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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/1/2008 4:24:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Tell me what's a guy supposed to do
When all his feminising dreams come true?
And for a while its fun for him
To be a Julie not a Jim
But then he finds that no one cares
Its everyday and he's still there
And suddenly its not so great
To be a Sharron Ruth or Kate
And slowly he might realise
That regardless of disguise
And the reasons he advanced
To be wearing frilly pants
His yearning was for woman kind
And the male thoughts inside his mind

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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/1/2008 4:28:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

What we wear, invariably defines how we feel about ourselves inside. Any woman who's worn high heels or scarlet lipstick knows this.

That's why I am a red head now and in retrospect blonds don't have more fun. Hindsight IS fifty fifty vision.
PS That's why friends tell me I speak through my arse.
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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/1/2008 4:35:18 PM

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I'm also thinking it's like me and masturbation.
I used to love it to addiction point when it was a covert secretive thing to do, when trying to keep still, when trying not to make a sound or make the bed move.
(The kind of secret masturbation that many women can do when we bring ourselves off in seconds. I guess we don;t tell the guys much about it in case they think a few seconds is enough and god knows especially after we have put so much effort into begging them to go slower). Anyway, I digress: after 'coming out' about most of the ways I masturbate, in front of others, it doesn't hold its appeal so much.
I guess it ceased being masturbation??

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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/1/2008 5:21:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Perhaps his goals were to 1) accept himself, 2) have other accept him and 3) help others accept themselves. Now that he has reached his goals, he's moving on. Been there, done that kind of thing.

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Yup.. I think that is pretty much it.

(edited to add) It just boggled my mind after all the (figuratively speaking) kicking and screaming, "but THIS IS WHO I AM! YOU JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND!", I wanna, I wanna- and so on and so forth.. She agreed. She understood. She even helped him become the woman he dreamed to be (and she began to enjoy it all,too.) They came out to the kids and got a "No problem.. kewel, we can deal" He got total acceptance. NOBODY REALLY CARED. (which is pretty much the response I get when I came out to family and friends

. My gay brother said "Oh.. you a top or bottom?")

I think the "outside world" is more disinterested in WIITWD than judgmental or appalled.

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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/1/2008 6:19:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx
That's why I am a red head now and in retrospect blonds don't have more fun.

German research showed last year that redheads have more sex. I can't find the original article, but there's lots of new references to it.

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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/1/2008 6:45:41 PM

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This happens all the time in most alt communities. How many kinky people get burned out after a few years and drop away? People who were at EVERY meeting and EVERY party, just don't come very often anymore? When something is new and fresh and exciting, you make it your priority, sometimes to the exclusion of other things. Over time, you absorb it and balance it with the rest of who you are.

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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/1/2008 6:56:44 PM

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Some people dive head first into things, and once they get into it, they realize that the total kink may not apply. So, maybe he just limited his kink to what applies to him at this time. Ever buy a bunch of sex toys, and only two or three are used on a regular basis? Just my 2 cents.......

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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/1/2008 8:23:10 PM

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As the arabs say, "When pleasure remains, does it remain a pleasure?"

When something is forbidden, and has to be held in secret, it has enormous power in the mind. I tend to look on it as a form of obsession. Once he came out, and had the chance to act on his fantasies, a lot of that power was disipated. (Also, if he was doing so much with establishing himself in the larger CD community, he may have suffered a bit of "burn out.") So now, like water released from a dam, his fetish/orientation found its own (more comfortable) level.

I've seen this plenty of times. Someone comes out as gay, or as being into kink, and they go "whole hog" for a while at the beginning, only to settle down some time later. (I was a little guilty of it myself when I first discovered the gay bath house scene. I spent a lot of weekends in them, only to fade off after a few months when the novelty of no longer being in a sexual "starvation economy" wore down.)

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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/1/2008 8:41:04 PM

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When one realizes and accepts from within that, which at first, we did not accept of ourselves, is where the battle comes into being..once that battle has been waged and won, then we trun to other things that we need to accept or come to terms with in order to become that well balanced, whole person that we wish to see..It is a never ending self realization and actualization...it is the impetus that causes us to strive through out life....Tempting

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RE: What happened??? (A CD thread) - 5/5/2008 4:04:46 PM

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Interesting question.

I'm at much the same point he is. Since I've been together with my g/f (who first met me as Tasha) I find that I'm using my psychic energy in sustaining that relationship. I no longer feel an urge to dress; "Tasha" is still part of me, but I'm just not expressing that part of me.

Also, it would be fair to say that she has brought my "boy" side back out. I won't say that I'd suppressed that part of myself, but "he" was certainly back-burnered.

My sweetie likes to joke that she "cured" me, which derives its humor from her position as a transgender counsellor.

But seriously...we all have had consuming interests - crossdressing, coin collecting, fantasy baseball, BDSM - that have eventually faded for us. It's a natural thing; we all grow and move into other pursuits.

Tasha

((edited for misspelled words...hope i caught them all))

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