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What would you think? - 4/15/2008 5:30:43 AM

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If your Dom said " You signed up to be my bitch and to do anything I say" how would you feel? and how would your view of him change? Would you still feel as if you are being protected or as if it is okay for you to be submissive?

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 7:25:08 AM

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duplicate sorry

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 7:27:16 AM

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Not sure I understand what you're asking exactly. If you entered the relationship with the agreement that you would "be his bitch and do anything he says", then I'd think you'd be happy with that...... unless or until he comes up with something for you to do that goes against your limits, morals, boundaries, etc... That's where knowing who you are submitting to and in a relationship with comes in quite handy.

If you didn't make that agreement in the beginning and he changed the rules along the way, then I'd feel like a bait 'n switch had happened and reevaluate whether the relationship is the right one for you.

If you genuinely are not okay with what he is expecting of you, and no longer feel comfortable or safe or happy or fulfilled in your relationship, then you need to remember that you should be true to yourself and do what's best for you........ but that should be a given....... right?

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 7:27:22 AM

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that's pretty much what He said. i trust him with my life . after all isnt that what i'm doing when i'm bound and gagged at His mercy?

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 7:29:11 AM

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Mmmmm I wounder what would happen if I used that line. Na I don't think so.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 7:29:45 AM

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I wouldn't sign up to do 'anything' until after I knew enough about him to know what his idea of anything was. Because my moral and ethical boundaries aren't going to be the same as everyone else's. Until you know what that anything might encompass, I'd withdraw consent and tell him why. He might think gangbangs are hot whereas it might cause flashbacks in you requiring hospitalization to deal with. You need to know a lot more about each other before you dare write a blank check.

Plus I didn't sign up to be his bitch. I signed up to be his woman, his girl. Totally different approach there.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 7:37:03 AM

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If you signed up for exactly that - then yes he is right.
Why would your view of him change if he has remained constant?

If you didn't - then he is incorrect.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 7:56:07 AM

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He could say it, and I'd probably think it's hot depending on the context. But I also am secure in knowing him and his ethical and moral code that there are lines he won't cross. So for me it has more to do with trust in who I'm giving myself to then the words themselves.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 8:01:49 AM

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When i met my Master and things began i signed up to TPE the moment i gave myself to Him, which inherently means that i will do anything He says.
When He chooses to remind me of my agreement with Him, my feelings about Him don't change per se.. Being reminded makes me feel more submissive, makes the walls feel so much closer.. Makes me feel safer, because i know that within that, He will never harm me. i also know the reality of that.. He does push me.. Sometime i hate Him for it.. But i gave myself to Him completely and i trust Him.

i assume that when the relationship began, you knew what you were getting yourself into when you submitted.. Why would being reminded of your place make your view of Him change? It's all just a case of accepting reality.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 9:11:38 AM

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I have said thins essentially like this. It was more "You came to me to be my bitch, and you will do what I like, as I like it"
The reaction was extremely positive, becasue I was shoing Angel that I was not going to losten my grasp on him over time and evnw tih all the little problems we have had on and off, I was still in charge. It made him MORE submissive, not less, and more confident in my commitment to the relationship.

Now, in your case, it would depend on what the context was for the statement. If it was a confirmation of what you did sign up for it should make you happy. If it is outside from what you expecte ot be involved in, then you might need to talk to him, and see if things can get back on track.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 9:15:42 AM

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I suppose it would depend greatly on context. If said during a conversation it may cause me to rethink things or to wonder what I've been doing wrong and ask to talk about what inspired the statement.

Now if it was said in the heat of passion my reaction would be more like "yea make me your bitch!!! woot woot"

I know its hard to believe but I really am trying to behave today.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 9:26:05 AM

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I think it would all depend on how he said it, and the intent behind it. Maybe even the conversation preluding this? If he said this during an argument, I might be a little upset. If it was said in a playful manner, it would make me giggle, possibly even exite me a bit.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 9:28:28 AM

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quote:

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If your Dom said " You signed up to be my bitch and to do anything I say" how would you feel? and how would your view of him change? Would you still feel as if you are being protected or as if it is okay for you to be submissive?

I could see myself saying it to either one of my girls but then, they would think it was HAWT!

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 9:36:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: enslavederotica

If your Dom said " You signed up to be my bitch and to do anything I say" how would you feel? and how would your view of him change? Would you still feel as if you are being protected or as if it is okay for you to be submissive?

I love it every time he says it. But then that's what I signed up for. Did you sign up for something different?

What is it you seek protection from?

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 9:38:16 AM

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quote:

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If your Dom said " You signed up to be my bitch and to do anything I say" how would you feel? and how would your view of him change? Would you still feel as if you are being protected or as if it is okay for you to be submissive?

My Daddy would only say that in a playful and respectful way. I am his prized possesion I feel protected by him all the time

. If that what you signed for than that is what you do. To the OP do you feel protected or are you scared of him is it SSC? If you are scared of him, than that is another different issue completly.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 9:48:02 AM

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If your Dom said " You signed up to be my bitch and to do anything I say" how would you feel? and how would your view of him change? Would you still feel as if you are being protected or as if it is okay for you to be submissive?

Mistress would never say such a thing unless She loved me. She must love me a great deal because She told me that I better enjoy my place as Her groveling, rubberclad, boot-licking bitch because there ain't no turnin' back now! Ah, the sweet words of my angelic flower...can't you feel the love?!

Seriously, Mistress has told me something similar to the tune of, "You will be used, you will be abused. You will be encased in layers of rubber and locked in it for my amusement until I decide you've had enough. You will suffer, you will be tortured. Above everything else, you will always be loved and protected. I want you to fear me." Those words touched my heart. It lets me know I can just let go and fall into the web She's woven. That is the freedom of slavery to me.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 9:54:26 AM

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After 2+ years if Master all os a sudden said that. I would say Master i signed on to be your, girl, your sub, and your littleone. Master would never say that, it is not what we agreed on in the beginning.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 11:24:16 AM

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If your Dom said " You signed up to be my bitch and to do anything I say" how would you feel? and how would your view of him change? Would you still feel as if you are being protected or as if it is okay for you to be submissive?

Personally, if it were said after negotiation and collaring and after a period of the relationship, my reaction would be "WTF?!? I didn't sign up for that." I suppose it all depends on what you negotiated before your collar and how much you trust him with that "anything" thing. And I don't see where feeling protected comes into it at all. That statement actually sounds pretty threatening in different ways.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 2:05:35 PM

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Well, since that's one of the things I did sign up for, I'd be good with it. In most situations, I'd find it hot, too.

I didn't sign up for protection, so that part is not applicable; anytime he gives confirmation that he's comfortable with me being his, I'm good with that.

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RE: What would you think? - 4/15/2008 3:18:30 PM

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If your Dom said " You signed up to be my bitch and to do anything I say"

i would turn and walk away simply because "dom" and i wouldn't be compatible for each other.

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