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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 1:20:58 PM

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for me? I believe that in order to fully answer this I should start by pointing out that there are different aspects of a relationship. That said, yes I believe that a relationship can be had in this manner, but it would be one that lacked a few key aspects of a relationship that one that was had close, and so one should be wary around planning their own lives around it (i.e. quiting a job, giving up a place to live, to run into the arms of your online lover). But I do believe there is time when this is needed. For myself it is something I am doing, with both eyes open. The reason being that I'm in college and I am lucky enough to have a Master who understands that my need to learn is something that has to come first. That said, I am, I believe that if you are going to do this, be aware that its a hard thing to do, and your best bet is to meet once in awhile (even if it's just a few times a year for a few days). This will give you a clearer idea of the aspects that are beyond your touch at the moment.....just my thoughts

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 2:08:18 PM

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Don't you think it would be more productive and you would get better answers if you just told us the whole story in one place, instead of breaking it up into separate questions? So are you online only and he is not available on the weekends and some nights and you want to know the validity of this?

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 2:49:43 PM

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it depends how capable the people involved are of living in their heads. if the people are both absolutely honest with each other, and they want to have an emotional and mental relationship and not just a physical/sexual one. the submissive has to become very good at knowing what the spirit of the Dominant's orders are, and not just the actual words... the Dominant won't be there to micromanage every little thing, so if that's the kind of relationship they want, it probably won't work. if the submissive, on the other hand, is duplicitous in any way, that won't work either. then it would be "just playing" because the sub would be able to not tell the Dominant when they disobeyed an order or did something they hadn't been ordered in regards to but would probably not like.

this is also a case where that "special power" from the other thread that everyone made fun of a few days ago would come in really handy. XD

EDIT: sorry, i have a bad habit of replying to the bottom comment when i'm making a general reply. no idea how to fix.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 4:33:54 PM

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 11:41:53 PM

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Don't you think it would be more productive and you would get better answers if you just told us the whole story in one place, instead of breaking it up into separate questions? So are you online only and he is not available on the weekends and some nights and you want to know the validity of this?

Cali

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RE: Do You think... - 4/13/2008 11:53:54 PM

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Hello chya, I did a quick search and found the following:

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Do you think a M/s relationship without touch and being near each other physically, can still thrive and grow stronger every day

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Does a submissive truly have needs, wants and desires or is she only there to serve the Master? If she feels has needs that are not being filled or is thinking negatively.. How does she communicate this to her Master? Or does she just walk away?

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Would you think it strange if your Owner is there all the time mostly during the weekdays and some nights but is not there on the weekend?

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these are the 3 questions you've started in the last few days... Makes me wonder what's going on with your relationship.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/14/2008 1:49:50 AM

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Do you think a M/s relationship without touch and being near each other physically, can still thrive and grow stronger every day?

chya,
Is this an Internet based relationship only? Or have you met in RL and are now separated?

Me and my pup are separated by 2,000 miles, and yet our relationship has grown even stronger. But, we had a RL relationship to begin with, so we just use the Internet to communicate and keep our dynamic intact. It works for us, but doesn't necessarily work for others.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/14/2008 9:00:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

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ORIGINAL: chya

Do you think a M/s relationship without touch and being near each other physically, can still thrive and grow stronger every day?

chya,
Is this an Internet based relationship only? Or have you met in RL and are now separated?

Me and my pup are separated by 2,000 miles, and yet our relationship has grown even stronger. But, we had a RL relationship to begin with, so we just use the Internet to communicate and keep our dynamic intact. It works for us, but doesn't necessarily work for others.

MoGa

I agree with Mistress that a LDR can work if the chemestry is there between the two involved. As for Mistress and I, our bond has grown ever so strong since we first met, even though we are seperated by 2,000 miles as a crow flies. It takes a lot of trust and work by both to make the relationship work. Through trust and communication, a healthy relationship can prosper via LDR. Mistress gave me a cell phone for my birthday which i keep on my person at all times (except when i am at work, in my Confederate uniform due to the importance of historical accuracy by my employer) so we can talk anytime we want. The more communication between the two, the better the relationship. And it does help to be so in love with the person you are with that you ache to be away from them, even if they are in the next room.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/14/2008 9:24:00 AM

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It wouldnt work for me unless I had been in a prior relationship with them. If it was solely in the cyber world I would be saying/typing one thing while multitasking other stuff. If I never had physical contact with them I would have nothing to draw from.
But I have done LDR's when I was a navy gf. For him I stayed on the phone long past the time I needed to go to the bathroom. So much of me needed to hear his voice for as long as I could, I kept a bucket near my phone (those were corded days).
But I had lived with him for years prior.
Some internet Joe could never capture my interest in the same way.
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RE: Do You think... - 4/14/2008 9:48:17 AM

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Do you think a M/s relationship without touch and being near each other physically, can still thrive and grow stronger every day?

Can you own human property not in your proximity, yes.
Can you monitor your property long distance… with effort I imagine so.
Can you teach or mentor your property long distance… with effort I imagine so.

Would if be fulfilling exchange to both parties, for me, no.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/14/2008 1:51:50 PM

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No.

Without seeing them in person, only expectations will thrive and grow stronger.

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RE: Do You think... - 4/14/2008 5:18:37 PM

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Do you think a M/s relationship without touch and being near each other physically, can still thrive and grow stronger every day?

From my personal experience in the past of a long distance M/s relationship I would say NO. You need to have that physical and intimate contact with one another.

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