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Missokyst -> RE: Wantless, needless people (5/3/2008 8:23:14 AM)
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That would have been me, way back when I felt that slave thing many years before I knew about this stuff. However, I was that way because I truly felt like my needs meant nothing and the only time I felt "happy" was when I could make someone happy. However, I felt that because I did not believe I deserved more. I was pretty sure I was happy, as I knew happiness. And that was good enough.
Then, I found happy. I found joy. I found that I had to crawl out of my "I am empty, fill me with your needs so I can live on that."
After a breakup which was devasting for years, I found me. And suddenly I discovered I could be just me without needing to make everyone else happy. After a time, came contentment, then full out happy. And you know what? That old happy..? Turns out it wasn't so happy.
I knew then I could never allow that type of relationship again. That is why I would never choose someone who wished to have a slave. Or someone who had that mentality of his needs should be all I need to find my contentment. I proudly say I am someone with needs and wants and desires. I know I can be on my own and be happy. It was a long time coming but for me if I am in a relationship, it better be one where we make each other content. It better be one where we think of each others needs, wants and desires. Holey smokes there is no comparison, FOR ME, to have a partner who considers me as a full person who knows and deserves happiness.
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: tahlly
Maya2001
In all honesty, my relationship with my owner would be seen by others as myself being nothing more than a housekeeper who does not get paid; and who once in awhile, if he feels the need, gets some sex thrown in J J I am quite happy with that J
There are some who are truly happy doing nothing more than seeing to the needs of others; it fulfills their own needs and wants
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