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RE: Looking for advice from other Doms - 5/4/2008 3:39:30 AM

MasterFireMaam

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ORIGINAL: Socrate5
How to talk to a sub (especially involving initial contact)

google "BDSM Negotiation"

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Appropriate dialogue development (email, chatting, phone calls, RL meeting)

Treat people like they're human and that will take you far.

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Differences between a Dom and Master

Ask 100 people, you'll get 100 answers...but since you asked, here's my answer:
Top/bottom = physical relationship
Dom/sub = mental relationship
Master/slave = spiritual relationship

They can mix and match...Dom does not always mean pure sadist (Top), for example...Doms can be masochistic (bottoms), too.

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Time frame expectations ( I know this is very subjective, but I appreciate the advice of the experienced)

If you're looking for a play partner...compare it to how long you'd wait to fuck someone.
If you're looking for a relationship...compare it to how long you'd wait to start seeing someone
If you're looking to collar someone...compare it to how long you'd wait to get engaged.

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Suggestions?

Take your time. Check out the books in my signature. Participate in your local community as well as the national community.

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RE: Looking for advice from other Doms - 5/4/2008 3:41:00 AM

MasterFireMaam

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Groups in Michigan:

http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgsmichigan.html

Also consider going to GLLA in August:
GLLA

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RE: Looking for advice from other Doms - 5/4/2008 7:26:38 AM

FrankAr

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Tal Socrate5,

As the other men have stated before hand, just take your time, communicate between you and the female, always make sure that you are both on the same page with your wants and needs and likes. Take you time for it might not be the first female that you talk with that gets your interest, it might be the 50th. As the flow continues with the communication you yourself will find out if you are more suited to being a Dom or Master. You might find out early what you will become or you might take a few years, just relax and take it easy.

Some of my meetings have taken place within hours or within months, just depends upon the mood. It has taken place in public or in private, that is how I am.

There is no book of books to help you in the BDSM world, it is through the experience that you gain that leads you one step at a time. Like another has said, do not bull crap your way through this life, for if it hits you in the face the honour just goes shit down the drain, simple.

Be well.

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RE: Looking for advice from other Doms - 5/4/2008 9:32:07 AM

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Lots of good ideas have already been given to you....I just wanted to say well done on asking your questions and I wish you well.

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RE: Looking for advice from other Doms - 5/4/2008 10:23:12 AM

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Just noticed I had much more replies, thanks everyone. I have started some great conversations with some ladies on the site. It seems respect and honesty go far here

I am meeting a lady later this week, should be interesting! Wish me luck, cheers!

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RE: Looking for advice from other Doms - 5/4/2008 12:06:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: Socrate5
It seems respect and honesty go far here I am meeting a lady later this week, should be interesting! Wish me luck, cheers!

Thank you! Once again exploding the myth that it's all but impossible for men to meet women on this site.

You obviously understand this next point, but for anyone else reading: Don't treat this like a game where you're trying to score a piece of kinky ass. Plenty of guys are already doing that. Treat a woman as a human being who happens to be female, and it's like handing her a drink of water in the middle of the desert.

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RE: Looking for advice from other Doms - 5/5/2008 8:36:26 AM

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Socrate you don't want to meet a lady. Ladys are to much trouble. You want to meet a woman from here.

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