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Phone punishments?? - 10/11/2005 11:20:46 PM   
bdsandm


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Iam a Dom that has been practicing for over 10 years.
I have a submissive that i need more punishment ideas for. Iam used to punishing in person rather the phone. I have been on vacation and away for various things so, I need punishment ideas that can take place while we are apart (on the phone, etc..). There have been a couple things that she has done to earn a punishment. Can you help me on any ideas. One punishment that i used the other day that got to her was cutting her off from speaking to me for 24 hours... Other times, i got her to punish herself over the phone. Any other ideas?

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 12:01:04 AM   
JustaTop


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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 12:35:05 AM   
Phoenxx


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Status: offline 		I have never been fond of the whole “you may not talk to me for blah-blah amount of time”. What if something happens that she needs to talk to you about. A possible example is the passing of a family member. A car accident… If you order her not to contact you and she doesn't then what? Beat her for it? Or punish her if she does?
If you leave her on her own, you CANNOT punish her for what she does. At least that is how I see it. Unless it violates an established rule…
Depending on how long you are gone for, why not save it up. She will punish herself waiting for you…. LOL
Or there is the whole “hmmm… is THAT how you behave when I’m not around?”
Other things could be:
Kneeling on rice while you talk to her.
Rubbing various ice rubs, oils or perfume on sensitive body parts.
Making her watch old Lost in Space re-runs…

Tony

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 12:37:35 AM   
Wolfie648


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Status: offline 		Hanging up on them in mid sentence works but I only do this if they (they, lol wouldn't that be nice - she) are messing up in their communication with me. ie I've told her the same thing in the same conversation a number of times in a variety of ways. I should not have to say anything more than once. Unfortunately we are human and don't remember everything all the time, however if in one conversation they 'forget' a few times what that says to me is "I'm not listening to you", and if she isn't listening she sure as heck isn't worth talking to - at that time.

Nothing crushesa sub or slave like knowing they have failed and 'hanging up' on them mid anything definitely sends that message whther it be a in person conversation, phone call or vacation.

Other than that every person has their own quirks - my slave for example hates bananas. Well guess what, you mess up you get to eat a banana. A minor punishment but still - it's so personal >:->

Taking away certain rights (yes I know I own a slave which (in my definition has no rights) - but if you give them rights it let's you take them away when they mess up :-) also works.

D (owner of j)

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 12:39:00 AM   
APhacetoSit


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Status: offline 		Ben-gay or Icy/Hot on various sensitive areas while you are talking to her can be quite effective. You will hear whether she complies or not.

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 3:40:48 AM   
MstrHellsFury


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Status: offline 		just answering your question with one of my own...if you've been doing this for over 10 yrs...why are you even asking this question?

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 4:27:28 AM   
JohnWarren


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ORIGINAL: APhacetoSit

Ben-gay or Icy/Hot on various sensitive areas while you are talking to her can be quite effective. You will hear whether she complies or not.


To be quite honest, he might also hear how good an actress she is. That is one of the big problems with long distance play

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 5:42:28 AM   
masterLon3446


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Status: offline 		MstrHellsFury,
He stated that he has been praticing for over ten years, maybe he has not got it right yet, they do say practice makes perfect, but, for 10 years???? OMG. Phone sex/dominantion is the same as cybersex/domination,one can never be sure of anything, play as you like, use your imagination, but never expect any of it is ever going to happen, just pretend it is..thats what cyber is all about anyway....pretending...have fun with it...

MasterLon

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 6:04:17 AM   
mistoferin


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quote:

I have a submissive that i need more punishment ideas for. Iam a Dom that has been practicing for over 10 years.


Maybe the question you should be asking yourself is "do I want to be in a relationship with a submissive that is repeatedly acting up to the point that I am running out of punishment ideas?". Or "is she screwing up because she really can't control herself or is she doing this in order to get punishment.....or is she doing this because I am failing her somehow?".

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 6:09:13 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

quote:

I have a submissive that i need more punishment ideas for. Iam a Dom that has been practicing for over 10 years.


Maybe the question you should be asking yourself is "do I want to be in a relationship with a submissive that is repeatedly acting up to the point that I am running out of punishment ideas?". Or "is she screwing up because she really can't control herself or is she doing this in order to get punishment.....or is she doing this because I am failing her somehow?".

Dang that's what I was going to say.

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 7:28:11 AM   
WickedKev


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Status: offline 		Agree with most posts here if I were away would simply tell her to expect the worse punishment she had in her life when I get home. When she asks me what it would be, I would simply tell her she would find out soon enough but I guarantee she won't like it. Then let her sweat on it. As for cybour or phone doesn't do anything for me.

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 9:36:58 AM   
Phoenxx


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Status: offline 		I've tried phone sex.. but the holes were too small....

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 10:06:39 AM   
Phoenxx


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ORIGINAL: masterLon3446

..thats what cyber is all about anyway....pretending...have fun with it...

MasterLon


While pretending isn't a bad thing... and it is in no ways close to real, it is not total invalid either.
There have been various experiments done with regards to sports and physical and mental practice. And there seems to be very little difference between them. For example:
“In a controlled experiment, basketball players were told to shoot a number of free throws. Their score of baskets were then recorded. They were then divided into three groups. The first group was told not to practice. The second, to practice an hour a day. The third, to practice an hour a day, not on the basketball court, but in their imagination. After 30 days, they were retested. The first group, not surprisingly, made no progress. The second group, who practiced every day, showed a 24% gain in the number of baskets. What about group three, who practiced not on the court but in their mind? They increased their score by 23%!”
You can in fact pick up physical skills through mental practice. You may want to read this article:
http://www.vanderbilt.edu/AnS/psychology/health_psychology/mentalimage.html

Maybe we should do a little less sneering at cyber… after all ... we are having a cyber conversation?
Tony

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 11:16:14 AM   
WickedKev


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ORIGINAL: Phoenxx

I've tried phone sex.. but the holes were too small....


I tried phone sex but it didn't ring my bell......

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 12:06:31 PM   
ownedjulia


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ORIGINAL: Phoenxx

I've tried phone sex.. but the holes were too small....


Me too. I lost the phone.


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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 12:12:57 PM   
Phoenixandnika


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Sometimes people do not have a choice in being long distance for a period of time. A perfect example would be those in the military. Should a Dominate not still have expectations of his submissive or slave? If a Dominate is away for a period should they not still hold their slave or submissive accountable?

I know a few who are in this situation currently, some of the things they use are essays, getting a web cam so you can see the punishment you give her,I know a dominate who made his girl kneel in a corner while the cam was on for an hour, another would be to limit computer time or other personal things that they enjoy.

Nika{Phoenix}





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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/12/2005 2:57:41 PM   
MstrHellsFury


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Status: offline 		I know we're not perfect in everything we do...but I'm still scratching my head...I thought the general idea was to strive to be the best you could be...if you're away or long distance...isn't that a prime time event for showing just how good a teacher you are...just a thought...

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/13/2005 12:25:58 AM   
Wolfie648


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quote:

Ben-gay or Icy/Hot on various sensitive areas while you are talking to her can be quite effective. You will hear whether she complies or not.


If one were to do this (ben-gay, etc.) a frame of reference, in person, it would surely shed some light on the subject.

As for my original post, I'd have to say I didn't even consider her acting up to receive punishment - I don't do well with brats (ie seek punishment) I send them away before I hurt them too badly, and my current girl knows and wants to do better.

So I suppose that leaves what a few others have said either you like having a brat (which some people do), or you've fed us a line to those who would bite, or well...hmmm...perhaps you [poster of thread] would like to reply.

I found this to be of particular interest in a post to a group: "I came across your profile and thought perhaps you could help me... "

D (owner of j)

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/14/2005 1:26:59 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		It likely sounds like a form letter, with the introduction I came across yourprofile.


Like he'd copied and pasted it then forgot he did.


And as a saftey percuation the posion control people said not to use bengay in body parts.

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RE: Phone punishments?? - 10/16/2005 5:05:16 AM   
Prunesquallor


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ORIGINAL: masterLon3446

MstrHellsFury,
Phone sex/dominantion is the same as cybersex/domination,one can never be sure of anything, play as you like, use your imagination, but never expect any of it is ever going to happen, just pretend it is..thats what cyber is all about anyway....pretending...have fun with it...

MasterLon


Forgive me if I disagree with you strongly. I have online relationships with two female slaves, and while it can never be the same as a 'real life' relationship, nevertheless the emotions are just as real. And in the same way that trust is an important part of a 'real life' relationship it is even more vital in an online one. I know that if I give one of my slaves a task or a punishment, that task or punishment will be carried out.

My slaves are as aware as me that if they started disobeying online orders, the whole basis of the relationship would fall apart - I would no longer be their Master and they would no longer be my slaves.

I suspect that online relationships might be as varied as 'real life' ones, but certainly, not all of them are about pretending. This particular relationship, while it might lack taste, touch, smell, nevertheless has enabled three people to develop and grow - there is nothing 'pretend' about that.



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