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RE: Online Relationships - 10/13/2005 4:46:27 PM

sirrand

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ORIGINAL: MissChicane

For those of you Doms/Masters/PYL out there - do you talk with your subs/slaves/pyl on a daily basis? I just started a relationship with a girl - and I'm really into her, but I hardly get to talk to her...

So how do all your online relationships go?

Well, I have a few sub/slaves that I Hypno Dom/Master online but it takes a lot of time. When they are at hand the training goes very well, but online it is some times hard to come up with the best punishment. If they have been Hypnoed then I can deny orgasm with a suggestion, but I keep them on the edge for days if they have been very bad. That makes them very nice after that. If they have mic and/or cam then you can observe their progress.

Lots of times my online sub/slaves are just friends who need advise, comfort, or inspiration. As all friends they don’t always write but when they do I am very glad to respond if I am in a position too.

My advice to you is ‘No expectations, No disappointments.’ Yet you mustn’t forget that rest of that is ‘No desire, No rewards.’ If you like her then email her and say so. Some sub/slaves can be shy and insecure. They also seem to have an inordinate amount of drama in their lives. That is sometimes the reason why they
wish the ordered existence of a Dom/Master. I hope this answered your question from my perspective.

Obedience is bless for the one who serves.
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RE: Online Relationships - 10/28/2005 2:52:07 PM

OrlandoMars

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Here's the thing about online relationships in my experience - depending on the value you put on the relationship they can be way more work then a rt relationship. Any relationship tends towards chaos if its left unattended to, btu with rt relationships, you have body language and human contact to counteract that. That context is lacking with online so you have to work hard to compensate (think about how many times you have seen an email or a post in uppercase and thought, why is that person shouting?). Now while cams, phone, IM etc can help, it is difficult to compensate for the lack of human contact that we take so much for granted. That is not to say that online relationships can't be successful, they can, but not if you're not both willing to work at it. I was in a LTR for four years with a beautiful woman that lived in Texas, and we used to talk on the phone at least once a day and usually more often. We would also email each other, IM and would see each other every couple of months. The great thing was that when we did emet, we cherished every single minute and never took it for granted because we knew that every single minute was precious.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/28/2005 3:23:49 PM

felineone

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I started a relationship online before going to r/l.
There were lots of things we did to feel close to each other.
I woke each day to His voice, and it was the last thing i heard before going to sleep.
We shopped together online. (that's lots of fun for chosing an outfit for a meet!)
The webcam.( enough said about that! ;)
We'd watch football games, other shows together, just hang out on the phone.
(unlimited min/long distance is crucial, lol)

There were very little online only conversations after the first few. For instance, when we were shopping online, we'd have the phone too, and talk about what we were seeing.

We didn't have camera phones then, but i imagine they would be great for a long distance relationship as well.

good luck,

~feline~

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/29/2005 8:11:28 AM

HdCoreMaster

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I see the "online"part as just a convenient way to get to know someone. keeping in mind that there is always a chance they could be entirely different alltogether.

I, for my part, do not engage in "online" relationships.

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RE: Online Relationships - 10/29/2005 1:43:50 PM

Littlepita

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ORIGINAL: felineone

We shopped together online. (that's lots of fun for chosing an outfit for a meet!)

We do lots of shopping together too. He is buying my wardrobe for our trip away together because I have lost a bunch of weight and he wants me in things he likes. But, he is also very considerate to keep within my style too. Good for me he has wonderful taste.

We plan to live together so we also have fun shopping and talking about our decorating plans. It will be a brand new start for us both and starting from scratch is going to be so much fun!

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RE: Online Relationships - 11/2/2005 8:06:49 PM

Jacques1000

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Padraig, Iron is right about Queensland. Ironically named though, that state.