IronBear
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If you get a couple of people who are prepared to post their opinions and also ready to aggressively (Not abusively but vigorously) dismember the opposition post, there are those who for what ever reason will see the opposition’s comments as being personal. This may be due to a fragile ego, the refusal to accept that some one else may be correct or the form of post against them just appears to be directed at them. After a few posts the commonsense level decreases and the ire rises so that you have a budding flame war with each person trying to outdo the other. (A male pissing contest). Even when the thread is ended, there is a strong possibility that these two protagonists will continue to harbour feelings of ill will toward the other and logic would indicate that each is looking (often subconsciously) for personalised attacks. What follows, may be snide comments, an attitude of superiority and thus either condescending comments and /or sarcasm. At times it is difficult to spot this and in fact in many cases it isn’t there except in the mind of the other person. In many cases I’d say the Mods having been made aware of the animosity from previous situations will probably monitor the threads closely and act with warnings or a pre-emptive lock down to stop a flame war starting.. It really doesn’t matter who the people involved are, we all at times are guilty of childish acts and temper tantrums.. Some people just either don’t like another, or irrespective of what is said, will not recognise them as being whatever (Gorean, BDSM, TPE etc, etc ~ you add the appropriate group). Until everybody involved is prepared to step back and make some adjustments in their cyber speech pattern or mannerisms this will continue..
Personally, I’d prefer to see more people speaking out when some one is being rude, ill-mannered, condescending or abusive. Remember the “offender” may not be aware how he or she is coming across and at the least all they can do in retaliation is to abuse you which others including the Mods will pick up and deal with. You always have the option to report a post or block some one who is being abusive. If enough people do speak up perhaps the “Offender/s” will realise that they are acting in an inappropriate manner,
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