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RE: Being away - 4/15/2008 11:34:32 AM

littlebitxxx

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Virtually every couple I know in real life has had to spend time away from each other, whether it is a day or a month. I guess I see it as so common, I don't understand the big deal. You go about your day as you usually do; you take care of the kids, you go to work, you go to school, you cook, you clean, you do whatever you do every day. And you talk on the phone when you can, and before you know it, that person is back.

Maybe I really am just a cold bitch.

Cali

I guess I'm a cold bitch like Cali. (Yay!)
10 days away is:
bed to myself
no tripping over clothes on the floor
eating what I want when I want
control of the TV remote
QUALITY reading time
no lights on ifn I don't want lights on
the entire pot of coffee to myself in the morning
quiet and solitude after a day's work
only one of everything in the sink at a time, to rinse off when done

It's only 10 days. Enjoy it instead of bemoaning it and it will go by faster.

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RE: Being away - 4/15/2008 1:38:37 PM

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Some very good ideas, I will miss him but it will be even sweeter when we are together again. Many thanks for all your comments and suggestions they are very much apprcriated.

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RE: Being away - 4/17/2008 5:12:03 AM

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Keep in touch as much as possible, and otherwise, try to have fun and be happy as much as possible. My partners don't like it when I'm sour or down, so if not for myself, then for them I must remain positive even if I'm feeling a bit blue.

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RE: Being away - 4/17/2008 7:56:49 AM

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My Master travels a lot on business and is gone several weeks a month. It does roller coaster the emotions and submission levels a little bit but on the plus side seeing each other after he has been gone is always a big high.

I think there are good suggestions on this post for things to be done to minimalize the absence from the heart and to try to maintain a level of dominance or submission. I will just throw in the fact that nothing will completely off set the feelings discussed so in some ways try to embrace them as being fortunate to care for someone that much. It has been almost a year and I am still struggling with his traveling so much but it has slowly gotten better. Feel fortunate it is only for ten days.

I will also advice not to force these emotions on your Master and/or expect him to fix them. If he wants to do something like the suggestions on this post then that is fine but do not expect him or burden him by needing some fix to tie you over.

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RE: Being away - 4/17/2008 8:05:38 AM

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Angel will be leaveing for the Army ina few months. When that happens, 10 days apart would seem like a dream come true since I'll be looking at 2-3 months at a time and even more if he goes overseas. I am the Domme, but that doesnt mean I dont miss my boys terribly.
I am away from them constantly, Fox for 2-3 days at a time and Angel for a week or more at a time all the time. We talk as much as we can. We get online and message and play games and interact. When I travel , I get them little things to let them know I was thinking of them. When Angel travels he always remembers to get me post cards, since I collect them.
When they have been gone for a particularly long time, I will make sure to let them know what I have planned to do to and with them when they get back to me. Neither has permission to masturbate without asking, which is my constant reminder that I am there even when I am physically not. They can ask, a small humiliation, if they want to. And of course they have things of mine they can wear when they are missing me too much. Angel has panties and a tee shirt I gave him that he can wear when he has been away too long and needs to feel something familiar. Fox wears more of my clothes some weeks than he does his own.
You might ask to bring one of his shirts with you on your trip. Sleep in it, or wear it under your regular daywear. Its a smal comfort that does wonders if you are feeling homesick.

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RE: Being away - 4/17/2008 5:10:19 PM

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my Master and i live several states away, so we don't get to see much of each other. my advices is: make sure you talk to him, even if nothing really happened just talk about the small little things. call him before you go to bed at night (if it's not too late lol) and just talk about silly things, make each other laugh. and when you get home give him a big kiss and let him know how much you missed him ^_^ ... ^_~

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RE: Being away - 4/18/2008 6:32:48 AM

GoddessTeaze

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

In a few months i have to go away for business. I have to go can't get out of it. I will miss my Master like crazy it is 10 days. I will call him every day. It's of course not the same as seeing him every day.

My question is what do you do when you have to leave your Master/Dom/me for an extended period of time an you miss them so bad?

Matt's littleone

Hello Matt's littleone,
Maybe it helps to write a journal, to express your feelings dayly.
Ofcourse taking a picture with you,
and maybe a Tshirt so you can smell Him, even when He aint with you

My sub and I live over 3 countrys apart,
and this is how it has been over the last 3 years, it's always amazing when Wwe meet in real, and very sad to part, but this is how it will stay forever.

Wwe do have a life besides Oour relationship.

I wish you enough hon.

GoddezzT`

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