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More than grand gestures. - 4/15/2008 9:03:44 PM

darchChylde

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This past weekend; my Dominant. Her Husband and i spent alot of time working in the sun and heat. So, one evening we were watching a movie together and Ma'am fell asleep; Her Dominant Husband lay next to Her and simply rubbed Her head, 'petting' Her gently.

Watching, i couldn't help but smile as i was witnessing one of the most beatiful and intimate gestures of love that i have seen in recent memory.

Share with us the little ways you show the one (or ones) in your heart that you love them.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/15/2008 10:26:11 PM

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I'm a pretty lucky guy. My kids both girls in there late 20's show me they love me pretty much every time I see them.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/15/2008 11:09:29 PM

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There are many tasks in which I am given the general command and then allowed to be creative. Undressing my Master is one of these. I love to give little kisses to the newly appearing bare spots, or to give a massage to them.

I am currently out of the country on a business trip, and when I told Him how much I enjoy this part of our sessions He told me that He will never undress Himself again in my presence but it will always be my job. It is a very tiny part of our session, yet a way for me to freely express my feelings toward Him before things get intense. My gesture is small. To me the grander gesture was being told that from now on I will always get to do it. : )

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 12:29:06 AM

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I pet the people I love a lot. I also tell them I love them...having explained what that means. One of my friends isn't used to that and still struggles with it a bit. He'll get over it. LOL

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 12:56:41 AM

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Same here. It's usually in the form of petting. There's something about that simple gesture, just stroking someone's hair, that does it for Me.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 5:02:38 AM

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Im like Sailing Bum. My daughter treats me like a king everytime we are together. I think that it is a connection that most on here would like to have with their partner.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 5:08:02 AM

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I pet both my husband and my slave though in slightly different ways.

They, in turn, love to play with my curls and my slave also loves to pick up my hand and kiss it.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 9:54:14 AM

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Oddly the way I most recently have shown how much I care was by relaxing and standing still giveing someone time to adjust and decide. This is very difficult for me and they are worth it but I am going nuts so we will see how long I can keep it up.

I know noone really gets this post but that is okay the person who does will know what I mean.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 10:12:59 AM

darchChylde

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Oddly the way I most recently have shown how much I care was by relaxing and standing still giveing someone time to adjust and decide. This is very difficult for me and they are worth it but I am going nuts so we will see how long I can keep it up.

I know noone really gets this post but that is okay the person who does will know what I mean.

Steel

i think i get it, maybe not with specifics; but that sounds very familiar to me.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 10:36:34 AM

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I am a very affectionate person, but all of my previous relationships were with men who weren't very affectionate...... including my last vanilla boyfriend who wouldn't even kiss me in public! I became used to holding back affection because it wasn't ever met with positive responses.

So when I started seeing my now Master, it was sad, but I would almost feel uncomfortable because He was so affectionate. He loves holding my hand or putting His hand on my thigh when we're driving, kissing me, hugging me, touching me. It took me a while to overcome my previous programming so that I felt safe in being my affectionate self with Him, and part of what helped was that He would ask me to touch Him in some way. But my affection barrier came tumbling down the day He held me close on His kitchen floor, then held my face in His hands and said, "You are precious to me!" I just melted!

With that said, He constantly surprises me with His spoken and unspoken gestures of love and affection. I can be talking up a storm in the car or a restaurant, and I'll notice He has this dreamy look on His face and He'll interrupt me and tell me how beautiful I am, or how happy I make Him and how much He loves me. I still blush and get embarassed when He tells me I'm beautiful and He thinks that's cute.

Now I feel all warm and fuzzy again.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 10:42:54 AM

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I love small guestures, grand guestures tend to be "Valentine Dayish" to me. Thought out and contrived to be a spectical of emotion. Small guestures are usually subconscious and divulge much more true emotion.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 12:07:21 PM

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i'm huge on touch. giving and getting. as my relationship with my pet grows more diverse, i really like it when he just puts my feet up on the couch in his lap while we're watching a movie, or kisses me on the forehead. i will scratch his head, and he will rest it on my shoulder. little things. it's always about the little things.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 12:25:10 PM

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When I love someone, there isn't anything I wouldn't do to show them. Physical forms of affection such as touching, kissing, hugging. I like to write notes expressing my love for them. Even with my wee ones, I write them notes and send them in their lunch box or back packs to school. I also like to paint special things, tokens and give them to my lover. Picking up small tokens somewhere that remind us of who we are. Its just reminding that person everyday how important they are in your life. I think its very important.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 3:31:17 PM

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I couldn't see someone and not be affectionate with them. I feel more emotionally secure when I am able to be affectionate with them. Not seeing anyone right now, but I like planting a kiss in random spots, like the cheek, forehead,nose. (unless they got a cold. lol.) stroke their head, finger comb their hair. give them goofy little cards, (e-cards too.)

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 3:37:31 PM

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The slightest touch or pet when not expecting it. The whispered I love you. The hidden note which you know will be found later in the day or night that will bring a smile to your loved ones face. Cooking a favorite meal. Keeping the house quiet when you know it's been a stressful day. Giving alone time when you know it's needed most. Saying I love you for no reason.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 4:17:56 PM

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He kisses my boo-boos (and I'm very clumsy so they happen a lot)

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 4:33:42 PM

darchChylde

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

He kisses my boo-boos (and I'm very clumsy so they happen a lot)

Oh come on LA, you know you can't say things like that with perverts like me around. *winks*

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 4:39:07 PM

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i grew up in an emotionally distant house, and had a marriage where the only time i got touched was when he wanted sex - so it is with great pleasure that i relate how my Sir loves to come up behind me and slap my butt, or squeeze a breast, or play with my hair, or rub my back - or just walk into the room , smile at me and tell me how much he loves to see me, naked, doing whatever i am doing. He doesn't want me to stop what i am doing , he just enjoys looking at me. Way to make a puddle of me!!!!!

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 8:00:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

Share with us the little ways you show the one (or ones) in your heart that you love them.

For our pet, it's playing with his hair, general cuddling, and any kind of physical touch. He's a Cancer, I'm told they're very touchy-feely folk.

For Daddy it's a little more elaborate. Back Drawings. I use my fingertip/nails to draw on his back, elaborate images, which I describe to him as I go. Sometimes he tells me what he wants drawn, but mostly I get free reign. Since his spirit animal is the bear (Him? Big, quiet, protector type? Never! Hahaha) I usually do teddy bears performing some sort of themed activity. His favorite was the Teddy Renn Faire, with the unfortunately named 100 Acre Woods ancestor: Sir Poohs-a-lot.

My happy-joy trigger? Anything (gentle) involving my hair or scalp. Practically a secondary sex organ, it is.

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RE: More than grand gestures. - 4/16/2008 8:12:48 PM

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Master likes to cuddle after a session....this is one of my favorite parts because I can come back to earth feeling His warmth next to me....

Master isn't one for words, He rarely tells me He loves me....but I KNOW he does, He shows me by stroking my hair and cuddling with me when we go to sleep....

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