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Have you ever been stood up?

I've been stood up by a male dominant.

20% (14)

I've been stood up by a female dominant.

1% (1)

I've been stood up by a male submissive.

15% (11)

I've been stood up by a female submissive.

10% (7)

I've been stood up by a male switch.

1% (1)

I've been stood up by a female switch.

0% (0)

I've been stood up by a male slave.

0% (0)

I've been stood up by a female slave.

1% (1)

I've been stood up by "other." (TG, vanilla, etc)

18% (13)

I've never been stood up.

31% (22)

Total Votes : 70

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 5:13:53 AM

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Only one where I have gone out of My way to meet her, but where I am not convinced that they are serious I tend to just let them know what scene event I will be at next and arrange to meet them there if they are interested.... had many no shows on that level but thats what I expected of those and why I wasn't going out of My way to meet them somewhere I wasn't going to be attending anyhow.

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 5:48:12 AM

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i have been stood by dominant, male submissive and plenty of nilla men

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 5:53:17 AM

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Haven't been stood up (and also have never stood anyone else up), but have not met tons of people, so I may be statistically inaccurate:)

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 6:53:06 AM

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I have only been stood up one time and I was mad for a week after he did me like that

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 7:01:08 AM

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Too many times by submissive men to keep count. Some on a personal meet and some for pro-sessions. Funny how the one's who are into "extreme" CBT or whatever else, seem to be the ones who no show without so much as an excuse. Guess they wanna keep their fantasies just wank material. Then there are the myriad of "emergencies" used as excuses. Boy what bad luck some of these subby boys have. LOL

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 7:05:17 AM

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Would flying to the other side of the world and having the person not turn up at the airport and not contact you for the entire month you are there count as being stood up?

Guess I was stood up then. Phew lucky I can laugh about it....it actually was one of the best holidays of my life.

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 7:15:19 AM

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Sadly.. I had one that i had been becoming very close to for several months and whe i took a holiday to LA, he spoke to me up until the day wewere to meet... then vanished off the face of the earth deleted his CM profile, his yahoo profile, and all other means we had to contact each other. I was devistated. Its been a year now and still think about him often... What a freaking cowardly prick! He could have done the decent hing to do, which would have been tell me the truth...

On the upside I got to spend a couple days with my brother and go to Disneyland and DCA with a 3 days pass
. all and all It was a nice holiday!

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 9:06:10 AM

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I had a vanilla date do a no show about 20 years ago. I was not surprised as I think he was going to score a sure thing until I informed him otherwise a day or two prior to the planned event. I went anyway and had a blast. Especially when I saw him there with one of the local trollops.

Even more fun was him avoiding me for several weeks then coming to see me at work (I managed a nightclub at the time), sinking to his knees at my feet in the bar areas, begging forgiveness and another chance. I just laughed and patted him on the head. Told him I understood how young 20something male hormones are and to stick with dating immature sluts. He was never going to get in my drawers anyway. He was a big handsome young thing, and under the raging hormones, a nice kid. He deserved to get some.

As far as the internet thing.........I never set myself up to be stood up. But I've had a few that never showed up. I already knew they wouldn't. To me, that stuff doesn't even count really.

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 10:00:00 AM

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I’ve met about a dozen people that initial contact was online. However, we knew each other well and had been talking on the phone. We were pretty passionate by the time we decided to get together flesh to flesh… so they showed for the meetings as did I.

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 10:05:43 AM

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Not only was it original, but gave us all something to laugh at over lunch. Had he attempted to reschedule after that, I may have been tempted to meet up with him - but only so that I could poke him in the eye.

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ORIGINAL: MissMorrigan
His excuse for failing to turn up... He went temporarily blind lol

well you must admit...his excuse was a wee bit origional!!

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 4/30/2008 10:27:57 AM

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I've been stood up a couple times. Once by someone who tried to belittle me the next day thru email, saying *I* wasn't there! I was admittedly 10 minutes late because I didn't expect to get stuck in a traffic jam on the exit ramp for half an hour.... He had my phone number but I didn't have his, and he never called to see if there was a problem *shrug* as far as I'm concerned, if you can't be bothered to stick around for 10 measly minutes OR call the number you've been given, then you're the one choosing to stand the other person up....

I've been on the "excuses" end of a couple of meetings... But if I'm interested enough to meet someone, I've probably already told them I have three major chronic illnesses that impact play and my life. Seriously, if I have a 30-60% attendance rate at my job and school, how can you expect any better for social engagements? I'm willing to accept the response that you don't want to deal with a partner chronic illnesses, but please don't have me give you details and then get mad when I wasn't lying to you!

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 5/13/2008 2:34:28 PM

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Yep. Its amazing how many people have heart attacks, or disasters or sick parents or what have you just when they are supposed to actually meet. I think they are just fakes and frauds. But who knows, maybe there are all sorts of such mayhem that truly occur. Its like the unnaturally high rate of dominants who die young, leaving lonely unattached submissives, pining for another dom. I tell ya, its amazing a BDSM'er can get health insurance the way this trend is running We have to just decimate their actuarial charts

Kana,
BDSMers do not have any greater, statistical risk to life, limb, or health than the rest of the population.
The statistical anomaly is limited to those who know, speak with, or agree to meet with YOU. You, Sir, are the Male Dominant version of Jessica Fletcher. Really, I am putting Master at unforgivable risk, just by addressing you directly like this on these boards.
The worst, the saddest to think of, are all those innocent, first time, married to my husband who loves me but will never understand me little subbies, whose poor husbands got up and went off to work the morning You were supposed to meet with their sweet, innocent wives, never knowing that the meet had been planed and that, for that reason, they would be hit by a train on their way to work.
Haven't you caused enough suffering, pain and mayhem? For the love of God, Man, make it stop!

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 5/13/2008 5:12:13 PM

SinLee

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i've been stood up by two people, yet i've been stood up five times...

once by a Dom on account of whiskey being his friend (i decided i was glad i didn't meet him)
the other was in college... total pothead, but so adorable, stood me up once because he was stoned and forgot he was coming over... .and three times in one night when he had a show - once when he was supposed to bring me there in the morning, once when he said he'd bring me there in the afternoon and the final time when he said he'd send his drummer for me. ... yeah that was SO the end of that relationship....

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 5/13/2008 5:17:18 PM

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I've been stood up but not from anyone I've met from here. I haven't met anyone from here. At least ... not yet.

the person I was stood up by was someone I'd been seeing for awhile, even. I could have understood it a time or two ... but it got to be a nasty habit. All kinds of emergencies befell his poor self! Come to find out, he was seeing two other women that he met on AFF. What a man whore. And I don't mean that in a sweet way.

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 5/13/2008 5:41:32 PM

CalifChick

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I can't believe I blocked this out and just now remembered it. I was even engaged to the guy.

I was living in Louisiana, and my fiance was living in Pennsylvania (we knew each other thru the industry we were in). Outside of his day job, he was a drummer and studio musician. He was set to play with his usual band at a black tie fundraiser in Dallas (it was something big, Muscular Dystrophy maybe, can't remember, it was almost 20 years ago). The bass player was a pilot and they were flying down in his small plane to pick me up and then we were going to fly to Dallas.

He called before dawn from the airport they were leaving from and told me that it was going to take longer than they expected because there was bad weather they were going to have to go around. Fine. I've got an overnight bag packed, my gown hanging up, my dog is at a friend's house, I'm ready to go. A couple of hours pass and I get another call, and this time it's an airport somewhere along the way. They had oil pressure trouble and had landed at an airport and the ground mechanic was going to see about fixing it.

A couple of hours pass and I don't hear anything, and I'm starting to get concerned because the timing is going to be a bit tight on making the fundraiser. And now he's not answering his cell phone. So I debate getting dressed and putting on makeup and doing my hair, because it's going to be a mad dash to make the fundraiser. But I didn't. I try his cell phone off and on over the next couple of hours, but all I get is voice mail. Around the time night fell I was thinking that they had taken off again and crashed, and it would be days before the bodies were found. Gotta love a good imagination.

Finally close to midnight he called, and he was mad as hell. Apparently, the pilot had gotten into an argument with the mechanic over the cost of the repairs to the plane, and they had gotten into a fistfight, and the sheriff came and arrested everybody for assault. When they finally were able to convince a judge to just let them pay a fine and got out, they flew back home because it was too late for the fundraiser.

I, of course, was more than skeptical of this whole story, but the next day he faxed me the repair bill from the airport (with the correct date on it), and the court documents (dated and all). Still, it was the beginning of the end. It may sound selfish, but I thought he should have called me at some point to let me know what was going on. I was positive they were lying in pieces somewhere. His cell phone had died, and he said they just wanted to get out of that airport, so he didn't look for a phone and they just left, and then when they got to their home airport, he just wanted to get home, so once again he didn't look for a phone... it wasn't the end, but it was the beginning of the end.

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 5/13/2008 6:18:32 PM

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WOW thats the same club i belong to .Don't you just love it when they stand you up then call the next day or next time you see them they act like nothing is wrong .oooh maybe that part is just me receiving that .

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 5/13/2008 7:53:09 PM

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Ok, I don't share this story a lot but I flew across the country once to meet a sub in Baltimore who stood me up for 3 days. Turned out to be the best 3 damned days of the trip. Lovely city Baltimore! The rest of the trip was the trip from hell....

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 5/14/2008 4:33:19 AM

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i have never been stood up or done any standing anyone up. twice i have had men do the "poof" thing when dates and times for a meet were being discussed.

off topic but
what has happened more than i think is statistically possible is have a Dominant tell me that their last submisive had to leave the state to care for an ailing parent. anyone else hear this wayyy more than likely?
just wondering

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 5/14/2008 4:35:00 AM

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Nope. Never been stood up.

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RE: Have you ever been stood up? - 5/14/2008 12:09:14 PM

tsatske

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quote:

what has happened more than i think is statistically possible is have a Dominant tell me that their last submisive had to leave the state to care for an ailing parent. anyone else hear this wayyy more than likely? just wondering

I think it is like leaving your last job for a 'difference of opinion in operating procedures and an opportunity for training and advancement'... it's an answer that covers all the bases safely.
Then they don't look like they don't take collaring seriously, but they don't have to get into the grisly details, either.
OTOH, if she left on good terms because of life circumstances, she should be willing to provide a good reference, right? I provide reference for most (uhm.. yea. NOT all) of my ex Doms and playmates, happily, whenever asked.

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