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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/4/2008 5:19:49 PM

DiurnalVampire

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Well, Bella, the topic as what we look for in a service sub. If your idea of service is well-moistened eyebrows, its perfectly valid.
My important list:
-vacuum
-dishes
-laundry, wash and fold/hang
-computer know-how
-photo editing (a plus, since I am a photographer)
-modeling
-cooking

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/4/2008 5:23:34 PM

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Since I enjoy photography, they liking an being good at it too would be nice, yes. then we can go on photo shoot opertunities together:)

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ORIGINAL: underlimited

Hmmm a lot of car-related and yard-work related activities.
Anything else that may come to mind that may impress you? Such as being a good photographer, would something like that impress you?

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/4/2008 9:07:48 PM

chezzy71

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Why would being able to work on a car be a pre-requisite for being owned??Look..while all the other guys were working on car engines and brakes and doing oil changes with dad or woodworking,i was busy playing my guitar and wanting to become Hendrix.Now i fell a tad short of that goal but why would anyone immediately ignore my other talents???That seems a bit harsh to me.

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 2:36:27 AM

DommeBella

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quote:

Posts: 6313
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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline Well, Bella, the topic as what we look for in a service sub. If your idea of service is well-moistened eyebrows, its perfectly valid.
My important list:
-vacuum
-dishes
-laundry, wash and fold/hang
-computer know-how
-photo editing (a plus, since I am a photographer)
-modeling
-cooking

DiurnalVampire,

Since this is a message board, and we can post our own opinions and that is just what I am doing. In addition to being a service submissive/slave (which he is very good at the things that have been listed here and MORE) - it is nice to have a well-rounded one as I am only looking to own one at a time - hence the ability to "service ME" is very important as well!

Bella~

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 3:09:31 AM

MissMorrigan

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People learn skills, they aren't born knowing how to launder, clean the house, give massages and pedicures or know how to fix pcs.

What I sought initially was someone with an open mind/heart and willingness to learn and I have found I have had to 'retrain' someone to my standards which has amounted to 'deprogramming' them of many bad habits that have been created over the years so while having someone that is great at massaging is a plus, they have been great at massaging other people, so have had to learn how to massage ME and that can be said of any other duty that is required of them.

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 4:03:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chezzy71

Why would being able to work on a car be a pre-requisite for being owned??Look..while all the other guys were working on car engines and brakes and doing oil changes with dad or woodworking,i was busy playing my guitar and wanting to become Hendrix.Now i fell a tad short of that goal but why would anyone immediately ignore my other talents???That seems a bit harsh to me.

Nobody said it was. What was said, I believe, is that it is a definite plus, as it is a skill that is often needed, and many times, it's something that has to be done from time to time. Personally, I don't care if My sub does the work on My car himself, or he takes it to the shop to get the oil changed. As long as the matter is taken care of in the end, that is the important part to Me.

I think more to the point is the appreciation of skills that a submissive might have, but they very from Domme to Domme, situation to situation. I'm just as happy with a sub who can work on the car, to one who could play music for Me while I relaxed in the bath after a particularly stressful day. Both are absolutely worthwhile. Both are forms of serving Me. Either one would put a smile on My face, because in each case, it would be serving Me.

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 5:47:10 AM

thetammyjo

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Anyone whom I own must have a car and be happy to drive it. I hate driving, have always have, ok, maybe not when I was 14 and got my first permit but I grew to hate it quickly as I spent 50% of my free time driving my mother around.

Other interests and skills aren't so fixed in stone though I have strong preferences. Certain beliefs and attitudes are more fixed but the OP isn't about that.

Right now, since I'm not actively looking, I'd added a new skill set to my profile as a "must": ability to read Greek/Latin and at least a few years of college in either ancient history, classics, or classical studies. In other words, in order for me to even consider someone at this point in my life they have to be very very special in very specific ways.

My general response to a question like this is to do three things.

First, improve on a skill you all ready have -- make sure you keep your knowledge up to date and keep in practice.

Second, start to learn and practice something you've always wanted to do -- I've had a boy who learned belly dancing, another massage, and another how to cook better.

Third, learn something you've never wanted to do but which you have heard might be useful in a Ds dynamic -- such as the above or secretarial skills, basics of home improvement, reading certain books, going to SM classes, etc.

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 8:12:55 AM

abqowner

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Good question. Frankly, I think the best skill a slave can bring to the table is the ability to learn. I don't really care if they can cook / clean / build / repair / massage etc. It's my job to teach them that stuff (or at least send them to classes). If they are able and willing to learn that's all I really need. That being said, it's probably the hardest skill to find!

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 8:16:59 AM

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Enthusiasm for my life vision..........a willingness to listen, put forth thier thoughts and feelings in an uncloaked manner. The knowledge that some inhibitions are there for good reason,but that others are merely custom, and need to be examined as such. Rather than taken for granted as "norms."

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 11:57:37 AM

underlimited

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I like this response. It reflects one of the Mistresses I've served. She taught me how to do things the way she liked. But online, you also find Dommes who already seek existing skills. Perhaps they don't have time, or got too frustrated with teaching skills to unworthy subs?
I think it may be difficult for a Domme to decide if She is willing to put the effort into teaching a new sub new skills.....

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ORIGINAL: abqowner

Good question. Frankly, I think the best skill a slave can bring to the table is the ability to learn. I don't really care if they can cook / clean / build / repair / massage etc. It's my job to teach them that stuff (or at least send them to classes). If they are able and willing to learn that's all I really need. That being said, it's probably the hardest skill to find!

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 12:14:16 PM

Archer

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If you are seriously looking at what skills you want to bring (NOTE: attitude is not skill) then I would sugest a book on modern Bultering and House Management.
Accounting

Chaufer- including manageing the maintenance of the cars

Cleaning- not just the simple how to scrub tiles, but rather what products and proceedures are best for what articles of furniture etc. (additional points for green alternatives might be given)

Wardrobe Care- not simply doing laundry but basic mending, stain removal, hanging and ironing, everything on how to properly care for garments of various natural and man made materials (not just the little blurbs they have on the tag) Wardrobe means head to toe so includes shoes/boots etc.

Time Mangement- keep a shcedule, make appointments, organize calander, organize tasks that are recurring in nature

Supervising of Contractors- dealing with contractors of various types can be something that eases the load of a woman.
(contractors have a reputation of trying to take advantage of women's stereotypical lack of knowledge about handyman things)

Shopping for Staples (while maintaining a buget)

Not that these skills will be universally desired but they certainly provide a good foundation.

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 1:03:29 PM

lateralist1

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I echo willingness to learn and to try.
Being good at one or more things is great but the willingless to learn about me and to fulfil my needs is the most important thing for me.

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 1:28:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

My general response to a question like this is to do three things.

First, improve on a skill you all ready have -- make sure you keep your knowledge up to date and keep in practice.

Second, start to learn and practice something you've always wanted to do -- I've had a boy who learned belly dancing, another massage, and another how to cook better.

Third, learn something you've never wanted to do but which you have heard might be useful in a Ds dynamic -- such as the above or secretarial skills, basics of home improvement, reading certain books, going to SM classes, etc.

Fabulous points! Also....

Look at skills and activities that you already do. You might be amazed at your skill set already.

Board games and cards: Some owners would love someone who has a joy for playing.
Financial Management: can you balance a checkbook, juggle bill paying and pay the butcher, baker and candlestick maker? This is a skill that Master Archer depends on me to to as he is a self-admitted financial management slob.
Social abilities: Are you good at social gatherings? Maser Archer liked my social butterfly tendancies as he was something of a wallflower himself and hoped my social skills would help bring him out. (it did)
Conversational abilities: (yes, I read your profile). It's a skill that many owners would love!

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/5/2008 2:15:36 PM

ThundersCry

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Skills? Thats probably the last thing I am concerned with...

I want a lady who will be able to be just as vulnerable to and for me, as I will be to and for... her.

Raw...

The ability to just let go...and be herself...period.

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/8/2008 7:14:03 PM

YourhandMyAss

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How ironic, since one of the big expectation of future doms, will to be to have a car and the ability to drive it. Ie no suspended liscence, no tickets, no impounded cars ect ect.

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

(fast reply)

Anyone whom I own must have a car and be happy to drive it.

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/8/2008 7:35:46 PM

MaamJay

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For Myself, I need a sub who is physically fairly fit as I would appreciate his/her help with:
* Being a roadie (helping to carry heavy PA gear and set it up and pack it up ... on the job training provided)
* Yard work (digging, planting, weeding and pruning especially ... Master may eventually trust you with "His" mower LOL!)
* Dishes (I hate doing those and it kills My back!)
* Other household tasks as assigned (but I will give specific training as I want them done My way unless your way is better)

Generally these are skills that can be taught by Me, so you don't need to come pre-packaged with them ... so like the others, I really need a quick mind and willingness and ability to learn. However, other skills that you have already developed may well be greatly appreciated, and a sub who lives here would have to share Our love of music and photography or they'll be very bored! Technical skills such as computer ability would also be appreciated, although both Master and I are reasonably capable.

Currently Master would love Me to find a sub who can do concreting as His dream is to concrete half the back yard (thereby reducing the amount of work for the mower!) enabling Him to run His remote-controlled cars ... but that's a bit of a one-off requirement LOL! Interesting thread though!

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RE: Skills you seek for a good service sub/slave? - 5/9/2008 2:06:46 PM

TeachMeTonight

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On the skill list, I am going to put in a vote for cooking :). Although I love to cook, it would be awesome to come home to a great dinner after a long day at work.

Still, skills are not the primary thing I look for, I look for character traits first. These include (not neccesarily limited to);

Integrity
Work Ethic
Communicative
Humor
Willingness
Self Confidence
Openess

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