quote:

ORIGINAL: tecara

i am feeling very hurt and confused right now and really need to see if i'm wrong about a situation that recently happened and/or get advice from others out there.

My real life best friend of 10 years started talking to this out of the country trainer on line about 2 wks ago. Laster Saturday he offered her a training collar with a month per month renewel on it. Within 48 hours her name was changed, she was refered to as being his slave and worse she was no longer talking to me and i had no idea why. My husband/owner she talked to on the phone and admitted that she was not allowed contact because of something she had done (this was the first story) and that she wasn't even suppost to be talking to him even. For 2 days i bombarded her with IMs, emails, even text messages trying to figure out what was going on. My messages started out nice, went to concern, went to panic, then got insulting, then down right indignant (ok i'm not proud of that). i got in touch with her former dominant, he called her and then i finally heard from her. She had also spoken again to my husband and apparently crying and upset did not understand why i couldn't understand.

This is what she finally said to me " never at any time did i think of separating myself from your friendship. i am hurt and confused by the lack of understanding that in a D/s M/s relationship, i am subject to my Master first and foremost. be it LTR, temp, training, mentor or whatever. even though i was incorrect in my instructions, i sincerely thought i was doing the right thing. it's all about obedience after all. "..."the words of love, devotion and friendship were shallow and meanth nothing"...
tecara: you scared the hell outta me to listen to some ass online
her: i did not
her: no, you scared the hell out of yourself
her: there are no warning signs. not one. and if you were thinking instead of reacting, you would see that as well

tecara: so basically you want me out of it???

She has never answered nor had any further contact. I'm scared and confused and i miss my best friend. Am i wrong to think that our real life friendship should hold more importance then a M/s online training one??? Or am i over reacting and need to just let it go?? She told her former dom that she figured she would do this "training" and her and i would be fine afterwards. As if i should just say oh that's ok i understand that for a month you had no time for me. On average we email 25 times a day everyday, we chat on yahoo every night. From that to nothing.

quote:

ORIGINAL: tecara

. At this point I guess that's all i can do is be there to pick up the pieces if this all falls appart.

quote:

ORIGINAL: tecara

First it had been only 48 hour sense her "collaring" so not it wasn't a long term relationship.

Second. the emails a day are as much from her as from me, usually by the time i got to work the first "good morning" one was waiting for me. Our conversations were about our kids, our jobs, and all our common interest, which after 10 yrs was lot.

Three the only sex involved is cyber and again 48 hours worth.

and my opinion, and only my opinion on why she was told not to contact me was because i am a strong SUBMISSIVE and not a slave and as such i ask quesition (in respectful ways), i have fun (in a respectful way), and every sentense doesn't end in yes Sir , but is always respectful.

quote:

ORIGINAL: tecara

First it had been only 48 hour sense her "collaring" so not it wasn't a long term relationship.

Second. the emails a day are as much from her as from me, usually by the time i got to work the first "good morning" one was waiting for me. Our conversations were about our kids, our jobs, and all our common interest, which after 10 yrs was lot.

Three the only sex involved is cyber and again 48 hours worth.

and my opinion, and only my opinion on why she was told not to contact me was because i am a strong SUBMISSIVE and not a slave and as such i ask quesition (in respectful ways), i have fun (in a respectful way), and every sentense doesn't end in yes Sir , but is always respectful.