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RE: What a sub/slave sees in a Mistress..... - 4/14/2008 10:49:58 PM

MistressScarlot

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I've always said that submission is a path of courage. It's really true.
If the right Mistress comes along, she'll inspire this from you...from the inside out, and it won't be just about the lust. (But that'll be good too!)

There is a boy who has been mine for 11 years. He is the most precious thing to me, he's created that by being my utter slave. I only get happier...and he only gets happier...and that's when you know it works. I sometimes train other boys, but find that many...lack the courage to give over, depending on how much they really deeply want it. That want has to overwhelm the...desire to fit into the vanilla world. That need to fit in is very strong in some. And some struggle with the idea that a M/s relationship isn't "real".

I say it's as real as you make it.

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RE: What a sub/slave sees in a Mistress..... - 4/15/2008 7:39:24 AM

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There is something about a woman who KNOWS I want to be her whipped little puppy, but also knows that Im afraid to be. Afraid because of years of conditioning, society's expectations, and even personal expectations. How far am I willing to go...would I ever let her break me? what if I couldnt help it? What if she drove me to the brink of insane lust and stripped away all my defenses and then gave me that choice......... too leave or be Hers....could I resist...doubt it, lol. Being submissive for short periods of time isnt difficult, its that long term surrender.......that TRUE surrender that both excites and terrifies a sub.

so in the end....we are adrenaline junkies looking to push the envelope to that ultimate goal....and what happens if we ever get there? I guess thats why Im here.

Great, great question. One of the best on this site so far in my opinion. The responses from the other gentlemen are great as well. Thanks to them as well.

My response? I don't want to be laying in bed when I'm hours or days from dying and say to myself, "I wish I would have had the courage to accept my true desires". I'm more afraid of that than anything else. What if we didn't experience the insane lust? Am I still in love with women from my past? Yes. Am I in lust with them any longer? No. Did I suffer in the breakups? Very much so. It was all worth it.

Here's the scenario. You meet a woman. She seems perfect. Maybe too perfect. You fall in love with her. She loves you as well. She wants you to submit to her. REALLY. Asking you to really reach down inside of yourself. Completely vulnerable to her in all ways. In particular, emotionally. You choose to open up knowing that there is a chance that she'll change her mind/heart in the future, leaving you, broken, empty, devastated. Do you take the chance or take the safe route?

In my opinion here's the math. I have insanity mixed with ectasy in one hand and regret mixed with fear in the other hand. The red pill or the blue pill?

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RE: What a sub/slave sees in a Mistress..... - 4/16/2008 5:17:27 AM

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This is an excellent thread and i agree with most of the posters here.I would probably be more frightened than anyone here,not because of inexperience but because i have enough hard limits to crimp a Dominna's style.I know a Domina is supposed to respect our hard limits but what if one of the limits is something she loves to do??That would be taking away from her and a certain activity she may be very well passionate about.I believe any Domina would respect the limits but in the long run,most likely she would be bored with me.But in my opinion,the focus should not be on play but instead on how well a boy is in service.I truly believe most Dominas would love to have a boy that serves their every need in service and would be willing to forego a few things in play knowing that at the end of the day,both are so much in love and desire each other and that a high level of reliance is not so much expected as it would already be a huge part of the dynamic.I have believed all my life that sometimes,a submissive doesn't really need the play factor as much as a warm hug and soft kisses of appreciation.I might be a tad too romantic for some,but that is fine.I will continue on with that particular mantra until i find someone.

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