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ORIGINAL: DarkLovelyDomme

You certainly aren't obligated to see everyone who asks!

My experience at a house of domination was that you pretty much had to do whatever session came in for you. But as an Independent, I refuse clients I have no interest in.

Sometimes they want to explore scenes that either bore or repulse me.
Sometimes you get people who really wan sex, but don't want to pay the high cost that an attractive prostitute would charge: so they call up an attractive Pro Domme and petition for an hour of facesitting and/or "breast worship."
I get requests for dancing and massages. Hour-long foot sessions (which might be great fun for another Domme, but bores me to tears). If I had to take just whoever asked, I'd quit!

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

The original question asks can a pro mistress really choose her clients. The answer would have to be a resounding no. She can choose who she does NOT want as her clients, but unfortunately, she's still left with the need to find a client that is first interested in paying for her services. So, the real choice she has is who not to choose, not really who to choose. I've had a large number of proclaimed pro dominants who have contacted me "announcing" their availability for sessions in my area; unfortunately, that doesn't net them a future client, so the choice really remained with the potential client in that circumstance.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Any professional---doctor, lawyer, CPA---has to market him/herself and wait for someone to come to them.  That's the marketplace, regardless of commodity.

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ORIGINAL: MsSaskia

Ugh. Don't know what house you worked at, but I do NOT schedule anyone for "breast worship" sessions, ever. Face sitting is scheduled only if the domme they want to see agrees to it and only if the client understands that the domme will be wearing underwear that covers everything - not a thong. Ditto with ass worship. We don't have people sitting at the dungeon all day for shifts, though, so when someone calls in for a session, I either find out if there's someone specific they want to see and check availability, or I find out what they're into, decide who they'd be most compatable with (sometimes it's me), and double check with that dom/me (we have a male dominant on staff) to see if they're up for it. If not, no big deal. We'd make more money if we did things the way the house you worked for was run, but we're pretty happy with our arrangement. The women that work for me that have worked at other houses say they like our arrangement better, too.

Why on Earth would people ask a dominant for a dance or a massage? That's just ... we've gotten calls like that, but I refer them to an escort or a strip club or a masseuse.

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ORIGINAL: DarkLovelyDomme

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ORIGINAL: MsSaskia

Ugh. Don't know what house you worked at, but I do NOT schedule anyone for "breast worship" sessions, ever. Face sitting is scheduled only if the domme they want to see agrees to it and only if the client understands that the domme will be wearing underwear that covers everything - not a thong. Ditto with ass worship. We don't have people sitting at the dungeon all day for shifts, though, so when someone calls in for a session, I either find out if there's someone specific they want to see and check availability, or I find out what they're into, decide who they'd be most compatable with (sometimes it's me), and double check with that dom/me (we have a male dominant on staff) to see if they're up for it. If not, no big deal. We'd make more money if we did things the way the house you worked for was run, but we're pretty happy with our arrangement. The women that work for me that have worked at other houses say they like our arrangement better, too.

Why on Earth would people ask a dominant for a dance or a massage? That's just ... we've gotten calls like that, but I refer them to an escort or a strip club or a masseuse.

I don't mean to imply that I did breast worship: just that as an independent, I have to field requests for it. As a house mistress, I mostly had to do the same dull sessions over and over (schoolgirl roleplays, and other things that hold no interest for me). The worst was when someone made a house appointment with me and I walked in to find that he only had "body worship" as an interest. Yeah. Good times.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Any professional---doctor, lawyer, CPA---has to market him/herself and wait for someone to come to them.  That's the marketplace, regardless of commodity.

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner
So I was amazed - nay gobsmacked - to hear the ratio of 90% rejects from posters! 

It suggests, even allowing for the fakes, that there's a huge unsatisfied market out there. Which is weird; normally simple supply and demand sort out the ratios so that unfulfilled needs get met reasonably quickly (in economic terms) and the market very roughly levels out.

Are we saying that in this specific specialist area there really is a large surplus of (admittedly not top rate) subs compared with available (pro or non-pro) dommes?

(Ponders late career change - Lynnxz, if you need an agent ....)

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner
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80% of them are looking for prostitution
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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Any professional---doctor, lawyer, CPA---has to market him/herself and wait for someone to come to them.  That's the marketplace, regardless of commodity.

In my business (no - I'm not a pro Dom!) we can choose. We're very good at what we do so we don't have to take just anything. But we turn away remarkably little business; maybe 5% absolute tops.

So I was amazed - nay gobsmacked - to hear the ratio of 90% rejects from posters! 

It suggests, even allowing for the fakes, that there's a huge unsatisfied market out there. Which is weird; normally simple supply and demand sort out the ratios so that unfulfilled needs get met reasonably quickly (in economic terms) and the market very roughly levels out.

Are we saying that in this specific specialist area there really is a large surplus of (admittedly not top rate) subs compared with available (pro or non-pro) dommes?


(Ponders late career change - Lynnxz, if you need an agent ....)

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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

I have a friend who's a pro and she rejects clients all the time. Sure some pros might choose money over morals but that's the same in any business. There's the power to refuse.

Now that might be different if she's working in a brothel or dungeon where some boss runs the place and expects her to take in any client who walks in. But if she's a real dominant she'll be the only one in control of her business.

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner
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80% of them are looking for prostitution
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It was that group I was amazed by RP. Pro-domme (is that what you mean by prostitution?) these days is not a shameful thing - it's a fun specialist service

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ORIGINAL: AMADF

is this really true that as a pro mistress you cannot say to any a client-sub? or also have some code to accept clients?

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner
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80% of them are looking for prostitution
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It was that group I was amazed by RP. Pro-domme (is that what you mean by prostitution?) these days is not a shameful thing - it's a fun specialist service

No, I mean that 80% of those that I get contacting me for pro-domme services are looking for prositution.