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Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 7:44:08 AM   
alapin


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Status: offline 		...a woman whose primary interest is pure and selfish sexual domination?

I have been looking for someone that I can serve sexually - totally according to her needs and requirements - or minimally, as an oral sex slave..
..and yet I find that this is treated with the deepest suspicion. I am told - "Ah yes, but there is far more to domination than just this" - true - and to a large extent I am prepared to accept that as well. But when I advertise that I am looking for a "sexually selfish" woman - or something similar - there always appears to be an underlying suspicion that I must have a hidden agenda.

Sorry - just expressing my frustrations out loud.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 7:47:07 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		You are looked at that way because it comes across sounding like you are only interested in getting laid. Most submissive men offer sex slavery, its finding those that are capable and willing to engage in other acts thats difficult. Asking for a sexually selfish woman is just a pretty way of saying someone who will screw me regularly.
While there is nothing wrong with being a sex slave, its limiting if thats ALL you say you wish to be.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 7:54:05 AM   
AAkasha


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Totally non kinky men are happy to be a sex slave also.
In my experience, men who are "pussy slaves" are quite often the worst at providing any kind of pleasure because the act for them is totally self indulgent.  They forget whose pleasure it's about - really, they just want a pussy to worship, the woman is secondary.  Just make sure you don't fall into that trap.
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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 7:56:53 AM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		Yes.

Becuase most of them could get the same deal from a vibrator. I know Lots of Dominant women and most of them tell me one thing.

If he only wants to serve my cunt-he's just a bottom. He has to want to serve me everywhere else to be my sub.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 7:57:56 AM   
Stephann


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Status: offline 		From an online perspective, if I was a dominant woman reading your profile, I would have wanted a refund on the 7 seconds it took to read.

Here's a clue for you:

For Men:  How to Find a Woman Here

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 7:59:15 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		Plus be really honest here folks. How difficult is it really for a woman in this society to get sex almost any way she wants if she is just not terribly picky?

Very very easy.

But is that what most women want? If the answer is "no", then alapin, you'll have a big chunk of the answer to your question and frustrations.

Put that together with the fact that sex is riskier for women -- remember pregnancy and many diseases seem more readily transfered from men to women -- and you may start to understand why women aren't jumping for your offer.

Not to mention the social conditioning that we give girls and women and the double standards for behavior very much still around that relate to sexual activity.

The best way to get a response is to figure out your target audience and then offer her what she wants. Works for all sorts of products you know.

Now, I'd say that I am very sexually selfish but I do that with my slave, someone who serves me in many many ways. I don't need or want someone to just be a sex slave for me, in fact I find the idea a bit boring and unrealistic in my situation.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 8:20:11 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Op stay the course that woman will come to you.  Now if you were looking for a sexauly selfish man then I would say give up because there are none.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 9:42:36 AM   
MamaDomme1


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And "Profile Not Found"......... why am I not surprised?

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 10:04:19 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Doesn't matter that the profile's not found.  We're still fortunate that somebody created it long enough to ask the question, because now, it will be in the 'search' archive!

Tammyjo's exactly right.  We don't say it very often, because it is the epitomy of obviousness, but the truth is, most of us could walk out the door (if we even needed to go that far) and get laid.  If that's all I wanted, heck, I wouldn't even need the internet for that.  I don't know about anybody else, but if sex were the goal, I wouldn't need any of the other stuff.  I'd just have the sex and get on with it.


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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 11:53:22 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Smiles at LadyPact.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 12:07:57 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		(Smiles back to Ray.)  Hope life is treating you well.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 1:22:46 PM   
BoiJen


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Status: offline 		Like it's been said...is it really "submissive" it's about you getting off? Is it really about HER being sexually selfish if she's having to do what you want?

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 3:19:29 PM   
MladyHathor


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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/15/2008 4:01:14 PM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		You'd do better to advertise as a Dom asking for a sex slave of your own.  At least it would sound more honest.  This just sounds like "I just want to lay down, do nothing and have a woman ride me several times a day." 

Yeah.  Well, I want a sub to keep my house, do my lawn, build my dungeon furniture, make at least $250K per year, give it all to me, let me keep as many 'boy toys' as I want and never EVER ask me for sex.

Let's see which one of us finds our perfect D/s mate first.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/16/2008 2:40:03 AM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

You'd do better to advertise as a Dom asking for a sex slave of your own.  At least it would sound more honest.  This just sounds like "I just want to lay down, do nothing and have a woman ride me several times a day." 



Yuck!

This reminds me of my cousin; that was his goal in life. And although he's living it... I can't help feel sorry for him.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/16/2008 3:57:27 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		ROTFLMAO!!!  Just FYI - I was talking to my favorite from this site on the phone last night and told him about my post here.  He said "Sorry Mistress, I'm already married."

Damn.  The 'good ones' are always taken.

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/16/2008 5:04:33 AM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

ROTFLMAO!!!  Just FYI - I was talking to my favorite from this site on the phone last night and told him about my post here.  He said "Sorry Mistress, I'm already married."

Damn.  The 'good ones' are always taken.



Hahaha!

It just boggles the mind!

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/16/2008 8:05:16 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/17/2008 1:04:22 PM   
MistressNoName


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quote:

ORIGINAL: alapin

...a woman whose primary interest is pure and selfish sexual domination?

I have been looking for someone that I can serve sexually - totally according to her needs and requirements - or minimally, as an oral sex slave..
..and yet I find that this is treated with the deepest suspicion. I am told - "Ah yes, but there is far more to domination than just this" - true - and to a large extent I am prepared to accept that as well. But when I advertise that I am looking for a "sexually selfish" woman - or something similar - there always appears to be an underlying suspicion that I must have a hidden agenda.

Sorry - just expressing my frustrations out loud.




But that's just it...it's NOT hard to find...You're just barking up the wrong tree!! Look for a PRO!! Be willing to pay the fee. That's all. Stop expecting non-Pro Lifestyle Dominants to be satisfied with being compartmentalized and objectified simply to satisfy your desires and it'll all start making sense.

MNN

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RE: Why is it so difficult to find...? - 4/17/2008 1:24:16 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Actually, he should be looking for a PROSTITUTE.  Way different.

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