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out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 3:37:41 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		suppose you had met someone and were extremely attracted to them and what they offered to you. you can feel the chemistry course through your veins,with their look, their words,their expectations.knowing it could be a 24/7 TPE to their control but never 24/7 living w/ that person.
would you enter the relationship if it fed the slave fire burning in your belly or would you feel you were settling and not enter into the relationship?

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 3:48:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Of course the answer will depend on the person- some find living with the other person necessary, some do not.

I, for one, do not find living with the other person necessary.

And it takes a lot more than chemistry to make a relationship work over the long term, that's why so many newbies crash and burn- they rush into the first heady feelings they have, only to find out in the long term that it's nothing like what they really need.

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 3:52:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Don't ask me. Chemistry makes me goofy!

You need to ask yourself what *you* truly need. What fills your requirements? It's okay to have requirements. It sounds like you are wistful for a 24/7 living arrangement. You will be sadly disappointed if you go into a relationship that will always be less when you are aching for more. I like to think of relationships as growing; not static. When a door for the possibility is slammed shut the relationship is already stunted.

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 4:20:47 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		actually at this time this girl does not seek living w/ because of children. this girl was thinking 10 yrs down the road,lol.
the relationship being offered fills this girls needs.

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Don't ask me. Chemistry makes me goofy!

You need to ask yourself what *you* truly need. What fills your requirements? It's okay to have requirements. It sounds like you are wistful for a 24/7 living arrangement. You will be sadly disappointed if you go into a relationship that will always be less when you are aching for more. I like to think of relationships as growing; not static. When a door for the possibility is slammed shut the relationship is already stunted.



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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 4:22:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

actually at this time this girl does not seek living w/ because of children. this girl was thinking 10 yrs down the road,lol.
the relationship being offered fills this girls needs.

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maybe you just answered your own question?

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 4:22:57 PM   
angelic


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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 4:25:19 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		this girl should rephrase chemistry to the M/s dynamic she has been longing for.
living in isn't a requirement but it also a never will be that way.this girl decided that societies version of love isn't necessary to fill the fire in her belly but wonders will she always feel this way.
Perhaps any contracts should be of a 6 month or 1 year time period to start and then renegotitated.


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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Of course the answer will depend on the person- some find living with the other person necessary, some do not.

I, for one, do not find living with the other person necessary.

And it takes a lot more than chemistry to make a relationship work over the long term, that's why so many newbies crash and burn- they rush into the first heady feelings they have, only to find out in the long term that it's nothing like what they really need.



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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 4:26:54 PM   
fyreredsub


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ORIGINAL: angelic

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr i hate when i do that!!!



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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 4:45:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: angelic

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr i hate when i do that!!!

YOu can edit your posts and chance the quote codes.

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 5:23:06 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		thanks ladies.you all have given this girl some things to think about.

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 5:52:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think for me i would have to go there. if the intensity and chemistry were that strong, i would just have to. And you never know what the future holds... never say never...

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 7:01:09 PM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		this girl is torn but alot is based on past pain and it needs to stay just where it is in the past.
the intensity is such that Masters power can be felt very strongly.this girl will just have to wait until he gets back to town and we speak again on these matters.


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ORIGINAL: felineone

I think for me i would have to go there. if the intensity and chemistry were that strong, i would just have to. And you never know what the future holds... never say never...

feline



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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 7:29:26 PM   
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this girl is torn but alot is based on past pain and it needs to stay just where it is in the past.


Ah, good work if you can get it. It takes time and new, better experiences to get over the past pain.

Good luck.

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/13/2005 8:15:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds like a pretty good deal to me. You get to have all the fun parts, without worrying about all that cooking, cleaning and crap like that.

Seriously though, you really aren't out anything by giving it a try. If that sort of relationship feeds you ... that's great. If it doesn't ... then move on.

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/14/2005 1:02:55 AM   
pandoravampire


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Status: offline 		I have entered.
I would always enter
It may not last, but it will be a adventure. < that may last a day, or a year. But adventures are what we seek. Well, actually, put all of that in the owner bit, where I think life should be a big adventure. Some people will enter your life, for varying times. We shift and change, grow together, grow apart.

Some relationships, last for ages. Some only a moment. But theyre all good. They each have their own lessons, and are not completely without merit.

Why would you walk past? That person, may not be able to supply to all of your needs, but to some perhaps. You may have a specific compatability, like role play, or sm play. I am a adult. As such, i have a sexuality. It is harmful to me, to not express my sexuality with another or alone. Sex is like food, its a essential for me. I get cranky without it. I would settle, but negotiate where we settle at.
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RE: out of curiousity - 10/14/2005 3:54:01 AM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		thanks pandora and caitlyn.

the pull is far too strong to ignore.

no dishes too(does happy dance around the house)..........



someone had posted in here yesterday(ES2),about newness, this girl is new to site not lifestyle.

have a good day ya'll


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RE: out of curiousity - 10/14/2005 5:25:19 AM   
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the pull is far too strong to ignore.


That says it all...

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/14/2005 6:16:48 AM   
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the pull is far too strong to ignore.


I think you answered your own question. *smiles*

If the pull is that strong you dont want to have "what if's " down the road.

Live in the present, the future has a way of taking care of it's self.

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/14/2005 6:37:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaMspeach

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the pull is far too strong to ignore.


I think you answered your own question. *smiles*

If the pull is that strong you dont want to have "what if's " down the road.

Live in the present, the future has a way of taking care of it's self.

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I think you answered your own question. *smiles*

If the pull is that strong you dont want to have "what if's " down the road.

Live in the present, the future has a way of taking care of it's self.


OK that sounds all nice and yummy, and it certainly does have merit...but making big choices like what commitments you make in the long term SHOULD be based on more than how awesome it feels right now and how strong a pull there happens to be right now.

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RE: out of curiousity - 10/14/2005 9:47:57 AM   
plantlady64


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Status: offline 		Hello There,
I don't think anyone will be able to answer your question but you. If you think you can handle not getting what you seem to want then yes, if you think you'll feel short changed than no. You have to decide what's most important to you.
Good luck with your decision,
sub suzanne

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