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Dnomyar -> More attractive. (4/28/2008 5:21:03 AM)
What makes some Dom/Dommes more attractive to subs/slaves. I noticed from posts on here that some Dom/Dommes have a hard time attracting someone while others seem to over attract people.

MsStarlett -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 5:36:46 AM)
Hmmm.... Look to your left. <-------------- Just because I'm very proud of the work I've done on this ass - One Year in the gym doing leg presses! - does not mean that subs get to touch it.

LadyRainfire -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 5:41:19 AM)
laughs MsStarlett, I thought it was the red hair! [:D]

chamberqueen -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 5:51:22 AM)
I get a lot of attention, both from subs and Doms. Many tell me that it is because they find me intelligent and genuine. I have a pleasant smile but am far from being a model and have not posed provacatively in any of my photos. I think a lot of it is based on what they are looking for. I get some men looking for a mommy/teacher figure, and I look like (and am) both. It's funny; if a sub says that I'm beautiful I tend to think that it is just because he feels like it is a good opening line in talking with a Domme. If a Dom says I'm beautiful it makes me wonder if he is a wolf wanting to take me away from my Master. (Yes, that type of attitude flourishes here.) I would much rather attract people because I am good at what I do than because they have made a character judgement and fantasy built around what they see in a photo.

pearlmoongirl -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:01:14 AM)
I take a Dom's contributions to the forum very seriously. If Someone is corresponding with me and we hit it off, I search for His posts here. I want to know what He writes and how He behaves when He isn't trying to charm me specifically. I want a peek into His opinions. I want to know, especially, if He is belittling or sarcastic, or if He does that 'penis-measuring' thing I see, ad nauseum, at munches (spare me that, for Goddess' sake!) ~pmg

MladyHathor -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:03:18 AM)
*I am VERY selective and I know what will work--and like the best things in My life, its worth waiting for. I don't think as a Domina I am more or less attractive to subs than the next.*

tsatske -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:04:39 AM)
truthfully, i think it is putting out the energy that a particular sub responds to. For instance, i would bet that Ms.S has lots of nice subbies that are very turned on, not only by her very nice ass (very nice ass, btw, Ms.S), and long red hair, but by that attitude she expressed - that she knows she has a nice ass, and that the sub won't be touching it. (Isaac Asimov had a fascination with the concept of beautiful asses that could not be touched, btw) I find your picture, Dnomyer, is exactly the type that attracts me. a real, honest pic, a nice face, a great smile, smiling eyes. I am attracted to people that feel 'real' to me - but that's a meaningless statement. Everyone is. It's just a matter of what feels 'real'. For me, talk about vanilla interests is very important. chat and being relaxed together, and, eventually, getting to the place where you can enjoy comfortable silence together, is important to me. i have a dear new sisterslave. She has a training contract with Master - and she needs that in her life; some mentoring, someone safe to play with, ect. When i say (often) that Master is the sexiest man alive, she just laughs and says, 'to you, Sis'. I don't know what she is talking about, i think it is plainly, objectively obvious, but oh well. :). OTOH, there is a Dom who is in our circle of friends that Master has teased me about flirting with. And i told Master, honestly, if i was single, i would never even look at him twice. He has a type of Dominant energy that i do not find appealing, not what i want. My sister and he flirt like crazy, though, and she has said how much more his Dominant energy is exactly the kind that gets to her, than Master's is. I understand that. It's all in being a good match - not in the way it is usually talked about on here, the hours of communication and negotiation to figure out if the two of you match on a reasonable number of things. On a much more visceral level - do you have the type of energy, personality, ect, that draws to one another.

Poetryinpain -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:05:25 AM)
I haven't found anyone on here that really grabs my attention, other than as a poster of remarkably well-thought-out posts - and usually those people are already in relationships. Goes to show I have good taste - as do their partners. pip, not desperately seeking anyway

DesFIP -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:05:44 AM)
Confidence, happiness. I find that people who are able to enjoy the little things, take time to stop and smell the roses and don't complain about the thorns are more attractive to be with. I can kvetch with the best of them but I'd rather appreciate all I have.

KCherry -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:06:49 AM)
Most of the people who I get mail from who I have asked, "hey, why did you pick me to talk to?" say that it is because I am innocent looking, and that my correspondence with them makes me seem like a very real person, like someone they would have met in a supermarket or something.

RavenMuse -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:16:25 AM)
What specificaly attracts subs/slaves I can only go off what gets mentioned in responces to Me. However some of it is the same as what attracts Me to certain sub/slaves on this and the other side of the site. On this side, someone who's posts clearly show they have done a lot of soul searching, they know what they are, know what they seek (if they are indeed seeking), their opinions wether I agree with them or not are clear and consistant with what they portray, no fantasy bullshit, grounded in the real world. They have depth rather than being a one dimentional forum bunny, they hold their own and show their IQ in serious posts whilst still being able to banter and laugh when it is appropriate. An open and honest aproach. As MH there remarks I don't consider Myself better or worse, genericaly than the next Dominant on here. I know what I am and do and I do it well (Any time I may forget that, the smile on My girls face reminds Me) but I don't wear a mask so those compatable enough are likely going to be drawn to that.

Aileen1968 -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:35:54 AM)
People who tend to get a lot of attention are typically confident more than anything. They aren't negative, don't whine and avoid the drama.

TJsCheekypet -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:38:25 AM)
1st message-polite 2nd message-interesting 3rd message-a lil humor. 4th message & forward - follow the last three steps! thats just my opinion! if i cant have a giggle & dont click within the first three messages then i respectfully move on.

lanie38 -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:41:29 AM)
Proper grammar is major turn on...wit and intelligence combined with many interests outside of bdsm get my attention....

LadyHibiscus -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 6:52:00 AM)
I think people like my picture. Sometimes too much. :)

SimplyMichael -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 8:09:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett Hmmm.... Look to your left. MsStarlett, one of the most handsome and successful men I know doesn't even look at a woman until she is your size. Attraction is a funny thing, I get almost no mail from women hitting on me, even before BSB but there are people here who I think very little of who seem to have their own little harems. There are people here who I think are amazing and yet haven't found a partner. There are people I couldn't stand to be in the same room with and yet seem to have plenty of interest. Some like blonds, some don't. I have a definite look that turns me on and even if they are otherwise physically and mentally attractive, if they don't have that look to their face, I am not interested. I can't even quite put it into words.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 8:12:37 AM)
I believe part of my attractiveness can be directly attributed to my "I am not looking" status. I have never been as inundated with offers as after I stopped looking for someone. Maybe I am a challenge, maybe Fox's phtography skills are better and the photos are more appealing... whatever the case thats when it all started. DV

IronBear -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 8:19:11 AM)
Psychologically, those who are within themselves poewerfull people tend to radiate this through mannerisms, confidence and other subtle ways. I'm not refering to the self proclaimed "top dog" for they have surface immagery of power. Those who are truly powerfull are often quiet people who get things done and don't waste time with mere triffles or unreceptive people. Again psychologically, power is one hell of an aphrodesiac. The slaves I know along with the few subs I know all seek one thing. A strong Dominant i.e. powerful. Ergo they will be drawn towards such people. Iron Bear Master of Bruin Cottage (A Victorian Lifestyle poly home) "I judge a Man by what I see him do and not by what others tell me he does." (Captain Sir Edward Pellew of the HMS Indefatigable to Midshipman Hornblower ~ C.S. Forrester)

greenearth21 -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 8:20:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar What makes some Dom/Dommes more attractive to subs/slaves. I noticed from posts on here that some Dom/Dommes have a hard time attracting someone while others seem to over attract people. Personality, intelligence definetely has to be there. Stable (emotionally, physically, finanacially etc etc), how they treat other people and their opinion of the world in general. Someone normal who isn't pretentious....simplicity/humimilty (humbleness) is a MAJOR turn on for me. On the vain physical side...if they are tall and older (hey its what works for me) I'm more attracted to the quiet guy that sits in the corner than the one who walks around with his shirt off to show off his 4 pack.

CalifChick -> RE: More attractive. (4/28/2008 8:39:34 AM)
Maturity, intelligence (a biggie for me), humor, integrity. Someone whose fundamental beliefs mirror my own. Unfortunately, I've come to realize that alot of people can fake some or all of those things even after it gets to the point where I think I know them as more than a passing acquaintance. Cali

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