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RE: One of life's confusions... - 5/7/2008 10:22:52 AM

StrictMaster979

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You should walk, no run away from a insensitive dom who doesnt consider that your #1 need is to look after your kid.

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RE: One of life's confusions... - 5/7/2008 11:53:23 AM

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a Dom called me, and he knew I was home alone with my sons and then threw a fit when I had to tell him to hold on a moment since my sons were fighting. He even went so far as to tell me I couldn't possibly be a submissive because I wouldn't put him before my children. I thought that was a bit unfair. When the time comes, and I am spending it with a Dom, I will give my 100 % to the Dom, if and when I find the right one that is.

every filter we have is a gift from God (insert HP name of choice here, i am not proselytizing). Tonight, thank God for your sons for providing you with that invaluable service.
For just a moment, let your mind wander into the impossible. Imagine if you didn't have those marvelous boys of yours. You could have been deep into a relationship before you found out this, outwardly a man, was, in fact, an infant.
Imagine being on the phone with him and putting him on hold, 'Oh, wait, there's a call coming in, i have to take it, its my Uncle Edwins number, and Aunt Gert has been sick'
:: coming back to Dom line - 'OMG, that was Uncle Edwin! Aunt Gert has taken a turn for the worse! I have to go - i must get to the hospital right away!'
What is Dom EnfantTerrible going to say?

'You are on the phone with ME right now, and I should always be the center of your attention and universe! rather you are there or not is not going to affect rather your Aunt Gert dies, and if she dies, she will still be dead tomorrow. BTW, if she dies tonight, that would put the funeral on Monday, and that is our standing day together. I certainly hope you weren't thinking of changing that!'

Now, aren't you glad you have sons?

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RE: One of life's confusions... - 5/7/2008 12:08:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: innerimpishdream

I am a submissive and a mother of two young boys. They will ALWAYS come first in my life, because they are my future. So why does it seem that 90% of the Doms whom I have told this to, say that they agree with me, yet in a selfish sense, they pitch a fit the first time I have to put my boys first? Am I expecting to much?

imnerimpishdream: your children are apart of you, they are part of the package so to speak. I lived with a man once upon a time, he wanted me but was indecisive regarding the children. He stated so, he made it an issue, he neglected to rationalize my responsibility to them as they chose not to be born that was my doing, hence he is not apart of our lives. The children are older, I enjoy them both and enjoy the new addition to our family. Like someone stated men come and go, children are forever, hang on to that. I don't see any expectation here except you prioritizing your responsibilities, its all good.

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RE: One of life's confusions... - 5/8/2008 3:23:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: innerimpishdream

....he knew I was home alone with my sons and then threw a fit when I had to tell him to hold on a moment since my sons were fighting. He even went so far as to tell me I couldn't possibly be a submissive because I wouldn't put him before my children.

Sounds like a spoiled little Mama's boy to me. Tell him to go home to his Mommy so she can teach him some manners because here in the real world that adults live in, sometimes we have to put others before ourselves.

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RE: One of life's confusions... - 5/8/2008 3:26:23 PM

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He even went so far as to tell me I couldn't possibly be a submissive because I wouldn't put him before my children. I thought that was a bit unfair.

Unfair....unrealistic....unwise....but especially...

UNLIKELY

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RE: One of life's confusions... - 5/8/2008 5:02:59 PM

DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: innerimpishdream

Thank you for all your replies.
I can understand that someone gets upset if plans change and all that, but the one situation I had was a Dom called me, and he knew I was home alone with my sons and then threw a fit when I had to tell him to hold on a moment since my sons were fighting. He even went so far as to tell me I couldn't possibly be a submissive because I wouldn't put him before my children. I thought that was a bit unfair. When the time comes, and I am spending it with a Dom, I will give my 100 % to the Dom, if and when I find the right one that is.

Okay, the explanation helps a lot.

At one extreme, a Dom would demand 24/7 and the kids would be a hindrance. At the other extreme, you would only have a few hours for Him once a month. If it were the latter, I could understand Him not liking it.

It sounds like the Dom was out of line unless the kids delibaretaely started a fight because they didn't like Mommy spending time with anyone else. I suspect you were in the right, but I'm withholding judgement.

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RE: One of life's confusions... - 5/8/2008 5:42:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: batshalom
I friggin' hate whiny "men."

Omg, lol, that pretty much says it all... Family first, always. xox

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