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DV8fromthenorm -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/19/2008 10:14:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azropedntied To the Poster , do you view being gay a lifestyle choice ?most view bdsm S&M D/s not as a lifestyle choice but something that has and is always with in them , in their dna so to speak .. Hi azropedntied, To answer your question, no I don't think being gay was a choice, I believe I was born gay, there is no choice about it, as if it were put in my DNA so to speak, as you stated above. I honestly didn't think about the BDSM lifestyle as being something you were born with or in your DNA. Now your provoking my brain to think, It's clearly apparent that one has more dominant or submissive traits throughout their lives, but I thought the BDSM thing came later in life when you discovered your sexuality and matured, but what the hell do I know...:-) I'm new to this. I appreciate your comment. ---DV8

Focus50 -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/20/2008 2:43:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael <snip>.... and I have been on my back in a 69 with a chick while a buddy was fucking her from behind. Just doing some quick "math" on this.... You're on your back doing a 69 while she's getting hammered from behind by a fellow musketeer? Lol, I'm seeing your eyeballs and his reciprocating balls literally within millimetres of each other - wayyyyy too scarey for mine.... *Mate, we've had our differences but you're rapidly becoming my new hero - space isn't the only place some might boldly go where I'd never* dare.... <chuckles on outa here...> Focus.**

SimplyMichael -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/22/2008 10:42:52 PM)
Serious question Focus, what would happen if someone else's cock touched you? If there were two cunts I would want to eat them both as I am sure would you. It doesn't bother me there is a cock nearby, on some level it is invisible to me if that makes sense. I am not afraid of cuties... But even I have my limits, while I don't mind going down on a woman after I have cum in her, I have never done so after anyone else has. I mean even a slut has to have SOME standards.

phoenixinchains -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/22/2008 10:47:09 PM)
bi female slave, but answering anyways. at best i'd say they're in a healthy period of exploration, at worst i'd say run cuz they're gay and can't handle it. just my two cents-

Emperor1956 -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/22/2008 10:52:19 PM)
FR: I had a submissive who was a Lesbian. I'm male. The power exchange was deep and satsifying, and neither of us questioned our orientations (not that it means very much) in the course of the relationship. So if I took a gay male sub, that makes me a closeted gay man? Then what am I if I had a deep, satisfying Dom/sub relationship with her? E. (and crouchingtigress got it EXACTLY right)

variation30 -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/22/2008 11:15:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DV8fromthenorm I am a new to this so I hope my question does not offend anyone. I am a gay male sub with little experience and curious about this lifestyle. Can someone please explain to me why some married or straight male doms sometimes seek gay male subs? Once again, not my intention to offend anyone, just trying to gain some insight. Any help would be appreciated. because they (the doms) are gay?

MASTERat21UK -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/22/2008 11:30:07 PM)
I beleive sexuality is born into you and like a tree, grows diferently depending on surroundings. I think D/s can be between a straight Dom and a gay male but the basis of the relationship for the Dom would have to be something other than sex. Otherwise, yes the Dom is a closet homosexual D/s relationships dont have to be sexual. Do they

MASTERat21UK -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/22/2008 11:45:26 PM)
In time as a straight escort I wouldent meet men unless they were straight and part of a couple, I had lots of enquiries from "straight" couples, often the male wanted to be as close to My cock as possible, sometimes the male would be "straight" but want to "suck's cock" or, want to be close enough to smell My cock, these people exist but in My opinion this IS bisexuality, if a male gets aroused by another mans cock. yes he is indeed bisexual. come out of the closet ffs

DV8fromthenorm -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/23/2008 5:55:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MASTERat21UK In time as a straight escort I wouldent meet men unless they were straight and part of a couple, I had lots of enquiries from "straight" couples, often the male wanted to be as close to My cock as possible, sometimes the male would be "straight" but want to "suck's cock" or, want to be close enough to smell My cock, these people exist but in My opinion this IS bisexuality, if a male gets aroused by another mans cock. yes he is indeed bisexual. come out of the closet ffs Masterat21, Thanks for your response and insight into this subject, experience as an escort has probably exposed you to several interesting requests, would love to hear more of them. (smirk) But I think we would have to start an entire new thread for your stories. I do know that these men exist because I am hearing from them, although I have to say that all are not specifically stating there is a sexual interest. Also I think what contributes to this is that in my profile I state "new friends also welcome". Opening the door to reply to me regardless of age, sex, or sexual orientation, which is fine by me because I enjoy communicating with people who have experience in the BDSM community whether they are gay, bisexual or straight.. In any event, it's all good. DV8

MistressDolly -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/23/2008 8:08:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist They are bi? But afraid to come out of the closet? My thinking too.

Faramir -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/23/2008 11:42:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael Serious question Focus, what would happen if someone else's cock touched you? He would instantly and irrevocably become totally gay, hence the very understandable anxiety.

Floggings4You -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/23/2008 12:52:40 PM)
I've flogged and/or caned literally hundreds of people over the past two years. I've flogged 'vanilla' men and women at swingers' parties, as well as submissives and slaves of both sexes at both public and private parties. I've even flogged Doms and Dommes, too, when They just felt like being massaged. I've had gay men approach Me at parties, asking to be flogged or caned--knowing that I am straight. Unless I've got other things to do, I'm usually happy to oblige. I know many (supposedly) straight Doms aren't as 'queer-friendly' as Me. Personally, I can't see looking for a male submissive/slave--though I find the idea of dominating a submissive m/f couple is very exciting. But, I can see lots of ways in which a straight Dom might seek, or at least be willing to work with, a bi or gay male submissive, without having to call into question the Guy's 'straightness'...

Focus50 -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/24/2008 4:54:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael Serious question Focus, what would happen if someone else's cock touched you? As my new self appointed spokesman already said, I'd sweat rivers that I'd instantly and irrevocably become totally gay.... ;-) Perhaps the serious answer is to again confess my shame of being monogamous (along with hetero); that I don't go near other excited cocks, most especially those that might use my nose as an aiming guide - or cue rest.... You'd think such obvious inadequacies (compared to your adventurous self) would keep me awake at nights, ay? Focus.

Missokyst -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/24/2008 10:40:36 AM)
LMAO! This is the funniest thing I have read today! I love visuals. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 that I don't go near other excited cocks, most especially those that might use my nose as an aiming guide - or cue rest....

GimpinDenial -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/24/2008 12:37:56 PM)
mmmmkay... No, I am not a Dom, however I have been in the situation you are asking of... I have been with "Straight" Doms and STRAIGHT Doms As alot of you have said...the "Straight" Doms are indeed closeted (bi/gay) I have been with a handfull of STRAIGHT Doms... with no sexual intercourse. These men are closeted gay bashers. They enjoy humiliating men that are gay/bi It is a power trip for them. Unless if you are not into the physical sexual side of being with a Dom, stay clear. Because in my experience, it is all heavy bondage and heavy whipping,paddling, and what not with ALOT of verbal and physical abuse. In other words, if you are a pain slut...go for it, you will cream your jeans BTW uhm...have you tried other sites like masters and slaves or thisone (I come because the people are great) it seems as though the majority of GDoms are not the real deal...IMO......but don't quote me. <shrugs>

Sundowner -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/24/2008 2:00:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DV8fromthenorm I am a new to this so I hope my question does not offend anyone. I am a gay male sub with little experience and curious about this lifestyle. Can someone please explain to me why some married or straight male doms sometimes seek gay male subs? Once again, not my intention to offend anyone, just trying to gain some insight. Any help would be appreciated. I'd guess a number of possibilities, as already mentioned. And I think there's gay interest and sexual interest, which can be quite different - for example I could play (bdsm play) with a bloke but I couldn't kiss or cuddle a bloke, so I don't think I'm gay, nor bi; I just enjoy bdsm, which does not always need the emotional content (play that is as opposed to a committed d/s relationship). I don't know what it's like in the US but in the UK if a bloke's been to an English public school there's a very good chance he's experimented with other boys in his youth! So same sex (male) can be less "scary" for a straight man. And there's the control aspect - doms generally like to feel they know what they're doing and same sex play means the dom (or domme) can judge better what the sub is feeling, and so feel more in control?

colouredin -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/24/2008 2:02:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sundowner I don't know what it's like in the US but in the UK if a bloke's been to an English public school there's a very good chance he's experimented with other boys in his youth! So same sex (male) can be less "scary" for a straight man. Yeah and all english boys do go to public school rolls eyes

Emperor1956 -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/26/2008 12:46:37 AM)
quote: Focus50: As my new self appointed spokesman already said, I'd sweat rivers that I'd instantly and irrevocably become totally gay.... ;-) On the other hand, then, you'd undoubtedly dress better. OH Mary, that "Star Trek" t-shirt is SOOOOOOO Seventies geek! E.

Focus50 -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/26/2008 3:16:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Emperor1956 quote: Focus50: As my new self appointed spokesman already said, I'd sweat rivers that I'd instantly and irrevocably become totally gay.... ;-) On the other hand, then, you'd undoubtedly dress better. OH Mary, that "Star Trek" t-shirt is SOOOOOOO Seventies geek! How dare you compare the red n black of the mighty North Sydney Bears (centenary year n all) with some cliche'd Star Trek cossie - wash your mouth out, dammit...! [sm=tantrum.gif] Focus.

Emperor1956 -> RE: Question for Straight Male Doms (4/26/2008 12:57:28 PM)
Uh...Focus...it looks JUST like a "red shirt" Star Trek jersey. Sorry, fella. It not only means you are cliched, it means you aren't gonna be in this episode long. Hate the break the bad news. And....North Sydney Bears? Is that...rugger? How quaint. Actually I tried to play rugby back in college. All I remember is it involved consuming a lot of beer. Then again so did flag football. So did frisbee...hmmmm. E

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