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IamHiisBeloved -> a question of names... (4/28/2008 7:56:39 PM)
I was wondering how all of you out tehre handle this... In private the terms Master and Slave are fine, however in vanilla society this will raise eyerows and is something My Master and I try to avvoid. He hit upon the idea of a "nickname" that can be used in public, that doesn't raise eyebrows but has a hidden meaning for us. He calls me Beloved in public, but we have yet to settle on a nickname for him. The use of the nickname allows me to know this is my Master speaking, without others being aware. any advice or suggestions on this would be appreciated. His Beloved.

peppermint -> RE: a question of names... (4/28/2008 8:03:17 PM)
When in private i call him Gary or sweetheart. In public i call him Gary or sweetheart. In private he calls me pat, or patrish, or cutie pie. Does the same in public. Names are not rocket science. Whatever works for you will be just fine. If you need a code name when in vanilla company...then whatever you decide to use will be just perfect.

Huntertn -> RE: a question of names... (4/28/2008 8:11:39 PM)
names..are what you want them to be..I've called subs pets and Mrs.foster..lol..again, its what you want them to be. right now my slave calls me James at th top of her voice when the shower head breaks again..LOL

batshalom -> RE: a question of names... (4/28/2008 8:13:34 PM)
When I was in an M/s dynamic, I used "King" or "M" in public.

abcbsex -> RE: a question of names... (4/28/2008 9:34:32 PM)
I'll throw in a "sir" every now and then while in vanilla company to make him smile. I also use "Mr. B_______" sometimes, we're a pretty goofy couple so no one thinks much of it. He'll call me his woman, to others it sounds sarcastic and generates laughter but i know deep down that I'd like to be called much worse! -C

SteelofUtah -> RE: a question of names... (4/28/2008 10:11:57 PM)
Try Erus. (ear-us) It is Latin for Master as well as Owner Steel

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: a question of names... (4/28/2008 10:41:03 PM)
Actually only in a very small percentage of social situations would "master" not only cause a raised eyebrow but also be something you don't want to deal with. Most of the time, people don't care enough about you to notice, and if they do, it doesn't matter that they notice because they are strangers and have no impact on your life. For the very few times...well whatever you want. Believe it or not, many people DO just use eachothers legal names, they do not need to turn everything into a symbol in order to know the relationship exists.

SailingBum -> RE: a question of names... (4/28/2008 10:55:12 PM)
oh oh oh pick mine dufus.....in swallie is mean Mister man.... BadOne

Vigilantejustice -> RE: a question of names... (4/28/2008 11:20:18 PM)
My Daddy wouldn't care if I started calling him Engelbert Humperdink (ok, maybe a little <grins>) as long as I called him that with the right mind. It's not so much what you say, as how you say it. Think of it like this: Your Master calls you a slut during sex. It's hot. Your Master calls you a slut during an argument. It's hurtful. Same word. Different context and delivery, therefore different meaning. LA was right. Most people don't care what words you use. Even fewer care how those words are delivered. Calling him by his given name with submission in your voice won't even cause a ripple in 99.9% of situations. And he'll know what it really means, no Sooper-Sekrit-Decoders required. -Corinne House Vigilante

HerLord -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 12:29:22 AM)
asshole has worked for us since the beginning. no need to change it now.

bruisedpetals -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 1:58:34 AM)
We use our real first names in public, and hearing my name coming out of his mouth makes me smile. Saying his real name out loud still gives me goosebumps ..

RavenMuse -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 3:22:28 AM)
If I am talking then it is her Master talking, it doesn't matter where We are or who is about. Master, Sir or Raven all get used depending on level of formality with which We are interacting. The tone with which We address each other is far more telling than the words We use to address one another. I have found, given My girls tend to be a fair bit younger than Myself that using 'Sir' in public (Maybe different over in the states) when it gets a reaction at all they tend to assume a 'professional' relationship... such as a Boss with His secretary or PA with overtones of perhaps an ilicit affair....Not that I have ever spotted that assumption and played on it... of course [;)]

Focus50 -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 3:53:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IamHiisBeloved I was wondering how all of you out tehre handle this... In private the terms Master and Slave are fine, however in vanilla society this will raise eyerows and is something My Master and I try to avvoid. He hit upon the idea of a "nickname" that can be used in public, that doesn't raise eyebrows but has a hidden meaning for us. He calls me Beloved in public, but we have yet to settle on a nickname for him. The use of the nickname allows me to know this is my Master speaking, without others being aware. any advice or suggestions on this would be appreciated. Sorry but I'd turn beetroot red if the girl called me "beloved" in front of anyone - I would NOT be pleased. The only thing worse that I can think of is "Hey, you!" - and surely no jury would convict me for what would follow that.... While I can understand the connection of intimate D/s names/titles, I balance that by asking exactly what is gained by drawing undue attention to ourselves from strangers ever eager for gossip and controversy? The solution is easy - we all come with names our parents chose.... Besides, when I'm out with the girl in vanilla company, I do much of my meaningful talking (to her) with my eyes. And she's the only one who can interpret; just as only I know what response is expected. It's like no-one else is present; yet the fact that they is what makes it intimate and very personal. Focus.

DesFIP -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 4:45:37 AM)
I've been known to respond with "aye, aye Captain" upon occasion. Or "yes boss". Being parents we made the decision that it is inappropriate for him to bellow; slave, slut, bitch etc in front of them. And for me to grovel going yes oh great master/lord/uberdom. We use each other's names or common endearments. "Baby would you get me more tea" works just as well as "bitch my teacup is empty".

HeavansKeeper -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 6:07:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross For the very few times...well whatever you want. Believe it or not, many people DO just use eachothers legal names, they do not need to turn everything into a symbol in order to know the relationship exists. (I completely agree with the first two small blocks of text) I've been calling my girl "Pet" in front of people. They don't seem to notice or care. But it does something to her. I could call her Sweetie, or by her name, but I like the way she looks to me when she hears "Pet." For us, reminding her she is mine, in public, does things to her. Wonderful things. I know we (and many other couples) don't need to be reminded of it constantly, but it can change a lot, very quickly. If I ask her to do something outside of her comfort zone, and I know she'll struggle, I can toss on "..Pet" at the end. I have no doubt it would give her strength and courage. "Go hit on that bartender." means "Be flirty" "Go hit on that bartender.. Pet." means "Be flirty. If I so decide I'll be offering that man your body by the end of the night." (It's 9:00 am late, not early, so my example is weak and trite.) Also, I am reminded that My Pet and I are very new to the DS world, only a year, and mostly online. Sometimes the girl might act out of line.

Dnomyar -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 8:44:11 AM)
If his first name is Raymond call him Ray .

antipode -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 12:26:21 PM)
You guys take all the fun out of it. How about Mr. and Mrs.?

Daddyslilpookie -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 2:32:56 PM)
Master usually calls me pookie, baby, honey child ect in public, I call him Daddy in public it is that simple[;)]

IamHiisBeloved -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 2:44:08 PM)
The reason I ask, is we live in a rural small town, and even calling him Sir, or Daddy is not feasible without drawing attention. This is a very nosy, gossipy community and it's amazing how fast things get around. How we live is noone's business but our own, and yet we try to stay under the radar so to speak. Thank you all for your input, we will continue to try to find the "right" nickname. It is something we want to do for public expression of our privte relationship. and although I wouldn't blame Focus for being embarrassed if he was called Beloved, I find it very endearing... must have something to do with my estrogen levels ;) But yes, Beloved is not 'manly' enough for Him but it works well for me.

batshalom -> RE: a question of names... (4/29/2008 2:49:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar If his first name is Raymond call him Ray . But you doesn't have to call him Mr. Johnson.

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