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BCAPCAB -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/26/2008 2:31:05 PM)

we have indeed discussed as such from now on both of us have agreed what our limits and needs are.if they are not being met or ignored then either 1 of us has the right to call a break and discuss our issues. as you mentioned he agreed and used me to get to my wife after much discussion.
from now on there will be more time spent on getting to know the person and understanding limits and needs.
this man basicaly used us and no respect for anybody just his own needs



antipode -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/26/2008 2:42:02 PM)

You were jealous? Had to leave the room? You should have done your homework, this is not an academic exercise. Did you at least repossess her?



kinkypuppy2 -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/26/2008 2:43:47 PM)

You need to find a individual or couple that are much more attune to the needs of both of you.
Walk away from this one, If he was clear on both of you and only focused on her he may well be a vulture searching for a new meal and he has his eyes on her alone.



SassySarijane -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/26/2008 2:57:14 PM)

Definitely do your homework before attempting something like this again. Take your time and make sure it's right rather than getting caught up in getting to do things. Watch for red flags to weed out the assholes and nonfits. I'm sorry this happened, but at the same time it could have been prevented/avoided, by taking time to know the person first, by BOTH of you spending time in person talking, (without play or expectation of such at the meeting(s)) discussing limits, agreeing on limits and being very clear on it all and then not going further if indications/red flags arose such as more attention focused on the wife, not wanting to talk with you, etc. I wish you the best in future endeavors.



ResidentSadist -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/26/2008 5:20:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BCAPCAB
...he did nothing for aftercare for either of us

A blanky and a chocolate bar is about it when Topping / bottoming with strangers.



BCAPCAB -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 8:15:04 AM)

i made it very clear that he would not come around us again or he would suffer this time. from what i have been taught and shwn this man has no respect for others feelings and can't be trusted to respect limits



Aileen1968 -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 8:32:18 AM)

Heh...you were cucked and couldn't even see it.  Me thinks your wifey may have enjoyed herself just as much as the other guy did.  It seems as if she didn't try to put a stop to it when it wasn't "going as planned" while you just sat there like a pussy watching.   She obviously likes being dominated, which you weren't doing.  He was.  You come across as much more submissive than dominant



KatyLied -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 8:48:14 AM)

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i made it very clear that he would not come around us again or he would suffer this time.


What are you going to do?  Meet him in the playground after school? 



BCAPCAB -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 9:06:19 AM)

i did not stop it out of respect for her



BCAPCAB -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 9:07:43 AM)

i guess we will wait and see .who knows?



Indemnis -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 3:04:44 PM)

I feel your pain, I can only imagine what that'd've been like.
However, I think it was a little bit silly to let another guy into the picture... it may have been more prudent to have looked around and learned things, maybe speak to a few people and make friends willing to give you advice, then dominated her yourself.  If you love her, of course if another person is playing with her you're going to be upset. 
I think you could have 'fixed' your sex life without the.. erm.. *direct* influence of another.



bruisedpetals -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 4:01:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BCAPCAB
a dom is something to be treasured and nurtured above all else plus respected.


Real doms, yes.



kiwisub12 -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 4:31:32 PM)

think you need to get into the local bdsm scene in your area. You can watch some sceneing (?sp), get to know some people, and find out from people who know who to go to for help. and as far as that does , you don't need to be"uber" dominant to scene someone.   Just remember that there are rude and unfeeling people every where and make your choices accordingly.



domiguy -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 5:15:25 PM)

I couldn't help but notice that your wife seems to be a selfish cunt and what in the Hell is wrong with you for allowing this to happen?

Your wife strikes me as the type of individual who could care less if you meet someone who respects "you." What in the hell is wrong with you?


I'm not trying to be overly mean...But what the fuck? Why don't you go do your own thing and let your wife do hers? It seems that there is the potential that this relationship is rather one sided. You give she takes.

I know I am right. Sucks to be you...but you are the only one that can change your situation.



KatyLied -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 5:20:06 PM)

What domi, no points for him going all uber domly and offering to kick the guy's ass, maybe sometime in the future?  I'm guessing the dominant who staged the scenario moved on about 5 minutes after the scene concluded.



domiguy -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 5:31:21 PM)


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

What domi, no points for him going all uber domly and offering to kick the guy's ass, maybe sometime in the future?  I'm guessing the dominant who staged the scenario moved on about 5 minutes after the scene concluded.



Exactly...He was really moved by the op's actions and his wife's pussy. He probably laughed his ass off all the way home.



sabirah -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 6:18:16 PM)

I think the OP stated that there was only oral sex. ( they never engaged in vaginal sex oral only.when you called him what you percieve as a real man does not fit with my ideals of a real man.)
I am confused,  so she did a " Monica  Lewinsky",  and you watched and became jealous.. how did he take her to subspace if she  only gave him oral sex,  and what kind of after care did you need from that?

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ORIGINAL: domiguy


quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

What domi, no points for him going all uber domly and offering to kick the guy's ass, maybe sometime in the future?  I'm guessing the dominant who staged the scenario moved on about 5 minutes after the scene concluded.



Exactly...He was really moved by the op's actions and his wife's pussy. He probably laughed his ass off all the way home.



OldBastardly1 -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 6:40:01 PM)

I am curious...did she swallow? And did she brush her teeth and gargle before you kissed later? It would have been even worse for you ifyou could taste his dick. Poor guy....I feel your pain.



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 8:58:22 PM)

To the OP..well it seems you both have learned a valuable lesson..but..in particular you learned a valuable lesson.....first off you learned the absolute need to communicate your wants, needs and as to how the scene will be run...you, NOT your wife...YOU!!!...second off, you now know that you should NEVER!! leave your wife with a Dominant, that you barely know ,alone with him...and third off, you have learned that wether wife was in subspace or not...you should always end a scene that is not living up to what was agreed upon.You are there to not only learn, but to protect.....Tempting



Maestro66babycak -> RE: JEALOUSY (4/27/2008 9:11:57 PM)

Hard for me to believe you thought you could watch your wife fuck another man and NOT be jealous. WHAT WERE YOU THINKING???!!!



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