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sunshinemiss -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/12/2008 8:08:38 PM)
You know it's a funny thing... The Korean men are going to the Phillipines for wives too.... I think it's cause they are allowed so few children that girl babies are just ... ummm fewer? So now there is an abundance of men here, and they need wives. Very common. I don't understand it, but then I'm 42 and not married. Can I go to the Phillipines and get a husband?

xxblushesxx -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/12/2008 8:30:41 PM)
Do you want to?

sunshinemiss -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/12/2008 8:54:27 PM)
Not really darling...not really.

KRANWEST -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/12/2008 9:08:28 PM)
I don't blame you for not wanting to go. I hear that it's MIGHTY easy to get snatched up and sold into sexual slavery in those parts. Then again, for some folks, that could also be an incentive for buying the ticket.

PanthersMom -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/12/2008 9:56:12 PM)
eh, so your friend's a virgin in his mid 20's. he's a rare find. hubby was when we met when he was 29. his idea had been to wait for marriage. nothing wrong with that. the way things are these days you'd need to quarantine a 10 yr old if you wanted a virgin partner, something like those sick bastards in texas did. i just happened to get lucky and meet a man who had higher moral standards than many others i'd met. PM

Sundowner -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 9:19:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KRANWEST ... Basically, he’s a twenty-five year old virgin, deluded enough to think that some pretty young thing is going to be ABSOLUTELY CAPTIVATED…..SWEPT AWAY by his “special” qualities One of my staff was like this - a really nice bloke, but inept with girls. Like you, I'd even thought of fixing him up with a sexy commercial deal just to give him confidence. I felt so sorry for him and it looked as if he'd never get there - like Lawrence. But he did. It took time, about 5 years, but eventually he met a really great girl (no morbidly obese, ECW-watching, mouth-breather tail she) and now, a couple of years later, they're to be married next year and bless him, he's fixing the wedding in romantic Italy! So it can happen, without help.

KRANWEST -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 9:29:30 AM)
Maybe he'll prove me wrong in the end, Sundowner.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 9:47:28 AM)
quote: eh, so your friend's a virgin in his mid 20's. men cant be virgins because they masturbate too much! [8\|][8\|]

DesFIP -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 10:01:44 AM)
So be honest with him if he's a real friend. Tell him that he has difficulty connecting socially and acting appropriately socially. And then tell him it's fixable. Because it is. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. A few years learning social behavior that he didn't learn at a younger age, and more interaction to practice these new skills, and he won't have these problems anymore.

KRANWEST -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 10:41:21 AM)
It's good to know that there are resources meant to assist people, like Lawrence, who suffer from an inability to effectively and successfully socialize. At times, my own personal fear is that people like Lawrence could possibly end up killing themselves or going "postal" at work because of some knawing feeling of alienation from "the crowd". For the most part, I blame technology and shitty, latch-key parenting. Without the proper catalyst, some kids might think that adopting basic socialization skills is unnecessary......obsolete, even. "Gosh.....who needs real friends when I've got, like, over sixty pals on Facebook!?" I can't tell you how many young men (males seem to fall into this vicious pattern more than females) I know, that spend seven and eight hours a day playing War-Craft, and watching "anime" films, instead of taking neighborhood jogs, or asking girls (or guys) out on dates. The popularity of the Internet is just going to exacerbate the problem. Soon enough, flesh and blood sexuality will fade into quaint desuetude, and we'll all just get our "jollies" through Demolition-Man style, "virtual-sex helmets." Ha! What a bleak, horrible future! Call me a bit of a Neo-Luddite, but if we did away with the internet and all "non-edifying" t.v. programming, our nation's obesity epidemic would also plummet.

DesFIP -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 12:26:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KRANWEST It's good to know that there are resources meant to assist people, like Lawrence, who suffer from an inability to effectively and successfully socialize. At times, my own personal fear is that people like Lawrence could possibly end up killing themselves or going "postal" at work because of some knawing feeling of alienation from "the crowd". For the most part, I blame technology and shitty, latch-key parenting. Without the proper catalyst, some kids might think that adopting basic socialization skills is unnecessary......obsolete, even. "Gosh.....who needs real friends when I've got, like, over sixty pals on Facebook!?" I can't tell you how many young men (males seem to fall into this vicious pattern more than females) I know, that spend seven and eight hours a day playing War-Craft, and watching "anime" films, instead of taking neighborhood jogs, or asking girls (or guys) out on dates. Don't blame the mothers. Do blame fathers who abandon their kids. Men learn how to relate to other men and to women by modeling themselves on their fathers. No father in the picture, no way to learn this if you're not really good at picking up unspoken cues. I encouraged my son to make friends with boys who had involved fathers. And I asked those men to please correct him and make him do chores with their own sons. These days he has The Man to model on, but if I hadn't asked all the good men I know to please include him, then he might be behind also. Additionally, Aspergers, high functioning autism, undiagnosed and untreated learning disabilities, untreated ADD, untreated mood disorders etc all can play a role. Boys like this gravitate to video games and online because they can't connect in person, the ones who can connect in person do some online, some gaming in private rooms against friends, some time playing sports, some time with their girlfriends. They're well balanced. The misfits who aren't told how and where to get help, and what help is needed, are the ones who give up and live online in their mother's basement.

thornhappy -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 12:27:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KRANWEST For the most part, I blame technology and shitty, latch-key parenting. Without the proper catalyst, some kids might think that adopting basic socialization skills is unnecessary......obsolete, even. "Gosh.....who needs real friends when I've got, like, over sixty pals on Facebook!?" The popularity of the Internet is just going to exacerbate the problem. Soon enough, flesh and blood sexuality will fade into quaint desuetude, and we'll all just get our "jollies" through Demolition-Man style, "virtual-sex helmets." Ha! What a bleak, horrible future! Call me a bit of a Neo-Luddite, but if we did away with the internet and all "non-edifying" t.v. programming, our nation's obesity epidemic would also plummet. 1) Ironic, considering you're on an Internet forum. 2) I've known plenty of "latch key" folks with fine interpersonal skills. thornhappy

KRANWEST -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 1:59:49 PM)
You've gotta understand that different folks react to the same stimuli in different ways, thornhappy. An abusive home-life might drive one man to push himself towards success and a bright future, while another might be headed towards a life of crime and incarceration. While a bunch of under-parented, MySpace addicted young-un's might not feel any real hazardous effects from their habits and surroundings, there will always be a minority (in this case, a rather sizeable one) who just "don't get it". You know.....I've actually read about a time in history where people went out of their way to be social creatures.

FullCircle -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 2:07:30 PM)
Isn't the Church a good place to meet people for sex, I thought it was the most recent sex fad?

KRANWEST -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 2:18:13 PM)
Not unless "church" is hipster slang for "dark alley behind a sleazy strip-club in Newark, New Jersey."

Sirsinini -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 2:20:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss You know it's a funny thing... The Korean men are going to the Phillipines for wives too.... I think it's cause they are allowed so few children that girl babies are just ... ummm fewer? So now there is an abundance of men here, and they need wives. Very common. I don't understand it, but then I'm 42 and not married. Can I go to the Phillipines and get a husband? quote: ORIGINAL: KRANWEST I don't blame you for not wanting to go. I hear that it's MIGHTY easy to get snatched up and sold into sexual slavery in those parts. Then again, for some folks, that could also be an incentive for buying the ticket. ************************************************** How sad.... What we dont realize is what happens in other parts of your own city/State/country................. Man (happens to be American military) + Korean wife = 2 children Korean wife dies. Son # 2 has terrible accident so... Man returns to Korea for Korean wife # 2 Wife #2 is caretaker/maid/nurse/sole support of son #2 Man cherishes Korean wife but is absent husband and father...... Korean wife is slave?? BDSM or just slave? Korean wife # 2 is definately lonely, grabs at control ... I cannot help but pity her plight..... her journey is just different than mine.

FullCircle -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 2:20:50 PM)
Don't make me use google on you[:D] I can prove anything with that thingamajig

GreedyTop -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 2:22:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KRANWEST Flawless! Just when I thought that I was the only person in America who had seen the film! It's an underrated movie if you ask me. Dinero learns valuable life lessons through "singing-lessons" with a "unique" music instructor. I saw it when I was 20, and thought to myself, "That's a really good flick." Too bad that nobody ever watches it. LOVE That movie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

KRANWEST -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 2:28:39 PM)
Good taste.

FullCircle -> RE: Advice Given to a Lonely Friend (4/13/2008 2:29:12 PM)
http://www.knbc.com/news/15666272/detail.html See I can make up any news and it would have happened somewhere.

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