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sambamanslilgirl -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/29/2008 7:31:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel Rather than either of you issuing ultimatums to the other, maybe a good old fashioned heart to heart talk is in order? Both of you lay out what you need and want, and how that could work with your existing relationships...... and of course any compromises that each of you are willing to make. I wouldn't beg in this case..... I'd offer to have that heart to heart, and then the ball is in his court. Best of luck... Heart to heart? geez, she only met the guy in person once. She's not salvaging a relationship on its silver anniversary. LOL! I don't mean an emotional heart to heart. I mean a laying it out there sorta conversation..... IF he's someone she actually thinks she'd want to get to know better, etc... A second attempt isn't worth a poop if they can't agree on any basic foundation or boundaries, especially where their other relationships are concerned. he wasn't looking a basic foundation or boundaries for re-establishing whatever we had before. he was more interested in returning to the point where we were before as if nothing happened. telling me that he regretted what he had done and thought about me doesn't gain my trust back. to him this was all a simple game to play with my emotions. on that note, he doesn't deserve a second chance.

Missokyst -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/29/2008 7:48:18 PM)
I totally agree with you. What is the point in salvaging something that was so fleeting? One meeting and after months he wants her to beg him? What a dweeb. Let his hand do the begging. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 Heart to heart? geez, she only met the guy in person once. She's not salvaging a relationship on its silver anniversary.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/29/2008 7:53:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl my questions to all - do you give a second chance to someone who dumped you? In THAT type of situation, no. Do not need the drama or lack of stability. quote: would you beg that person in taking you back even though you're not the one who ended the relationhip in the first place? No, and I wouldn't say they needed to "prove themselves worthy." That's just again worthless energy and drama. I don't want to be in a relationship where someone needs to prove themselves, and I certainly won't prove myself. We will be who we are- he made his choice, and there you go. Working to prove something to me only makes it worse.

RCdc -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/30/2008 2:41:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl "it's either Daddy or me ...you cannot have us both". he didn't like the fact he had to share me though had no qualms about sharing himself between me and his wife. This is Darcy At the risk of betraying my gender, I just have to say...... pffft typical man, wants to have his cake and eat it too... [sm=lol.gif]

adoracat -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/30/2008 3:56:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl before i post the questions let me give you the short version of a long story. i met and chatted with a local dominant from here ...we met in public once ...the next day he dumped me. the reasons (as lame as they are) were from he didn't want to share me with Daddy to i might be confused where my loyalties lay between him and Daddy. oh i should mention, he's married. fast forward to last week - he contacts me again regretting his rash decision and wants me to come back to him as his princess. i message back in so many words telling him i don't give 2nd chances and if he wants someone special like me back in his life, he must prove himself worthy. today, i was asked to beg to be acccepted again or lose everything i had with him forever. guess what my answer to him was. my questions to all - do you give a second chance to someone who dumped you? would you beg that person in taking you back even though you're not the one who ended the relationhip in the first place? i had something very similar happen to me. some 6 months after i'd declined to stay waiting on someone without knowing where i stood with him, and after i was already with Daddy, he called me and expected to take up where we had left off. needless to say, it didnt happen. i wouldnt beg to be with someone who had dumped me for no really good reason. actually, not go back with anyone who dumped me at all. asking that we no longer see each other is not the same as being dumped. "i'm moving, i dont want to string you along" "i am having to travel a lot for work and dont want you to have to be alone so much" those are good reasons to not see each other, and if the circumstances changed, i would be willing to at least discuss it. so it really depends. kitten

RavenMuse -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/30/2008 6:56:48 AM)
When some young lady has walked away from what there was between us... it depends on the reasons for it as to whether I am prepaired to give a '2nd chance'.... but mostly I don't and if there was a breach of trust involved then she could beg all she liked, nothing would move Me to giving a second opportunity. Trust is a one shot deal with Me. However when I am the one who drew a line under things, ended it and said "no more"... there is no such thing as a second chance. I don't make decisions lightly in either direction.

Mercnbeth -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/30/2008 8:04:23 AM)
this slave has chatted and been on dates with incompatible people before, but never considered it being "dumped" when they weren't interested in pursuing a relationship. chatting with someone (married or not) and meeting once in public isn't the sort of thing this slave would consider to be a "relationship" that either could be "dumped" from, unless it was specifically spelled out that chatting and one meeting = a committed relationship. perhaps this slave is missing the part where a commitment had been made to each other.

Poetryinpain -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/30/2008 10:46:52 AM)
~fr~ This situation puzzles me. He dumped you because he had a problem with your being attached to your Daddy. He contacted you again, wanting another chance. Then, when you said no, he wanted *you* to beg *him* to take you back? Is this guy mental? Leaving aside the fact that he's married (which would have been a dealbreaker for me in the beginning), I would think back to what he had said when breaking the budding relationship. If he is concerned that I won't give him his 'due' as compared with another man in my life, I would doubt that the intervening time would have changed his mind. I doubt that he spent that time regretting the impulse that sent you away. And the part about begging. You may be a sub, but you don't have to beg to someone who isn't beg-worthy. pip, all IMO

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/30/2008 2:48:18 PM)
not to worry, pip, i don't expect him to try a 3rd time thank you everyone for your comments

DesFIP -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (4/30/2008 2:52:36 PM)
Demanding you beg him was ridiculous. If he had come back saying that before he couldn't deal with you not being totally free to commit, but now he is, and would like to start talking to you again that might have been enough for you to meet him for coffee or lunch and start seeing if you could now be compatible. But he never addressed the issues that had caused him to decide you couldn't have a relationship in the first place. Which tells me that those issues will come up again and end in the same way.

stella41b -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/1/2008 6:55:08 PM)
When I said I needed you You said that you would play It wasn't me who changed But won't share you with Daddy But don't you know that now you're gone And I cannot be a Dom Now I have to follow you And make you beg to come back You don't have to say you love me Just get on your knees You don't have to stay forever Just say pretty please Just beg me Just beg me I just want to dom you But believe I'll only tie you up Left you alone But it came to me My brain is dead But I try to feel All that's left is domliness I can make it real You don't have to say you love me Just get on your knees You don't have to stay forever Just say pretty please Just beg me Just beg me Oh ou don't have to say you love me Just get on your knees You don't have to stay forever Just say pretty please Just beg me Just beg me Just beg me.... apologies to Elvis Presley..

BBWnNC72 -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/1/2008 7:04:56 PM)
my question is: were you with your Daddy when you started talking to this "Dom"? And if so, why would He want to talk to you in the first place if He didnt want to share you with someone else and knew you had a Daddy. i wouldn't beg anyone to take me back if they were the one to dump me for a reason like that, especially after one meet. Now if i was in the wrong and they dumped me, i might beg and plead if i really wanted to have that relationship but never for their indecisiveness.

Indemnis -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/1/2008 7:06:30 PM)
I dunno about dumping, but I've given a second chance to someone who was cheating. He was the only one, though. If someone dumped me outright, though, particularly for silly reasons, that'd be that. No second chances there. At least if a guy knows you're gonna catch him cheating, there's a chance he'll feel bad enough, or be scared enough (snicker) to quit doing it. But to me with this guy, it sounds that chances are he had something he considered 'better', and lost it, then tried to 'settle' back with you.

Leatherist -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/1/2008 7:06:46 PM)
Fuck no-my exes are exes for a REASON.

shahla00 -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/1/2008 7:10:21 PM)
Noway!!! He dumped you because he is a fool. Don't go begging back. Find someone else! Just remember they do it once they do it again.[sm=agree.gif]

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/2/2008 7:29:54 AM)
so stella when are you cutting a demo?

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/2/2008 7:33:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BBWnNC72 my question is: were you with your Daddy when you started talking to this "Dom"? And if so, why would He want to talk to you in the first place if He didnt want to share you with someone else and knew you had a Daddy. Daddy and i have a ldr which i have permission to meet other local dominants.

Ebonybbw -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/6/2008 6:07:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl my questions to all - do you give a second chance to someone who dumped you? would you beg that person in taking you back even though you're not the one who ended the relationhip in the first place? Hell naw!! I don't go backwards... He dumped you once, he'll dump you again... Move on sweetie.. his LOST!!!

deliteme -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/6/2008 6:24:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl i asked him why the sudden change of heart - i could never get a straight answer out of him except "say yes or no in being my princess again". Sounds to me like you are well rid of him. He sounds the jealous, grabby type to me. Dumping after one meet and now..he wants you to BEG HIM... ffs tell him to take a long walk off a short pier. IF you had been playing for a while and IF there had been a real reason for the split and IF you think he is worth it then MAYBE give him a whirl. Just my thought

lronitulstahp -> RE: 2nd chances / begging (5/6/2008 7:14:33 PM)
quote: my questions to all - do you give a second chance to someone who dumped you? "Dumped", that particular word may be a bit strong. After breaking up, yes i've dated someone again. i have, if the reason for being 'dumped' is something like family issues...which can be proven; maybe they finally got that much talked about divorce, for instance. i have had people move away due to work issues, then when a project is over, and they're back in town, we re-connect, or they get parolled or are allowed work release on the weekends....[;)]

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