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windchymes -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 2:21:12 PM)
This thread is so making me wanna go to McDonald's. Or better yet, Five Guys.

ExSteelAgain -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 2:25:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee ~FR "Hello? Hello? Okay, I'd like a Double flogging with bondage, and I'd like extra spanks on the bottom bun, but hold the labia clamps, please. And make sure because last time there were labia clamps. Also, I'd like a side of biggie paddling, extra thuddy...Oh, and then a medium-hot order of wax play with some ice play tossed in. Are you there? I have a coupon for a free whipping can I use that now? What's that? No, thanks, I don't need the ball gag, but you know what? I think I will take a blindfold, thanks." It's got possibilities... LOL

daddysliloneds -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 2:25:42 PM)
they can't seem to differentiate between love and lust? quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist We see it time and again. The rush to sex and collars, the drama of hooking up and breaking up. And it usually doesn't take too long. It's like fast food. I've seen it in local real life communities too-gets so they can't go anywhere without running across an ex. Why do you think people are so hasty and heedless in this arena?

tenderplant -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 2:30:22 PM)
I was thinking the same thing this morning.

lronitulstahp -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 3:57:54 PM)
i blame the morals police. You know the guys who say a casual thing/fling/swing...whatever isn't "true" enough? Maybe if people played, and didn't apply to some silly rule that all "partners" had to be "the one", and learned more about their kink outside of serious relationships...they wouldn't feel a need to get collared/or collar someone at such a hectic pace.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 4:54:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp i blame the morals police. You know the guys who say a casual thing/fling/swing...whatever isn't "true" enough? Maybe if people played, and didn't apply to some silly rule that all "partners" had to be "the one", and learned more about their kink outside of serious relationships...they wouldn't feel a need to get collared/or collar someone at such a hectic pace. I whole heartedly agree with you. My Sir thinks that woman fall in love much quicker than men do. I disagreed with this. I think that because they are emotional creatures(women) and want to be in love they mistake lust for love and maybe don't often times know the difference. Of course this is a generalization that does not apply to everyone. But there are many that fall in love with love when on a hormone rush.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 5:02:36 PM)
I could do with some rushing hormones!~ Where's Faery with that cheeseburger?? ~~~

HornyToadsMI -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 6:24:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar Hamburger??? I thought that life was like a box of chocolates. Ok, Forrest......lol. It is just a symptom of the fast food mentality of life. Everyone wants instant gratification, not longterm relationships. We are quick to jump on the next thing that makes us feel good. :)

Leatherist -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 6:29:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp i blame the morals police. You know the guys who say a casual thing/fling/swing...whatever isn't "true" enough? Maybe if people played, and didn't apply to some silly rule that all "partners" had to be "the one", and learned more about their kink outside of serious relationships...they wouldn't feel a need to get collared/or collar someone at such a hectic pace. Amen, Twueness kills!!!!! I'd like to see profiles that go more like this......I'm not your doormat,and I am not your sub. And as far as I know,you are not only not MY Dom, you may just be a POSER-trying to gaslight me with guilt trips. Show me you can be a friend and do right by me,and there may be chances for more. But if you come across as another moron relying on a role to do it all-instead of proving you are a MAN-just go back and play in the shallow end of the pool with the other kiddies..

whiteslavebitch -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (4/30/2008 6:41:42 PM)
[sm=cheerleader.gif] quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist quote: ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp i blame the morals police. You know the guys who say a casual thing/fling/swing...whatever isn't "true" enough? Maybe if people played, and didn't apply to some silly rule that all "partners" had to be "the one", and learned more about their kink outside of serious relationships...they wouldn't feel a need to get collared/or collar someone at such a hectic pace. Amen, Twueness kills!!!!! I'd like to see profiles that go more like this......I'm not your doormat,and I am not your sub. And as far as I know,you are not only not MY Dom, you may just be a POSER-trying to gaslight me with guilt trips. Show me you can be a friend and do right by me,and there may be chances for more. But if you come across as another moron relying on a role to do it all-instead of proving you are a MAN-just go back and play in the shallow end of the pool with the other kiddies.. [sm=cheerleader.gif]

KnightofMists -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/1/2008 7:20:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist I've seen it in local real life communities too-gets so they can't go anywhere without running across an ex. Why do you think people are so hasty and heedless in this arena? I share your observation... not just in this lifestyle... but people in general. Why are they hasty? Not a clue. I suspect their is alot of different reasons for being hasty. However, does being hasty equate to a negative thing... maybe if it heads badly... but what if the relationship goes on for years? What happens when a person isn't so hasty.. gets involved in a committed relationship and it ends weaks after the commitment? It has been my obervation that being Hasty is not a common denominator for bad relationships. I have found that self-awareness and being honest are some common issues for failed relationships. I think alot of people become involved and don't know what they really want, or they are lying to themselves and others of what they want. Trying to fit into clothes that don't fit or don't look good on them. I hear often that people have a negative view of causal relationships. Their is "I am in a LTR relationship... they are so much better than casual" Fact is... sometimes people should be in causal relationships. They are sometimes a good place to learn about themselves. But causal doesn't mean that you need to go and fuck around.. testing this and testing that. Maybe just getting to know people and interacting with them is good enough. Seems like dating is becoming a lost art in society and their is a consequence because of it. I really don't care if a person is in a Causal Relationship.. or if it's a Committed Relationship with another person. I think a rewarding relationship be it Casual or Committed is more important. I think when people enjoy themselves and are honest with everyone... it goes a long ways to earn my respect.

DragonLady5 -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/1/2008 7:35:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OmegaG quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark It's not a BDSM thing. It's a life thing. People fall in and out of relationships, have sex, rush into shit. You could go down the local pub and bump into someones ex. It's not a 'community or lifestyle' thang, it's life. People have grown used to wanting and getting it now. Commercialism and consumerism doesn't stop at the latest TV or fast food establishment. the.dark. I agree, there is a person in my life who, since I've been with m'Lord has been in "love" with three different men, said as much and was imagining a future with each of them. Hell, even though I know I love m'Lord, I can't seem to spit out the words. This person in as vanilla as can be and she hangs with people who have been married 4 to 6 times (and they are in their early 40s). It's not a BDSM thing, its a cultural conditioning that causes people to feel they are defective without someone to love them and a low self-esteem that causes them to take whatever presents itself to them. Certainly true. My daughter could be the poster child for that. She is not happy unless she's in a relationship with someone. And most of the time she ends up not happy with the relationship.She's 24 and I worry so much about her. Absolutely her self-esteem is low unless a guy "likes" her. Then she puts everything into that one person. Who invariably disappoints her. When she's "single" she's totally depressed. Which makes her jump at the next available opportunity. Nasty circle, that.

rook42 -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/1/2008 10:03:24 PM)
"Harold and Kumar Search for a Third Partner" =)) People need hobbies. If you're capable of being infatuated with a relationship you're capable of being infatuated with some other activity. Doesn't matter if it's a career, dancing, stamp collecting, sexual marathons, or throwing kittens at seagulls. Relationships are a bloody horrible hobby, though; if two or more people can't live naturally, why force it?

Leatherist -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/1/2008 10:16:08 PM)
I could go with throwing kittens at segulls. Would a potato cannon do the job?

LadyPact -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/2/2008 1:45:29 AM)
I'll go so far as to say it's a lot of these things, and a combination of a lot of these things. Mad Rabbit wasn't that far off. People are in love with the idea of being in love. I think this stems from a lot of sources, but it isn't necessarily based on the idea that a time investment is necessary. As far as time goes, we have become an instant gratification society. The internet alone is a perfect example of this. Before the net, if you wanted information or knowledge about things, you had to do some form of actual research. Now, "google is your friend" is the almost automatic answer. There is actually a social conditioning connected with that, right along with fast food, and a lot of other areas in life that more than satisfy the 'get it now' mentality. The 'casual play isn't ok' mindset. It often reminds Me of the 'oh, I'm above watching tv' types, who think the only real entertainment in life can be classical theater. Almost like there is no in-between. Our vanilla counterparts don't run out and marry the first person who ever shows interest in them (I hope) but we seem to have a plethora of folks who are more than happy to consider themselves 'owned' after a coffee meeting. Have you ever noticed that nobody ever says "velcro wedding band" but I'll bet just about everyone hear has heard of velcro collars. No, life isn't a hamburger, but people settle for one once in a while.

eyesopened -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/2/2008 2:21:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp i blame the morals police. You know the guys who say a casual thing/fling/swing...whatever isn't "true" enough? Maybe if people played, and didn't apply to some silly rule that all "partners" had to be "the one", and learned more about their kink outside of serious relationships...they wouldn't feel a need to get collared/or collar someone at such a hectic pace. i agree with this. i see it with my 21 year old son, he takes a girl out for dinner and a movie and its a 'relationship'. Recently i said to him, "GeezeLouise doesn't anyone DATE anymore?" What is wrong with playing without being in love or feeling a deep attachment or without being collared or whatever? Call me a slut but i'm a try before you buy kind of person. i also prefer the taste of a hamburger cooked outdoors on the grill and haven't had a fast-food hamburger in well hell i can't remember the last time i had a fast-food hamburger.

michelleryder -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/2/2008 6:14:04 AM)
Last time i mentioned something similar to this on the message boards i was accused of preaching so i'll say nowt. Even if i agree 100% with leatherist.

Griswold -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/2/2008 6:12:11 PM)
Who the fuck told you life is not a hamburger? I'm down with hamburgers.

tdslittlehelper -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/2/2008 9:30:12 PM)
for the same reason that the divorce rate is so high.. people who just JUMP in!

Lordandmaster -> RE: Life is not a hamburger. (5/2/2008 9:34:00 PM)
Because when they finally find what they think they've been looking for all their lives, it's a pretty intense feeling. It makes their previous relationships look like dog shit by comparison. Most short-term d/s things fall apart within six months. That's also just about when infatuation wears off. People really need to wait a few months before making any long-term decisions. quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist We see it time and again. The rush to sex and collars, the drama of hooking up and breaking up. And it usually doesn't take too long. It's like fast food. I've seen it in local real life communities too-gets so they can't go anywhere without running across an ex. Why do you think people are so hasty and heedless in this arena?

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