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MUNSCHSTER - 4/18/2008 6:21:16 PM

UBERMUNSCHIST

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I'm going to host a local "munch".

I only want about 10 people who are open minded and serious about their interests.

So far, the 4 people who I've talked to are interested and they know of people who are also interested... so that is pretty much working out itself.

My goal is to raise other peoples awareness about BDSM, and hopefully create a comfortable atmosphere.

Any tips?

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/18/2008 6:27:01 PM

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Drop the "serious about the lifestyle" schtick. I am quite friviolous about the lifestyle, I gag when people call it that, what I am and what I do defies labels and yet...few would call me "fake" or anything along those lines.

Get ready for people to tell you what YOU should be doing on YOUR time. The best way to diffuse that is to tell them that their idea is great and if they need any advice on making it happen, you look forward to giving it to them.

1/2 the people will hate the time, 1/2 will hate the location, 1/2 will hate the day and the rest will just whine and bitch.

Smile and know they are talking and you are doing.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/18/2008 6:30:36 PM

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1/2 the people will hate the time, 1/2 will hate the location, 1/2 will hate the day and the rest will just whine and bitch.

LOL... Daddy was telling some folks almost the exact thing last weekend when they were talking about wanting a local munch without having to go to DC.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/18/2008 6:44:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UBERMUNSCHIST

I'm going to host a local "munch". I only want about 10 people who are open minded and serious about their interests.

My goal is to raise other peoples awareness about BDSM, and hopefully create a comfortable atmosphere.

I think you just contradicted yourself. If they are serious, they're already aware.

As far as tips, you might want to reconsider your exclusionary attitude. Generally munches are open to anyone who is interested, not a set number, not only people who are "serious". What is most likely to happen is that you will get a bad reputation. Of course, you could change it to an invitation-only gathering and then the problem solves itself.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/18/2008 6:44:53 PM

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This isn't a Munch its a Round Table and if you are regulating who gets to go and who doesn't it is an Elitist Round Table at that.

You will be called Chest Thumpers
You will be called "One Twue Way"ers
You will be Disliked.

If you want a Roundtable just start a round table a discussion workshop akin to a MAsT meeting and just Enjoy yourselves.

As for AWARENESS of the LIFESTYLE
I can Really appreciate the sentiment but you have to understand you are not bringing awareness to the Lifestyle you are bringing awareness to your own adgenda's and personal beliefs.

If you want to do something worth a Damn that helps to bring awareness to the good things that those in the BDSM lifestyle do....

Form a Group of Kinky Player and then go to inner cities and cleam up parks Otherwise you really aren't doing anyone any good.

Okay folks I am an advocate for opeining eyes to the lifestyle but I do it ONE PERSON AT A TIME. having Roundtables only serves the purpose of the one setting it up. More over than that I have been to Open Forums for BDSM Discussion usually the Pompass Smell of Jackass is so thick you can hardly breathe.

So many people only see to thier own noses and usually when doing so they are looking down them at others.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/18/2008 7:56:57 PM

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Allow people to come whether they are serious or just enjoy it as a fun activity. Because they don't have to be uber dom to be an incredible bondage top, or an expert in fireplay. And for all you know they may make and contribute a killer cheesecake to parties where they are friendly with everyone.

Or do you really insist on having 10 clones? Because if so, you might as well save the gas, and stay home and converse with the image in the mirror who knows only what you do, and can't teach you anything.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/18/2008 9:23:27 PM

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quote:

only want about 10 people who are open minded and serious about their interests.

Does that include people whose main fet is living a 50's lifestyle or CDs and sissy maids or those into age play but not interested in impact play, humiliation acts or bondage

or do you mean similiar interests as your own

BDSM activities are extremely broad ...heck I was participating in some in vanillia relationships before I ever realized they were considered BDSM activities

so the question is who do you consider serious? what are your standards for measuring? what activities will they have to be participating in to be part of your elitist group?and how are you planning to create awareness using a closed group as chances are with such a small group you will not be covering a broad spectrum of BDSM awareness it would be severely restricted by the kinks by the members who are involved

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/18/2008 9:31:12 PM

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did i hear round table? where is my Sir Lancealotte! or is that Lance a lot? oh fuck, or is it just some guy with a big sword?

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/18/2008 10:37:05 PM

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*perk* big sword!

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/19/2008 8:42:33 AM

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OOOH swords!

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/19/2008 8:48:24 AM

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Okay, serious response now, speaking as person with Years Of Experience organizing events.

First, pick a space that YOU like. Everyone will complain, to your face or behind your back. Make sure that it is free or cheap, and that there are beverages to be had. I have always wanted to have an outdoor at the park munch, but I live in SE Michigan.

Be relaxed about who can attend. Not everyone who expresses interest, or even RSVP's will show up. People are full of talk, and real life happens to the best of us. There are plenty of "serious" folks who have little experience, and dilettantes who have been around forever. What you want are interested participants who are not trolls.

If you want to have a discussion topic, be very clear about that from the outset, and state your topic. There's a monthly dinner in these parts that does just that, says the topic in advance, and those that are not interested in that topic can say "bored now" and stay home that week. Are you any good at leading discussions? Not meaning that as a dis, just that some have that skill, some don't and eeeeeh trying to shut down a soapbox graciously can be tricky.

Have fun!

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/19/2008 8:48:35 AM

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How oh how do you prove you are serious?

Subs must all show whip marks on arrival.

Dom/mes must bring no less than 4 fetish items.

And switches half whipped, carrying a whip.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/19/2008 9:05:42 AM

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muches are fun and relaxed ways to get to know folks in their jeans and teeshirts...its a way for folks not to feel intimidated going to a club or dungeon where they dont know anyone, and for us, and our little island, we also use the Munch to vet people before telling them the where abouts of a play party.

the spirit of munches are not particularly serious, i have been to them on the beach and at the mall...if you are looking to reach out to you community, or create a community KUDOS...that is awesome...try an ad on Craig's list and see what transpires.

if you are looking for a discussion group that is a very different thing then a munch, and i would guess that you would have better luck looking at the leather community in your local area.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/19/2008 12:22:02 PM

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I have a tip. If you are fishing for people from collarme to attend, you might want to mention that you are in El Centro, California in the OP.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/19/2008 4:08:43 PM

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Get ready for people to tell you what YOU should be doing on YOUR time. The best way to diffuse that is to tell them that their idea is great and if they need any advice on making it happen, you look forward to giving it to them.

1/2 the people will hate the time, 1/2 will hate the location, 1/2 will hate the day and the rest will just whine and bitch.

This isn't a Munch its a Round Table and if you are regulating who gets to go and who doesn't it is an Elitist Round Table at that.

You will be called Chest Thumpers
You will be called "One Twue Way"ers
You will be Disliked.

And that's just by the people that like you an will attend.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/19/2008 6:37:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UBERMUNSCHIST

I only want about 10 people who are open minded and serious about their interests.

why only 10? what's so special about having this selected chosen few?

from my pov, it seems you have a strict selection process in reaching your 10. included a select and exclude the rest - sounds very pompous and elitist.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/21/2008 9:12:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Drop the "serious about the lifestyle" schtick. I am quite friviolous about the lifestyle, I gag when people call it that, what I am and what I do defies labels and yet...few would call me "fake" or anything along those lines.

>Yeah, I felt weird typing that...

Get ready for people to tell you what YOU should be doing on YOUR time. The best way to diffuse that is to tell them that their idea is great and if they need any advice on making it happen, you look forward to giving it to them.

> That's why I only want 10.

1/2 the people will hate the time, 1/2 will hate the location, 1/2 will hate the day and the rest will just whine and bitch.

> This is true, but if they're serious they'll look past all of this bullshit.

Smile and know they are talking and you are doing.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/21/2008 9:20:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: UBERMUNSCHIST

I'm going to host a local "munch". I only want about 10 people who are open minded and serious about their interests.

My goal is to raise other peoples awareness about BDSM, and hopefully create a comfortable atmosphere [for the open minded individuals attending].

I think you just contradicted yourself. If they are serious, they're already aware.

No, I did not.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/21/2008 9:43:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Maya2001

quote:

only want about 10 people who are open minded and serious about their interests.

Does that include people whose main fet is living a 50's lifestyle or CDs and sissy maids or those into age play but not interested in impact play, humiliation acts or bondage

or do you mean similiar interests as your own

> All BDSM activities will be adressed, and safely practised.

BDSM activities are extremely broad ...heck I was participating in some in vanillia relationships before I ever realized they were considered BDSM activities

so the question is who do you consider serious?

> The few who take action.

what are your standards for measuring?

> A ruler?

what activities will they have to be participating in to be part of your elitist group?

> Why, are you interested?

and how are you planning to create awareness using a closed group as chances are with such a small group you will not be covering a broad spectrum of BDSM awareness it would be severely restricted by the kinks by the members who are involved

> I live in a small conservative town!

It will create awareness.

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RE: MUNSCHSTER - 4/21/2008 9:52:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

This isn't a Munch its a Round Table and if you are regulating who gets to go and who doesn't it is an Elitist Round Table at that.

You will be called Chest Thumpers
You will be called "One Twue Way"ers
You will be Disliked.

> I will be putting a lot of My, Money, Time and Energy into it; so that's okay.

I would rather have 10 ubermensch, than 1000 fools.

If you want a Roundtable just start a round table a discussion workshop akin to a MAsT meeting and just Enjoy yourselves.

> This will come later.

As for AWARENESS of the LIFESTYLE
I can Really appreciate the sentiment but you have to understand you are not bringing awareness to the Lifestyle you are bringing awareness to your own adgenda's and personal beliefs.

> That's Good!

If you want to do something worth a Damn that helps to bring awareness to the good things that those in the BDSM lifestyle do....

Form a Group of Kinky Player and then go to inner cities and cleam up parks Otherwise you really aren't doing anyone any good.

> This sounds like a really great idea.

Okay folks I am an advocate for opeining eyes to the lifestyle but I do it ONE PERSON AT A TIME. having Roundtables only serves the purpose of the one setting it up. More over than that I have been to Open Forums for BDSM Discussion usually the Pompass Smell of Jackass is so thick you can hardly breathe.

> This is exactly what I'm going to eliminate. Having a selected few insures that nobody will have to go through that bullshit.

So many people only see to thier own noses and usually when doing so they are looking down them at others.

As Always

Steel

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