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juicy22 -> Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 3:40:28 PM)

What about laughing?  What about being spontaneous?  What about being natural in your submissiveness and dominance?  Why does it seem to be in CM all about strict protocol and formality?  <BARF>  <BORING>  To each his or her own. This is not a judgemental posting.  I have not read anything on these message boards about FUN!   I have been in 2 loooooooong term D/s relationships.  I have never lived this "training" life and all this other bullcrap as I see it.  Of course we discussed things and give and take.  All the analysis and all the ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.  Have fun...laugh...be natural.....If you are what you are then it will all come.  Communicate, play and have fun! 



CalifChick -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 3:41:53 PM)

By the title, I thought I was back at a Catholic Sunday service.

Cali



kittinSol -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 3:43:04 PM)

For many of us, it's not all about stiffness and protocole either, you know. If you're into having fun, and all the more power to you, why not just post about that instead of whingeing about the boring nature of the other posts?




WhiteFox77 -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 3:54:17 PM)

I know what you meen.  I've seen it even in my own posts.  I think it's just because the "formal" stuff getts more discussion.

My girl has plenty of rules to follow, and things she's supposed to do on a regular basis.  Both because she is a slave, and because she is a mom.  That's the formal stuff.  That didn't stop her from sending me an invitation to join a video IM session when she was feeling a little frisky yesterday.

Another thing we both enjoy is that I'll send text messages to her phone with simple instructions once in a while.  I especailly like to do it when she is out of the house.  "Within the next 15 minute please pinch both your nipples." :)



juicy22 -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 3:54:26 PM)

Oh...I knew I would get attacked.  That is the norm too!



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 3:57:30 PM)

Fox has only one rule. He cant take IMs from strangers on CM unless he gets permission.
Othr than that, I laugh and have more fun with he and Angel than I ever have in my entire life.
I couldnt be bothered with tons of protocol. Not my style. If the boys arent going to be submissive to me then they arent, but it certianly wont becasue I force it down their throats.
DV



xsassykatx -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 3:59:48 PM)

glad you found what you were looking for!  We aim to please!



CalifChick -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:04:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: juicy22

Oh...I knew I would get attacked.  That is the norm too!


Attacked???  Who attacked you?  Where? How did I miss it???

Cali



derfrewop -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:06:03 PM)

Its because so many of the posters obviously don't actually do it. I have been in several long relationships and unless the sub is OCD about rituals and protocols, all that stuff falls to the wayside fairly quickly in any serious relationship. Its like the flowers and candy stage of romance, it eventually goes away and replaced by much deeper and more meaningful interactions.



Wantstocontrolu -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:08:46 PM)

Having fun is one of the good things about BDSM



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:09:44 PM)

I do not think it means you're not in a serious relationship if protocals do not fall by the wayside eventually. And by the way it's not usualy the subs that are protocal hounds, it's usualy the doms. I certaintly never would of insisted on the protocals my x chose in how I was to greet him how  I was to stand in such an such a way when ever in his presense untill he told me to relax, or how I was to answer the phone, infact I found most of it quite tedious, but I went along with it.

If It was up to me how I greeted my dom* and in this relationship it is, , it'd be with a delighted squeal and shouting his name or DADDY DADDY DADDY YOU'RE HOME and then to throw myself into his arms. Other times he doesn't even get more than a sleepy hi, cause I was asleep when he walked in, or I greet him in baby talk. In fact the very first meeting we ever had when I realized he'd arrived I flew out the door down the drive way and into his arms, and ran right in front of his sister in law's car not even realizing she was there, I only had eyes for him.
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ORIGINAL: derfrewop

Its because so many of the posters obviously don't actually do it. I have been in several long relationships and unless the sub is OCD about rituals and protocols, all that stuff falls to the wayside fairly quickly in any serious relationship. Its like the flowers and candy stage of romance, it eventually goes away and replaced by much deeper and more meaningful interactions.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:13:43 PM)

Excuse me but  there's been nothing but friendly replies to your question, and maybe one joke about catholic school,  and if you were attacked the mods would be in here telling every one to stop it. So please stop seeing attacks on you where there is none.
quote:

ORIGINAL: juicy22

Oh...I knew I would get attacked.  That is the norm too!



juicy22 -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:15:49 PM)

Ohhhhhhhh ok...you dont think kittensols' remark wasnt an attack?  Scroll.  I think it was rude and dismissive!



WhiteFox77 -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:20:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: derfrewop
...unless the sub is OCD...


I don't know if I find this more or less funny because my girl was just diagnosed with OCD by her phychiatrist last month...



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:22:36 PM)

Ok I did miss kittens post but it's still not an attack in my eyes, It was more like a question.



ModeratorEleven -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:33:44 PM)

Her post was considerably less rude than yours.

Referring to how others may choose to live their lives with such comments as "<BARF>", "<BORING>" and "bullcrap" is hardly polite.  Strangely enough, it also violates the following forum guideline:

"This isn't a place to insult the kinks, preferences, lifestyles, etc. of others. If you don't like what another person enjoys, rest assured that there are plenty of others out there that probably don't like your activities either."

Please keep that in mind when posting in the future.

Thank you,

XI



GreedyTop -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:37:11 PM)

Hi, XI!!  :)



kyraofMists -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:37:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: juicy22
I have not read anything on these message boards about FUN!   


Then I guess you are not reading the right threads or your perspective is very messed up. 

We have fun most of the time and we are also considered high protocol...  guess that just messes up your little barf theory right there.  *g*

Knight's Kyra



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:39:37 PM)

 Just the other night james was poking my boobs and squeaking the rubber toy duck he has, to make me laugh, and he's always doing shit to make me squeal with laughter, and one time he playfully locked me out of his fordtarus,  and i just ran around the back to the hatch back an opend it up an gleefully announced, Daddy it don't do any good to lock the four doors if the hatch is open then I hopped in while he backed up, then I got stuck cause I closed the hatch an couldn't open it from the inside, so he joked he was gonna leave m locked in so I retailiated with you do an I pee all over everything back here and he just laughed, cause I knew he wasn't gonna lock me in and h e knew I wasn't gonna pee in his car.
quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

We have fun most of the time and we are also considered high protocol...  guess that just messes up your little barf theory right there.  *g*

Knight's Kyra



kyraofMists -> RE: Stand Up!..Sit Down...Kneel! (4/23/2008 4:42:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: derfrewop

Its because so many of the posters obviously don't actually do it. I have been in several long relationships and unless the sub is OCD about rituals and protocols, all that stuff falls to the wayside fairly quickly in any serious relationship. Its like the flowers and candy stage of romance, it eventually goes away and replaced by much deeper and more meaningful interactions.


For the non-OCD subs, how long do you think it would take for all that stuff to fall by the wayside and why isn't protocol and ritual seen as deep, meaningful interactions?

He and Alandra have been together for over 20 years and the protocol and enjoyment in the relationship has only increased.  The three of us have been together for three years next week, and our relationship keeps getting better and yet we still follow most of the same protocols and rituals as when I first became his.

It isn't about who is doing what... it is about who is fulfilled in what they are doing.  If someone is not fulfilled in following certain protocols and rituals, then I can't see them maintaining it over a long period.  If they are, then I can see them maintaining for a long time.

Knight's Kyra



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