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Do You think... - 4/12/2008 11:58:08 PM   
chya


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Status: offline 		Do you think a M/s relationship without touch and being near each other physically, can still thrive and grow stronger every day?
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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 12:02:54 AM   
antipode


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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 1:59:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		Obviouisly I don't know you but the honest answer for myself is 'NO' - it ain't real if there's no real life interaction.  Wayyyy too many use the Net to explore their BDSM fantasies but tend to vanish without trace at the possibility of it being real.
 
I've been jerked around like everyone else using the Net to search - that lesson is now learnt....
 
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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 2:57:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		In certain ways, yes, but the problem will be...is it growing in the direction of reality? Having been a military wife and having had friends/lovers in the militiary, I see this scenario time and time again: a couple has a life...the soldier/sailor gets deployed...he/she comes home a year or two years later and suddenly EVERYTHING has changed. Even if they were able to keep in touch, physical things change. If you can't keep up with the changes in reality, it's very unlikely to work long term. Don't get me wrong...some DO work and I think this comes about because the people understand, going in, that this cycle happens and they are open about their partner not being the same when they reunite.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 4:53:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am sure that for someone, somewhere the answer to that question is yes.... but for Me.... nope

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 5:19:28 AM   
spinninsweetness


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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 6:53:17 AM   
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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 7:28:21 AM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		Yes; we were in a long distance relationship for two and a half years before I moved in last December.  The relationship that we built during that time has made the transition to living together very simple and easy.

edited to add... our goal was always to live together and we saw each other as often as possible.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 7:42:40 AM   
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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 7:57:53 AM   
RavenMuse


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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Yes; we were in a long distance relationship for two and a half years before I moved in last December. 


you may view it differently but I class thats as something totaly different to what the OP was describing. she was describing something totaly devoid of face to face contact. No RL meeting, nothing in the real world to base the rest on. I have done LDR's, don't like them but they are possible.... but only because they are based in real life and aimed at closing that distance eventualy.


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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 8:45:20 AM   
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only if both accept that setting.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 8:46:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL chya

Do you think...



Obviously, not enough  .

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 8:58:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me the answer would be "no". I have to be able to see/hear/touch/feel my male submissive sometimes in order to consider it a''relationship". But some other folks are perfectly content with strictly online. It just depends upon the people involved.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 9:28:44 AM   
kyraofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Yes; we were in a long distance relationship for two and a half years before I moved in last December. 


you may view it differently but I class thats as something totaly different to what the OP was describing. she was describing something totaly devoid of face to face contact. No RL meeting, nothing in the real world to base the rest on. I have done LDR's, don't like them but they are possible.... but only because they are based in real life and aimed at closing that distance eventualy.



I think that the OP is a little too ambiguous to say whether she is referring to a relationship that is solely online or if it is a LDR.

Even so, the first six months that he and I were getting to know each other we did not have any physical contact and our interactions caused the relationship we were building to grow stronger every day.  It was not a M/s relationship, but that is the direction that it was heading.  What I bolded in your post is what I consider an important aspect for us; the goal was to close that distance.

So I still say that yes, it is possible to have a relationship grow stronger even without physical contact.  Whether the relationship thrives or not will depend on the needs of the people involved. 

Knigh's Kyra

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 11:23:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		It couldn't even begin to work for me.. But i am sure somewhere out there it does for somebody else.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 11:25:00 AM   
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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 11:28:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		If it's just on-line you are playing a game it is not real so why bother.  If you see each other now and then and use on-line to fill in the gaps then maybe you can make it work just depends on you two.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 11:31:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: chya

Do you think a M/s relationship without touch and being near each other physically, can still thrive and grow stronger every day?


I think such relationships can start that way and grow to an extent. Just my .02 zlotys, but I need the actual physical contact and time spent with my submissive for the relationship to really blossom.
 
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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 12:43:13 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		It's harder to do an online only or even a ldr than living together. But even living together doesn't guarantee anything or the divorce rate wouldn't be what it is.

In some ways I think the ideal would be to just get together every weekend. Then you could deal with everyday stuff and errands during the week and have the weekend to focus on each other once you've both caught up on your sleep and unwound. The downside to that is there's no one to give you hands on support when you've had a rough day.

Being away from each other brings changes. A D type who goes off to Iraq for a year's tour can't control what the sub wears, eats, can't forbid orgasms until they're together, can't do any physical stuff. But that doesn't mean the heart isn't still fully involved.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 1:01:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sure it can, however i could only forsee such a thing occuring in a very limited form.

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