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softness -> RE: What exactly are Dom's protecting us from? (4/15/2008 10:14:25 AM)
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I think I am mostly protected from myself.
We are in a situation where day to day I take care of myself, I decide whether this or that situation is safe, I make the judgement call son if to walk home or get a taxi, I decide whether I am well enough for this or that activity blah blah. I make all those decisions using my own fully able mind but also from within a framework He has set up to prevent me from acting against my logical better judgement.
As an example. I work in a pretty challenging inner city school. Its rough. There are drugs and violence throughout the school and so fights are fairly frequent. I have been seriously assaulted several times by violent pupils. I am known for getting stuck into the middle of the fights to break them up, I am a big girl, it rarely lasts long after I am in the middle of it. I love my job, I love the kids I work with and at the moment I wouldn't have any other job in the world. My insticts override any safety concerns I have about myself, and my instincts tell me to stop those children from killing each other in some stupiud fight. I have a duty of care to them, and I will always put my duties of care above my personal wellbeing. Needless to say this behaviour causes .. errr... a difficult conversation from time to time with Him. Last week a boy had me in a pretty nasty arm lock for a few minutes, I was fine and talked him down, but it could very easily have not gone that way. It is hardly safeguarding property to stick it in the middle of a brawl, He undertsands why I do it, but He still does not accept it as good behaviour. His wishes are that I keep myself safe and so now I follow those wishes. However difficult and challenging it my be for me to do this, it is for my own good, and for His happiness.
This example is of me being protected from myself. He knows I dont need all that much protection from other people. Many many Dominants do not accept that women who wish to be owned can also be fiercely strong and independent and self reliant, they see women who wish to be owned as helpless victims prey to any and all who would wish to absue them. Often this is the case, and while there are still women out there who are unwilling or unable to effectively run their own lives without "protection" there will be Dominants who assume we are all that way.
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