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Attraction - 4/28/2008 3:13:16 AM

clmcol

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I have been talking with a Domme that is 300 miles away from me. We have many common interests and I have become very attracted to her. She has not considered me yet but we may meet in person next month. Should I tell her how I feel about her or should I just wait? Every time she greets me online through an email or IM I want to just kneel before her. What can I do?

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RE: Attraction - 4/28/2008 4:28:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: clmcol

I have been talking with a Domme that is 300 miles away from me. We have many common interests and I have become very attracted to her. She has not considered me yet but we may meet in person next month. Should I tell her how I feel about her or should I just wait? Every time she greets me online through an email or IM I want to just kneel before her. What can I do?

Slow down. She is obviously attracted to you, the way you are. ~~Don't go changin~~to try and please her~~
Know what I mean? Just keep being your cute lil self and let her decide when it is right for you to announce your feelings about her. I'm pretty sure she knows already <s>

Welcome to the forums

MoGa

ETA: I just noticed your profile. You have been in this lifestyle for 20 years, I would have thought you would know the answers to your questions.

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RE: Attraction - 4/28/2008 4:48:08 AM

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Mmmm. You may meet in person next month. Only 300 miles apart. Barrow your parents car and go see her.

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RE: Attraction - 4/28/2008 6:07:31 PM

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Should I tell her how I feel about her or should I just wait?

There are subs who have felt and expressed strong feelings before the first meeting and then have had a tremendously successful first meeting. If I faced the same situation, I would wait.

I think the process of becoming acquainted and coming to how one feels about another can extend into and past the first meeting, which has not yet occurred.

It is possible for a submissive to feel strong attraction because how strongly one feels about making submission a reality. If such (attraction based more on situation versus interpersonal reasons) is occurring with you, and how you feel about her is out of proportion with how she feels about you, it could make her uncomfortable. I would wait until you have had an opportunity to meet and let the chemistry unfold organically. I think this point is relevant both for avoiding the potential to overwhelm her with information that could be too soon, and for managing expectations towards containing disappointment for either person. For now, I think your actions (how you likely respond in your IM interactions by immediately making time, how present and engaged you are in current conversations and will be in when you meet her, and how you otherwise demonstrate you respect and value her) will help convey that you appreciate her.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Attraction - 4/28/2008 8:51:15 PM

LaMistressa

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I would wait -- she can probably tell you are attracted to her by the tone of your emails. You don't want to be so wound up that you make her nervous with your feelings or come off as overbearing.

Besides, if you kneel while you are chatting with her online, how on earth are you going to type?

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RE: Attraction - 4/28/2008 9:11:46 PM

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One of my roommates used to work in a Godiva shop. One day a man came in and said he had really liked a sales woman in the department store where he had just bought something, and wanted to get her chocolates to signal his interest in her. He asked my roommate what she would recommend. She carefully explained that a 2 or 4-piece truffle box would be perfect ... signifigant enough to impress with his good taste, but not so big as to be inappropriate and make her uncomfortable.

He bought a 1-pound box of chocolates and scuttled away, vicariously making my roommate cringe for the woman who would receive it.

At this point, if you're going to give something, stick with the 2 or 4-piece truffle box.

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RE: Attraction - 4/29/2008 6:33:16 AM

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MSS I was going to send you a truffle box but seeing as I did'nt have your address I ate it.

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RE: Attraction - 4/29/2008 6:49:24 AM

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