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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
For a future party I am working on a ball gag that suspends a chain down to a serving tray strapped just under those magnificent breasts.  I would prefer to suspend it from her nipples but I don't think they could take it.  Picture her in black leather arm binders strapping her arms behind her back, that glorious creature with her head thrown proudly back, her shoulders square, gleaming red ball gag  in her mouth strolling through your party as nothing more than a mute but beautiful traveling serving tray...

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

chellie,

Punkdom is right, they can be done but few want to go through the hell of putting on an event.  Jay Wiseman has a lovely term for it, he calls it "organizational masochism" and it is.  HOWEVER, if you want something, do it yourself or it won't happen.  If you search for threads about doing formal dinners you will find useful info on things to consider.

http://tribes.tribe.net/mastersden

Is an event similar to what you are describing I  think

The problem with events that are run toward a particular kink is you are going to have structure which means it will rub some people the wrong way.  In a huge place like SF they have enough people that if they exclude some they can still have an event.

It is harder in a smaller community unless you are really good at getting people to buy into your idea.

I once threw a "french maid" party where we asked the participants to offer up their submissives to be maids for the party and dress the part.  They were to serve food and drinks to the guests.  Sounds fun and innocent right?

SHITSTORM...some objected because only their submissive could serve them, some objected to the idea, everyone had a way THEY wanted it to work, some objected to the rules and wanted it to be like a normal party.  Few offered to help, few offered their submissive.  Everyone wanted to come.

My thoughts are, I am doing the work of creating the party, deal with MY structure or kiss off.  However, I am also aware that the less my structure considers others, the smaller the list of attendees gets so there is a happy medium.

I LIKE throwing themed parties.  I throw D/s parties where submissives should sit on the floor, the light is low, the music is moody, play is less the focus and instead the focus is on service.  Finger food is the order of the day.  It is interesting to watch the differences, some dominants feed their submissive, others are fed by them. 

I have thrown parties without floggers, want a shitstorm?  Announce that and step back.  I swear to god some people couldn't do bdsm without them.  I love pointing out I consider flogging to be service by dominants to submissives.  Pisses people off.  You could specify certain types of  play, messy play, unusual play, etc.

Again, the trick to doing these well is to find a balance between enough structure that the party is actually different but that there are enough people who can enjoy that structure that  you have enough people to make the party work.  It is also important to clearly articulate your goals for that structure and why you have chosen it.  Get people to buy in just enough they want to come and yet don't compromise so much that you don't have the event you want.

I haven't thrown a party in years, damn you chellie I think I have the bug again.  Oh, and I use bsb as a footstool when I can as well as another useful item.  For a future party I am working on a ball gag that suspends a chain down to a serving tray strapped just under those magnificent breasts.  I would prefer to suspend it from her nipples but I don't think they could take it.  Picture her in black leather arm binders strapping her arms behind her back, that glorious creature with her head thrown proudly back, her shoulders square, gleaming red ball gag  in her mouth strolling through your party as nothing more than a mute but beautiful traveling serving tray...

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I once threw a "french maid" party where we asked the participants to offer up their submissives to be maids for the party and dress the part.  They were to serve food and drinks to the guests.  Sounds fun and innocent right?