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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 8:09:55 AM

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omg I HATE tickling!!!!!!!!! I'll take a weighted paddle before tickling!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DEFINITE hard limit for me./....

oh yes I do too.....and that light as a feather touchy gropey feely thing

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 8:14:44 AM

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Canes and this may sound weird but this wooden fork think he has. I am a masochist also but not all forms of pain give me pleasure. Some things I just cannot tolerate. Some of that has to do with my emotional state and what it is we doing in our play.

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 8:33:43 AM

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In terms of physical pain, the worst thing I've experienced is meningitus. I'm too new to kink to say where my "I really can't take any more" level is. In general, though, emotional pain is always worse than physical pain, and I have a very low tolerance for it.

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 8:43:45 AM

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Waiting. Any form of waiting. For the next lash. Or the next phone call. Fr the next meet. For the contact...waiting. Good old fashioned emotional pain.

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 8:59:09 AM

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I've got cramps.. Does that count? :)

I'm thinking the most painful to date for me would be nipple clamps.. Towards the end I thought like I was gonna pass out and I thought for sure my nipples were gonna fall off..

Emotional pain ranks up there too..

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 9:00:28 AM

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i loath tickling too!! Silence will make wander about stuttering like Horton Hears a Who!, and any toy that has previously been heated or frozen results in a knee jerk reaction of me laughing hysterically!!
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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 9:03:52 AM

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In my desire to experience endorphins (my UNSUCCESSFUL EXPERIMENTS, rather) I did lots of heavy bottoming, and I agree, most of it seems like various sensations to me, not pain. Caning---fun. Singletail---fun. Thud better than sting, but overall, okay. PAIN = anything near my nipples. The total no-fly-zone, put those on me and I will puke on your shoes level PAIN.

Another example: CBT. I love the crafts corner of my local dollar store, and I got these awesome mini clothespins to do a porcupine. The bottom guy was all......Hey! COOOL!, waving his unit around. The submissive was Mistress! It's going to FALL OFF! Well, it didn't fall off, though it did wind up with the coolest little fleabite bruises....

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 9:17:39 AM

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The two things that come to mind first are clover clamps (I'll never forgive Bita for giving them to him) and his shambock. His belt can be pretty painful too, when he wants it to be.

I never liked pain. Pain always annoyed me or angered me. Probably because of my history. I have had to learn to change the way I process pain, and in doing so, I have changed the way it registers for me. I handle pain much better now - even the unintended, stub-your-toe or smack-your-funnybone type of pain, to where it doesn't instantly irritate me. Now I'm more apt to wait it out and get on with things. When I hurt for him, though, it can be a love/hate thing. He gives me harder pain than toe-stubbing pain, in fact it can be excruciating at times, and it can take all my energy to handle it but as soon as it ends I miss it.

For me, this kind of pain isn't about my own personal sexual satisfaction. It's about enduring for him, and accomplishment and his satisfaction. When I see that look in his eye, I'm in heaven. I love to feel his power over me, but even more than that, I love to see that look of satisfaction in his eyes. It is very bonding to achieve this together.

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 9:20:31 AM

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Perhaps it's because I know what REAL pain is - the kind that had me screaming to God to make it stop. I haven't reach that point with pain inflicted by a top. BDSM has nothing on gas gangrene. And I still have to deal with the pain in my phantom limb - I've learned some tricks, but you can't rub or massage a foot that isn't there. (Nor can you scratch that itch on the calf that isn't there - almost worse than the pain.)

As far as which play-induced pain causes the most relief when it stops - I'd have to say the zipper. It's fast, yes, but - especially when I wasn't expecting it - DAMN, it hurt! But it was over, the spots got rubbed tenderly, my eyes stopped watering, and all was well.

I'm wondering if going through the hell that was the gangrene predisposed me to become a masochist. I didn't used to be one - I hated pain, especially pain I knew was coming. Now, as long as I know the top is going to inflict pain, I prepare myself mentally for it, and it becomes pleasure.

pip, there's good pain and bad pain

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 9:21:38 AM

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Perhaps it's because I know what REAL pain is - the kind that had me screaming to God to make it stop. I haven't reached that point with pain inflicted by a top. BDSM has nothing on gas gangrene. And I still have to deal with the pain in my phantom limb - I've learned some tricks, but you can't rub or massage a foot that isn't there. (Nor can you scratch that itch on the calf that isn't there - almost worse than the pain.)

As far as which play-induced pain causes the most relief when it stops - I'd have to say the zipper. It's fast, yes, but - especially when I wasn't expecting it - DAMN, it hurt! But it was over, the spots got rubbed tenderly, my eyes stopped watering, and all was well.

I'm wondering if going through the hell that was the gangrene predisposed me to become a masochist. I didn't used to be one - I hated pain, especially pain I knew was coming. Now, as long as I know the top is going to inflict pain, I prepare myself mentally for it, and it becomes pleasure.

pip, there's good pain and bad pain

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 9:35:23 AM

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Pip..I do believe it's in the mindset going IN. Although there are some things that, no matter what the mindset is, some people just CAN NOT process pleasurably.

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 9:40:51 AM

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natural childbirth of twins - one being breech .... does that count?!?!?! --- personal experience, I wanted to DIE ... was scheduled for a c-sec 2 days later, but NOOOOO they wanted out NOW ... 3 years ago, and thus far in my life THE most painful thing I have ever experienced physically

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 10:14:06 AM

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There have been remarks on this thread that the worst pain is of the emotional variety, and of course that's true. Things like guilt, heartbreak, betrayal, loss and emotional abuse can all hurt worse than any kind of consensual physical pain that our lovers may inflict upon us. And I can attest personally to the fact that emotional abuse can hurt as much or more, than a fist in the face.

But in regards to the Original Post:
"what I'd like to know is, of all of the S/M-ey things that your dominant/Master does to you, what produces sensations that you process as painful?"

A THIN FIBERGLASS ROD. When I was sub I could take prolonged, severe beatings with a variety of implements, almost to the point of passing out, and I never safeworded. But with that fiberglass rod, I was in clear distress after only a few strokes. Begging for mercy. Fortunately my kind Sir heard my cries, and switched to another implement.

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 10:31:48 AM

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Emotional pain for me is far worse than physical ... I don't classify myself as a masochist as I don't process pain often enough into pleasure for me to comfortably consider myself as such, even though I have a high pain threshold even to where I have freaked out medical staff before ..for example was making french fries and accidently dropped the fork and my reflexes made me try to grab it as it is falling and in the process plunged my hand in the hot oil. I did some cursing at first as the initial pain was intense ran it under cold water for a while , bandaged it up myself by then felt okay and a couple hours later ended up going to work, the medical staff at work was shocked that I was not still in pain and started burn treatment as they were afraid of permanent skin damaged from. . Another incident fell 6 feet onto a cement pad hip first rupturing the bursa , I got up walked around, thinking all was okay and kept moving to keep myself from stiffening up I finally decided to drive myself to the hospital to get checked out, they were floored that I had drove myself and even more shocked when they learned that it had happened about 6 hours earlier and that I had continue walking around, then put me on a synthetic opium drip --which to me was total overkill since I was not in that much pain.
For me the downside of having a high pain tolerance is trying to determine when I have a serious enough injury to seek medical attention. also can result in some very nasty bruising developing after play like this taken 4 days after a flogging ..I was not in subspace during and never expected it was that hard a flogging to result in this and at the time of was just a nice shade of red http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y53/mleg2001/other%20images/4nextday.jpg

It does leave doms in the position of having to choose their shades of red carefully if they don't want to be leaving me all bruised up instead of trying to find my pain threshhold limit.

As far as worst pain that I have felt ..was an upper back/neck injury to my spine with enduring 6 years of chronic pain from

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 11:24:12 AM

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Maya,
I've often wondered if I have some short circuity in the nerve pathway department as there have been many times when I was either so sick or injured that I should NOT have been able to ignore it...but I did, sometimes dangerously close to the point of death. One of my boys seems to have the same issues and I really worry about it when he actually complains that something is wrong because I know by my own history how dangerous it can be. I understand completely what you are saying as I have, far too often, seen those looks of panic and disbelief in the eyes of health care professionals.

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 1:01:02 PM

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Canes.

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 1:03:18 PM

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What is painful to you?

The "Should I Take a Past Mistress Back" thread...

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 1:04:45 PM

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I haven't run into too many things that get the "OMGWTFRED" response from me. Tens unit + a probe did though, that was bad... felt like it was ripping me inside or something... I'm still not sure what my view on other electrical stuff is.

I suppose non kinky pain would be falling from a 50 foot rappelling tower... THAT was brilliant of me.

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 1:07:25 PM

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Umm... that wouldn't be a damaged rhomboidues muscle would it? Mine lifted off my shoulderblade due to a work accident 8 yrs ago and it is enough pain now and then to make me seek out cliffs.
I am glad cold weather season is mostly over.
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As far as worst pain that I have felt ..was an upper back/neck injury to my spine with enduring 6 years of chronic pain from

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RE: What is painful to you? - 5/2/2008 1:24:32 PM

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Interesting.... In terms of physical pain inflicted by another to me, the worst is anything that the pain giver does not get turned on giving!
Yes I have many likes and a few dislikes, but if I am a submissive partner, I feel a great need to give the Domme aything which makes her hot, even if it is something I usually hate.
This is most intense when the Domme and I have a degree of relationship with mutual caring and respect.
Those tiny long thin rattan strips that are far too slender to be called canes cut like knives, and I hate that, unless someone I truly Adore is coming as she massacres my ass with them! The more she gets off, the more I crave to give her. There are toys that can truly cut one badly if the top or Domme is not very skillful and careful, which most people should NOT use, and I will even crave to give a beloved and trusted Domme the use of these on me, if it turns her on a lot.
I love sensual sexual touch the best, but even if she offers none of that and none of the other kinks i love, I will still need to try my best to give her what she likes best if we have that caring relationship.
LOL when I am the Dom I also love sensuality best, but a much appreciated sub seeks and needs severe pain of most sorts, I can give it to her. There again if she is not orgasming from what I am doing then it will stop, because I love "forcing" her to multiple orgasms.

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