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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/17/2008 4:33:58 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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ORIGINAL: khem

I meant the other way.  


I know.  Read through it again.

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ORIGINAL: UBERMUNSCHIST

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ORIGINAL: khem

I guess I should restate that to read "I honestly do not see how I could communicate what I want to a nilla guy ... without having him run as fast as possible"    


Towards you?

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/17/2008 5:31:33 PM   
UBERMUNSCHIST


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ORIGINAL: Stephann

Many people don't learn about their D/s and/or S&M interests until they're well into their 40s or 50s.  Us folk who learn about it in our 20s are wayyyyy outnumbered. 
 



Hahaha! I just realized how old I am! 

Most people in their 2o's don't even know who they are, let alone what they want!

Yes, you may be outnumbered, but at least you have more time to find exactly what you want.

 

< Message edited by UBERMUNSCHIST -- 4/17/2008 5:46:46 PM >

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/18/2008 5:34:28 AM   
bobipanti


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Status: offline 		Sure wish someone as yourself would have introduced me to the lifestyle when I was much younger. I believe that it would have made my early life-20's & 30's- more enjoyable and pleasing. I was quite 'nilla but needed something more. Good luck in your search.

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/18/2008 10:45:04 AM   
Perdemption1


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Status: offline 		Khem I find this to be a problem myself but in the reverse. I know that being kinky is important for something my partner to be into. But it would be much easier for the Woman to say if they are or not. I feel your frustration that there aren't too many younger people openly into their kinks. Which is why I am sure most of us into these things seem to be miserable until older age when they get comfortable in their skin.

I'm just dating and hoping to come across someone with the same interests. As the guy it is much more improper to infringe upon the social norms of Women being the more submissive ones. Though I would hope if they were a bit kinky they would make that self evident. But you never know, everyone is different. I share in your frustration, good luck

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/25/2008 10:49:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		The humor of this response won't show through well in written form, so I'm pre-announcing my poor intent to be funny. . . .but C'MON!!!!!!!!!  This sub is having enough trouble finding a Domme without you wanting to go converting vanilla guys to BDSM.  Male subs have enough competition.  We don't need normal, vanilla people just strolling along, minding their own business and falling into a gold mine.  They haven't done any of the work to deserve this.  Give us a chance.  C'mon, really.  I send detailed, respectful messages.  I send pictures.  I'm not rude.  And what do I get out of it?  Some 'nilla guy getting kink that he doesn't even dream of.  Geeeeesh.

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/25/2008 10:57:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		  Corrupting a newbie is the best part of the whole deal.. almost...

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/26/2008 4:46:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: submissiveboy76

The humor of this response won't show through well in written form, so I'm pre-announcing my poor intent to be funny. . . .but C'MON!!!!!!!!!  This sub is having enough trouble finding a Domme without you wanting to go converting vanilla guys to BDSM.  Male subs have enough competition.  We don't need normal, vanilla people just strolling along, minding their own business and falling into a gold mine.  They haven't done any of the work to deserve this.  Give us a chance.  C'mon, really.  I send detailed, respectful messages.  I send pictures.  I'm not rude.  And what do I get out of it?  Some 'nilla guy getting kink that he doesn't even dream of.  Geeeeesh.


*giggle and soothing pat (if you don't mind)* I know, I know...but back when I was looking, I never happened to find one I liked, so I made one. Sorry 'bout that. I promise that, should the world turn itself inside out and I end up looking for a guy again, I will on my honor only look in the started-out-this-way group. (Converting someone is an f-ing pain in the a** anyway. ;P)

*comes back from reading your profile* Also, you are TOTALLY a keeper. Like cream, you'll rise to the top eventually. :)

< Message edited by DominantJenny -- 4/26/2008 4:50:39 AM >

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/26/2008 8:35:04 AM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		ladys i speak the truth ..once you ladys start playing with a vanilla guys ass you have him under your control  and find his prostate and massage it he will be putty in your hands  tease and denial is fun ..so is strapon play  your innocent fingers can lead to lots of fun trust me  boy i was sure hooked ..mal

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/26/2008 8:49:13 AM   
khem


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Status: offline 		I went out on two dates in the last few weeks with men met from vanilla sources (meaning, I do not know their feelings about BDSM).  During both dates, I managed to sneak in joking references to BDSM.  No good.  One said "Yeah, there are so many freaks out there, you'll be happy to know I'm totally not like that."  The other "You're funny, but I'm so not anyone's bitch"

K, done with nilla guys for a long while now.  Glad I got that out of my system. 

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/26/2008 9:56:21 AM   
seaweed00


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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/26/2008 10:16:19 AM   
submissiveboy76


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Status: offline 		Thank you so much for the kind words.  All kidding aside, I am happy that you found someone that pleases you.  Finding the right one in either the vanilla or BDSM world is difficult, so I'm glad you were successful, by whatever means you took.

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RE: Converting nilla guys? - 4/27/2008 6:18:52 AM   
DominantJenny


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Status: offline 		Awwww, that is so sweet! Thank you.

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