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blackpearl81 -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:08:55 AM)
Does anyone have specific examples of a time they've been impressed by a sub they wouldn't have normally considered? Ie: A sub who was practically a "virgin" to the lifestyle, exhibiting a high amount of skill in something - ie shibari/robe bondage etc?

crouchingtigress -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:09:02 AM)
i tried to be agist...i really did....i thought i had rules about who my partners would be, and they kept showing up in all different sizes, shapes, sexes, and ages...amazing people who thank god i opened the door for, because they have in turn opened my heart and mind...

Evility -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:13:39 AM)
I cannot see myself waking up one day to consider a submissive that I would normally never have considered otherwise. My dealbreakers are in place for a reason - the reasons may seem petty to others but they are important to me and that's what matters most to me. That is how I read your post - pertaining to dealbreakers. Preferences are a different story. Sure, I prefer certain things but there is some latitude within my preferences. She might make an exemplary submissive for another dominant bit if I have to make a radical change to my standard operating procedure then she likely would not be an exemplary submissive for me. Edited for grammar/spelling.

Madame4a -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:18:25 AM)
Recently, I've found making exceptions has not worked well for me. That said, if someone impressed me enough -- I'd think twice. I have a very close friend and have to remind myself regularly that he's much younger than I am -- 20 years. As my boi says, our friend has an old soul. He's been through a lot that lends a level of maturity. If I simply rejected him because of age, I wouldn't have him as a friend. He's also becoming a regular play partner for my boi and me. That said, he's not submissive and wouldn't likely fit that in my life. There are exceptions to everything. In the end, its just good to have a few guidelines in life -- at least for me.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:30:02 AM)
Excuse me very much[:D]! James is 36 and I am indeed 25. There is an 11 year age diffrence between us.And if you look around, there's plenty of instances of very old doms owning very young girls. There's one man here who's beyond 50 and his partner is like 20 or something. So it kind of blows your doubt out of the water. Now, maybe it's diffrent for women dominants, and male subs, I don't know I don't pay any attention to fem dom male sub dynamics since it's not an interest of mine, but age diffrences are quite common in male dom fem sub. quote: ORIGINAL: blackpearl81 Ok.. (I'm trying in vain to come up with a topic that hasn't been beaten to death already.. so please, bare with me) Most here would (hopefully?) agree that age plays a significant factor..I highly doubt you'd see a 35+ y.o Dominant, owning a ~25 something year old sub Notice: I said doubt.Thats not to say it doesn't happen.

blackpearl81 -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:33:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss Excuse me very much[:D]! James is 36 and I am indeed 25. There is an 11 year age diffrence between us.And if you look around, there's plenty of instances of very old doms owning very young girls. There's one man here who's beyond 50 and his partner is like 20 or something. So it kind of blows your doubt out of the water. Now, maybe it's diffrent for women dominants, and male subs, I don't know I don't pay any attention to fem dom male sub dynamics since it's not an interest of mine, but age diffrences are quite common in male dom fem sub. quote: ORIGINAL: blackpearl81 Ok.. (I'm trying in vain to come up with a topic that hasn't been beaten to death already.. so please, bare with me) Most here would (hopefully?) agree that age plays a significant factor..I highly doubt you'd see a 35+ y.o Dominant, owning a ~25 something year old sub Notice: I said doubt.Thats not to say it doesn't happen. You sunk my battleship! =o(

BitchGoddessD -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:36:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: blackpearl81 I've been wanting to get everyones opinion on this, mainly because I find myself attracted to older women... but my age (27) is kind of a hindrance.. In your profile you are looking for someone 3-8 years older. I don't understand why you would have such difficulty. To me that is not a significant age difference. Keep looking - you will find her. [:)]

blackpearl81 -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:47:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitchGoddessD quote: ORIGINAL: blackpearl81 I've been wanting to get everyones opinion on this, mainly because I find myself attracted to older women... but my age (27) is kind of a hindrance.. In your profile you are looking for someone 3-8 years older. I don't understand why you would have such difficulty. To me that is not a significant age difference. Keep looking - you will find her. [:)] Thank you, that was mainly for the romantic relationship side of things... one wierd (quirk?) I've noticed about myself, is that I seem to befriend people who are significantly older than me - sometimes as much as twice my age. I find the friendships I get from those individuals are more solid than the ones with people my own age... Maybe it has to do with the enormous amount of crap I dealt with as a teen, which might have forced me to grow up/mature quicker, instead of letting nature take its course. Dunno if that makes any sense, but its something I've wondered for a long time..

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:49:13 AM)
hehehe man over board man overboard! quote: ORIGINAL: blackpearl81 quote: ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss Excuse me very much[:D]! James is 36 and I am indeed 25. There is an 11 year age diffrence between us.And if you look around, there's plenty of instances of very old doms owning very young girls. There's one man here who's beyond 50 and his partner is like 20 or something. So it kind of blows your doubt out of the water. Now, maybe it's diffrent for women dominants, and male subs, I don't know I don't pay any attention to fem dom male sub dynamics since it's not an interest of mine, but age diffrences are quite common in male dom fem sub. quote: ORIGINAL: blackpearl81 Ok.. (I'm trying in vain to come up with a topic that hasn't been beaten to death already.. so please, bare with me) Most here would (hopefully?) agree that age plays a significant factor..I highly doubt you'd see a 35+ y.o Dominant, owning a ~25 something year old sub Notice: I said doubt.Thats not to say it doesn't happen. You sunk my battleship! =o(

Tantriqu -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:50:30 AM)
And you might want to change your byline: Sympathy is between shit and syphilis in the dictionary ~ [:'(]

mzbehavin -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:50:59 AM)
I've made exceptions... geographically. And no that didn't work out. Exceptional people come in all ages, as some of the others said, its about the energy and connection really. As for friends, i don't discriminate based on age, role, or gender.

mzbehavin -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 10:55:24 AM)
ps. Yes, my exHusband is exceptionally good at rope lingerie and took to it like a duck to water. We were newbies together 8 years ago so it was all new to us. His well placed knots were divine and the work was art from day 1.

LaMistressa -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 12:26:45 PM)
I did have an age limitation (or at least a strong preference for submissives within ten years of my age), but my sissy emily made me reconsider that. We met, we clicked, and there you go (24 vs. 45.) The individual in question made me rethink it. Now, does this mean I want my other hard limits challenged and reconsidered? No. But when it comes to age, I am more flexible than I thought I was.

BitaTruble -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 2:19:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: blackpearl81 If You had an age limitation, (or experience limitation) what would cause You to rethink that, if anything? I'm sure everyone here has come across an exemplary submissive at one point or another... How many here have bent Your rules significantly - to give that one submissive (who You would have NEVER normally considered otherwise) a chance, and what was the outcome? It doesn't neccesarily have to be something like age... it can be pretty much anything. I'm pretty stubborn on some things and I don't give people a chance who, from the get go, have hard limits in areas which I adore or who insist that things I hate will have to be part of the package, so I have never bent my own rules in any significant way because I really don't get an opportunity (nor do I regret such) to see if they'd be a fit outside of those areas. Maybe that's mean, but saying 'nope, next' isn't a problem for me. There was a guy who had a hard limit on needle play which is non-negotiable with me. You 'have' to allow the activity if you want to play with me. He got really upset because I wouldn't take him on as a bottom and just do the other stuff that he enjoyed. Well, I don't think I (or anyone) should have to settle for less than I want, so I declined his offers. I chalked it up to us just not being compatible and he chalked it up to me being a cunt. [sm=dunno.gif] Celeste

abcbsex -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 4:05:11 PM)
well, I'm not a mistress so I'll only be able to talk about my experience as a young sub. Alpha and I have been looking for a girl to play with. At first, we were very limited in our search, looking for someone who was our age (early twenties), submissive and female. We were recently contacted and have struck up a friendship (meeting soon!) with a dominant woman and her sub, both of whom are very much out of our initial age range. While speaking with her, she told me that she was making an exception in our cases because she normally plays with those closer to her age, but something inspired her to initiate contact, she said we had a sincerity about us. I'm very flattered by it and hope not to dissappoint! I think if you keep your spirits up and make sure you come across as willing to please as a sub, a Domme might take interest in you and not just your age.

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 4:13:21 PM)
At this point in my life I can't really have a major age difference between me and a sub where he's younger than me, seeing as much younger and it'd be illegal. [:D] As it stands I've got quite a taste for older men, anyway. Not as much as Celine Dion, but something like a four or five year age difference? Hey, I'll take that. I don't much care for my contemporaries, as a general rule. I've been told, though, that as a woman gets older there comes a point in time where "older than her" is just not gonna work out, at which point you start looking at younger men. Obviously I don't have a reference point for this, but I can imagine myself being in my 30s and having a cabana boy, oh my yes. I've got a pool in my backyard that needs cleaning, now all I need is Goran Visnjic to come over and do it in a pair of cutoff shorts. Yummy!

MsStarlett -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 5:07:31 PM)
Hmmm... Cabana boys... yummy!

blackpearl81 -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 5:35:31 PM)
Maybe now's not the greatest time to mention my cabana boy experience. Serving drinks, cleaning pools, all that jazz. [sm=doh.gif]

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 5:36:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: blackpearl81 Maybe now's not the greatest time to mention my cabana boy experience. Serving drinks, cleaning pools, all that jazz. [sm=doh.gif] Yes, but do you have a hot accent? All cabana boys have to have a hot accent.

blackpearl81 -> RE: Interesting debate for the Misses that are here..... (4/20/2008 5:42:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie quote: ORIGINAL: blackpearl81 Maybe now's not the greatest time to mention my cabana boy experience. Serving drinks, cleaning pools, all that jazz. [sm=doh.gif] Yes, but do you have a hot accent? All cabana boys have to have a hot accent. Whew. Eliminated at the last second. [sm=ubanana.gif] *Edited to add: You have an AWESOME taste in games - FF2 & 3 were by FAR my favorites in the FF series. (Despite them being for the SNES) I'm currently rocking FF: Crisis Core on my psp.

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