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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 6:05:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		that's beautiful, Gris..got me weepy... *hugs*

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 6:13:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is a terrific thread, Cali.

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 6:20:19 PM   
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that's beautiful, Gris..got me weepy... *hugs*


Me too.

I'm just glad someone else besides me heard his story....he was so incredibly beautiful

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 6:23:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		geez, sometimes you find very touching things in the middle of CM...it always amazes me but makes me appreciative that  some people share certain things.

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 6:32:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Little things like..giving the money to a classmate so she could buy a crystal from a shop that was closing that day...

Driving another classmate 50 kms to the city so she could catch the train home to the country after class when she had gotten a call mid day tat her daughter was sick..

You just do these things because it is the right thing to do..not because there is a benefit for you.

They are gifts from the soul

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 6:43:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Griswold

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

that's beautiful, Gris..got me weepy... *hugs*


Me too.

I'm just glad someone else besides me heard his story....he was so incredibly beautiful


Sounds like it..thank you for sharing him with the rest of us :)


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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 7:04:05 PM   
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As LaT said, it would involve writing a book to list all the small but wonderfully helpful things people have done for me while expecting nothing back in return.

I have always tried to do good things for people I know and do not really know, always feeling it will be returned to me in kind one day when I need it most.

Some of the things I can think of are (and I know this sounds crazy but) picking up hitchhikers while on long trips and giving them rides for hundreds of miles.  I used to do that quite a bit but don't travel near as much these days and Master has said "never again" as far as picking up hitchers.  It always worked out well, really helped them out and I got to meet some very intriguing strangers.

Another thing I've done several times is to be eating lunch in some little place and leave a $20 for the waitress wrapped in a note saying "God Bless" or something like that.  Sometimes you just know they need it and I think back on times when a stranger randomly giving me $20 would have made my day and helped more than they would've realized. 

There's other things but those are the ones that I remember most.  Sometimes I think even just listening to strangers ramble on and get something off his/her chest means more than we know.  Offering some encouragement and a helping hand in one way or another can make all the difference...........luci

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 7:34:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		I try to do things for others, in whatever way I can.  I've been so blessed over the years (often when I really wasn't worthy of the kindnesses shown me), that now I feel that the only way to earn those past blessings is to 'pay it forward'...
When I can, I'll buy groceries, put some gas in a car, give someone a ride... of course,it'snot often I can afford to do that..but I am always open to listening when someone needs a friendly ear, or a hug.  And whoever said that a smile can make a difference is SO right... sometimes an honest smile from a stranger can make a world of difference.

this is a GREAT thread.... thanks!


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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 7:44:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		We were out to breakfast and when we asked for the check the waiter said that the couple that just left had paid for ours.  We had never seen them before.  So a few weeks later we did the same thing for another couple. I still wonder if someone had done the same thing for the couple that bought our breakfast and they were paying it forward.

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  Because of many injuries from my employment I use a cane to walk. I am amazed at the number of children and young adults that will hold a door open for me to enter. Or if I drop something will run over and pick it up for me.


I had the same experience when i was using a walker then a cane after my hip surgery.  Cars also stopped for me to cross the street.  Now things are back to normal.

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 7:56:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		A few years ago I was coming back from NoVa from visiting a Dom I was involved with.  On my way back my honda was over heating really badly and it was pouring terribly outside.  I kept stopping at gas stations to add more water and what not ... finally i hit busy interstate 95, was freaking out because i was 18, driving alone with a screwy car and didnt know if i was going to get home.  I stopped at a gas station and there was a couple in a van who seemed to be having a problem with their car as well. we spoke for a few, said good bye and I left.  All hell broke lose and finally my car just shut down in the middle of the interstate (i was able to move to the emergency lane).  I wasnt getting a signal...I wrote a sign and stood outside in the rain hoping someone would give me a ride to the gas station.  After about 30 minutes, the same couple pulled over, picked me up and took me to the closes gas station so i coudl make calls to make proper arrangments and even though I insisted on just waiting and staying at the hotel, they volunteered to drive me back to richmond.  We got to my place, I invited them in to shower and have somethign to eat before they left.  Apparently they were from Maine going to California for their daughters wedding and didnt have much extra money for food.  It was such a scary thing for me to do, especially since they had the typical kinapper van with all sorts of things that just didnt settle very well with me, but we've managed to stay in contact and whenever they travel they call just to stop by and say hello.



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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 8:33:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you cali.

Several years ago I was given an opportunity to move from a pretty dull, futureless life in Kansas, to a wonderful enjoyable life in paradise (Hawaii).  I have been accepted in this community.  I have given back.  We had a major earthquake about a year and a half ago, and a number of us in the trades volunteered to help the elderly and indigent to repair their homes.  And they payed it forward, helping others where they could.  The earthquake really brought this community together.
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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 9:10:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Griswold
I know for a fact...he thrilled catching trout...and when he caught a big one....I know he'd say "That one's for Jonny!!!!"... I've never told anyone here my name..in all my time here...


Gris (and Jonny, you will always be Gris or Grizzy to me), I am touched and honored that you chose to share your story. And your name.  Thank you.

And thank you to everyone else as well.  The thread had a slow start, and I was a little bummed about it, thinking, "Surely there are things, large and small, that people have done for us.  Things they didn't have to do, but chose to do."  Thank you all for sharing your stories.

And yes, Gris, I know.  I know what I have to do.

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 10:38:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		While backpacking in Ireland and in the rush to get on a train, I left my travel bag in the station.  It contained every single piece of ID (passport, eurailpass, hostel pass) I owned and every penny for the entire trip except the 20 pounds I had in a pocket.  At the next station in a small town, a woman who owned a B&B took me in, fed me, and turned me out the next day to go back to the train station, not knowing if I was scamming her or would return with payment.  The bag made its way back to me completely intact, handled by at least 3 others (the person who found it, the stationmaster, the conductor who brought it to me).

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/21/2008 11:36:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I left my husband, I could only take my bed and some clothes with me (this made moving easy anyway).  I was telling one of my cousins who was visiting from a recent move to Spain how cool my friends were, that they were arranging a garage-sale-hoppin' weekend to furnish my apartment.  She said "Hey, silly, I just moved - I have an entire apartment in storage - take it!"  She was serious.  She furnished everything except a kitchen table, which she didn't have anymore.

So one day driving home from work I stopped by a thrift store, not knowing it was a WEAVE store (Women Escaping An Abusive Environment).  I saw a kitchen table & chairs but I couldn't afford it.  It was a nice set and I was looking at it, and the store clerk said, "How does $40 for the whole set sound?"  I was astonished and started crying (I'm a sap, btw).

I was amazed at all the goodness. 

When my ex abandoned our house, he took all my belongings with him, except for several wardrobe boxes of clothes that were all very nice but (ahem) too small.  I brought them all to WEAVE.  My sister gave me my grandmother's kitchen table so I brought my WEAVE table back to them so they could sell it again.  I give things away all the time now.  Life is simpler with less.  And the more I give, the more I receive (sounds cliche but it's really not).  I find a lot more pleasure in giving than in having, these days.  This is an awesome feeling, since I lived with a hoarder for so long.

I remember years ago during one of the stretches my ex husband was jobless and we were broke, a friend of mine at work was always giving things away - to me, to others, to anyone who she thought would benefit.  She took us to lunch, brought us little gifts, etc.  The thing is, she didn't have a lot of money, either, but it made her feel good.  I always remember her and try to honor her by doing the same for others.  I don't think I could ever fill her shoes - such a beautiful spirit she is.

Cali this is a great thread - So good to focus on positive, kind things!!  Kudos to you!

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/22/2008 1:03:26 AM   
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Last year, I gave away a fake xmas tree to a lady who had just gotten divorced.. 5 yr old kid, she didnt want the xmas to be lacking.. so she got the tree.. and I threw in a few stuffed animals.  The lady was crying..over her divorce, mainly.. but then she said "this is the nicest thing anyone has done for me since before I got married".

I was floored.

and while part of me felt good for helping her to make her kids xmas better, most of me was sad that this was the nicest thing.. *sigh*  I guess I have a huge chunk of 'white knight' in me....

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/22/2008 1:15:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Greedy, that's really cool, and thanks for the link!  I'll check it out.

Your story reminded me of one Christmas about 10 years ago, my mom was complaining about needing help getting a Christmas tree.  So I surprised her with one and picked one up.  She was in one of her "moods" though, and didn't want it.  So I called the local childrens shelter and they welcomed it.  Oh to see all those little ones all excited about this tree being brought in - it was awesome.  Two days later Mom asked if I still had the tree because she wanted it. 

I told her where she could visit it.   I think it made her think. :)

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RE: Paying it Forward - 4/22/2008 5:33:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have been  part of an online BDSM chat environment for a number of years, and over the years made a lot of friends, many of them I met offline at events and munches, we had fun arranging get togethers  but most of it was spent chatting online.
I know a lot of people put down online but not me....Last year my father had a heart attack and wasnt expected to make it,  we were  practically living from paycheck to paycheck and a thousand dollar trip to the UK just wasnt likely, I was in a hell of a mess and told my best friend what had happened and the situation........well   the news flew around the chat rooms, and the next thing I know is that they have collected  money to pay for my flight. I was overwhelmed, totally.  I think the word I used a lot back then was gobsmacked.
If it hadnt been for them, I dont know how I would have managed to get home, I probably wouldnt have, but thanks to them, I got to bury my dad and be there with my mum and sisters to say goodbye to him. I will never forget any of the people that donated and those who sent sympathies, my family both here and at home will always be grateful for their kindness to a "virtual stranger"
Lots of other stories like others have said, and Ive done what I can to keep the good karma going, but this one will always be close to my heart.
Lucy

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