Ah well, at least we've got a great zoo.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 5:40:39 AM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: Padriag
LOL Precious... so you're saying you're up to your armpits in rednecks too? Ah well, at least we've got a great zoo.


A mere side show old chap, now if you want to experience the real Redneck Zoo come to "Sunny Queensland, beautifull one day, perfect the next". We are the Redneck capital of the World.. Shesh less that 150 km north of here they even grow an extra heas (and smoke head too)........ Chuckles


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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 5:52:14 AM   
Padriag


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Status: offline 		If I ever get the chance to come down there I might just take you up on that. However, the zoo I referred to is the NC Zoo in Asheboro which is quite near to where both Precious and I live. Its one of the largest zoo's in the world and has an ongoing rivalry with the San Diego Zoo for largest zoo in the US. Its a lot of fun to visit, one of my favorite things to do, but you better plan to spend an entire day with it because with over 5 miles of trails and exhibits it takes a full day to see it all. You can find out more about it here...
NC Zoo
An hey, they just started adding the new Australia exhibits too!

But I digress off topic...

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 6:07:25 AM   
preciousflower


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Status: offline 		maybe they'll add a Redneck exhibit........i know of a few that i'd donate to the cause, Padraig!


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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 8:37:21 AM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		i have never had an online relationship.i prefer using the medium for a chance to get to know someone before deciding to take it to the phone and then meeting in person.
Online submission is not for me but it may work for others.Just a personal preference.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 12:29:39 PM   
sweetpettjenny


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Status: offline 		i find that online is most often people who are living out fantasies at the expense of those who are looking for more

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 4:48:47 PM   
preciousflower


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Status: offline 		although Oour relationship is starting online, Wwe both want much more. Wwe talk on the phone often and when the time is right will meet r/t. not all of Uus that begin an online relationship are in it just to live out a fantasy......if all i wanted was to "play" at being a submissive for a little while, i'd "borrow" my friend's Master for a few hours and live out a fantasy that way.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/8/2005 5:19:35 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		and i thought i had the claim to redneck capital

quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear


quote:

ORIGINAL: Padriag
LOL Precious... so you're saying you're up to your armpits in rednecks too? Ah well, at least we've got a great zoo.


A mere side show old chap, now if you want to experience the real Redneck Zoo come to "Sunny Queensland, beautifull one day, perfect the next". We are the Redneck capital of the World.. Shesh less that 150 km north of here they even grow an extra heas (and smoke head too)........ Chuckles




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RE: Online Relationships - 10/9/2005 8:06:19 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		It’s still funny to me that right when I decided to stop playing with men online because of how unfulfilling it was I met my Sir. I’m his first cyber romance and he hates it. We want real life and are working fast to get us there.

We don’t do much D/s stuff online. Sure, I consider him my Daddy/Dom and we do have some wonderful times on the phone and chatting. But, our main goal is working to get to real life and in that process we are learning so much about each other and what we want. We talk everyday through IM, emails and the phone. We both work at home so we are fortunate that we have quite a bit of time to be with each other. But, it’s never enough. I want to touch him and feel his hands on me. Cyber love can be a wonderful way to meet someone, but it sure doesn’t come close to being together in the flesh.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/9/2005 9:09:17 PM   
Soulhuntre


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissChicane
So how do all your online relationships go?


I know many people in long distance (because whether it is online, phone or letters it is all the same) who are doign very well. Of the long term groups I knwo in BDSM 9some couples, some poly families) about 75% of them are the result of online meetings or extensive online courtships.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/9/2005 9:25:58 PM   
kimmypuss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Padriag


quote:

to explore ideas and live out fantasies vicariously without having to take any real risks or actually get involved.


...physically.

Mentally - it's still risky, and involved. And as some have already indicated - a stepping stone.




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