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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/5/2008 6:00:25 PM   
AAkasha


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i really doubt someone as rich as what they are offering would actually look online for someone.

Charlie Sheen had an active profile on MillionaireMatch.com last year.  Quite a few women who are well off have profiles on Alt and CollarMe.  Why not men?



Right...and actors like Hugh Grant would never go find a hooker in Hollywood.  They don't need to PAY for it after all.

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/5/2008 6:01:17 PM   
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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/5/2008 6:31:11 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		I was seriously communicating with one sub that wanted to purchase something for me... leather clothing of my choice.
Unfortunately, he thought this meant I would play or sleep with him the first day..
UM.... NO.  which part didn't you understand, the N or the O? 

And he was serious about meeting, even after I found out he had the audacity to tell one of my friends (the girl who was coordinating the get together) that he was going to meet me at my hotel first, he was still trying to weasel an introduction.  There were about 3 guys (and my female friend) that would have gladly pounded him for me if he had actually shown up after I told him several times that night (voice and text) to not show up.

Others have said they wanted to purchase "gifts" for me but it never went past a few emails. 

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/5/2008 6:34:25 PM   
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damn..being  a sub is so hard!!!


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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/5/2008 7:35:29 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Even as a pro, I find the guys that offer the huge, ridiculous items are full of crap. ^_^  They are just shooting off at the mouth, trying to make themselves seem impressive.

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/6/2008 4:48:49 AM   
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if someone is offering this chances are they have some sort of STD and family/friends and locals know this of them so they have to turn to online to find someone.



I have to respond to this, even if it is in jest. I know a lot of good people in the scene who have health issues such as STDs, and to treat it as anything other than a health concern (like joking why a person wouldn't be able to find a partner) is ignorant. It is a health problem, not a moral or character failing, and comments like this make the stigma conintue.

Had to get that off my chest.

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/6/2008 5:45:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm with LadyHibiscus ... I seem to be dealing with only impoverished wankers LOL! I've been bought an appropriate book as a gift, or a cute little crop by a subbie who promptly regretted his choice LOL ... that's it! Obviously not talking to the right guys!

In fact only today Master was suggesting I find a rich subbie who is a concreter as He'd love to concrete part of the backyard for a racetrack for His remote controlled cars ... like yeah right Master ... I'll order one up right away LMAO! Besides which, said subbie would also have to double as roadie, domestic servant ... any takers out there??

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/6/2008 5:52:06 AM   
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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/6/2008 4:22:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, we are often offered tribute from subs who don't quite understand what we're seeking.  We were confused the first couple of times it happened, but never offended (why would we be?  there's nothing wrong with being a prodomme, and thus nothing offensive about being mistaken for one).  We've never had any trouble declining, explaining that we are not prodommes.  Only once has someone pushed the issue, and I suspect that had more to do with communication problems (he was a foreigner planning a visit to the U.S.) than anything else.

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/6/2008 4:51:14 PM   
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We were confused the first couple of times it happened,

The word "generous" -- which appears in your profile -- is often read as code for "we want tribute, but we are not allowed to say so on this site."  You might consider a different term... if, in fact, you want to communicate a different idea.


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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/6/2008 6:21:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

im still waiting to be offered $$$

damn..being  a sub is so hard!!!



****psssttttt****  I'll give you those leather pants the wanker promised me....

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/6/2008 9:22:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		Now, I'm obviously not a Domme, but...

If anyone wants to send me a car, or give me a house or all their money, well, that's perfectly cool with me. I promise.

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/6/2008 9:41:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I was a stripper I'd have guys come into the club and try to buy me for a girlfriend/wife/Mistress/etc. with all sorts of ridiculous shit.  I lapdanced a Kennedy once and was offered a freaking private jet, trips to here-there-and-everywhere, a snazzy apartment... and still I turned it down.  Back in those days I was technically a professional and I still found it somewhat creepy and offensive to think that my affections could be bought.  And nothing comes for free, there's always strings attached.  Say you accept a trip to the Bahamas, and once you get there the guy's a complete fucking nutjob who basically holds you hostage for a sex vacation for himself.  Yeah.  No thanks.

The same rules apply for me, now, as a Domme.  Perhaps I take even greater offense than I did in my younger days since I clearly state that I'm *not* a professional and that I'm in a monogamous relationship.  So many guys out there just don't understand what that means -- some will even try to up the ante, thinking that if they offer me more they'll still get me to stray or change my mind.  That just pisses me off, I mean, what are they implying about my character if they think that they can lead me away from my boy so easily?  And it's not just disrespecting me, it's disrespecting the man I love.  After declining his generous offer for an apartment in London I had some guy actually tell me that I was only saying "no" because I was young and hadn't yet realized that I don't need a "beta male bitch" and in fact really want some strong man to sweep me off of my feet.

I get the impression that a fair amount of these men, too, are looking for a kinky call girl rather than a Domme, professional or otherwise.

It's sad, really. 

Of course this all becomes null and void the minute Goran Visnjic PM's me asking if I'd accept a love nest in Santa Monica in exchange for hawt sexxings.


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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/23/2008 6:54:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, after reading the responses on this post. I won't feel 'funny' when a sub want's to offer me tribute. Reading the responses to this thread was fun. So many different views. But I'm still suspicious at times.

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/23/2008 6:56:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		it was hard enough for me to accept my new sub getting me a b-day present... (I dont usually take gifts of any sort well)

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/23/2008 8:36:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

im still waiting to be offered $$$

damn..being  a sub is so hard!!!


Could be worse... if all you got's a penis, then all the cash be flowin' the WRONG way, for certain

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/23/2008 9:30:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

im still waiting to be offered $$$

damn..being  a sub is so hard!!!



You haven't ?????

I have had male subs contact me offerings domestic services,  tributes ... $300 for an hours worth of  your time    ......and I am a sub... so am no way interested

but I can sympathize with the Dommes ...the ones that are the worst are those that make offers right off the bat... they cling to you worst than pet hair on a statically charged nylon garment.  and they do not not take no for an answer. 


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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/24/2008 1:39:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hey, I'm not gonna lie to you...I've had to turn down tribute before.  I hated doing it but you know what, I've got my dignity. 

(Actually, I think it was the biggest mistake of my life!)  

Screw that sh*t!  I want a f*cking Escalade.   

< Message edited by joyinslavery -- 5/24/2008 2:05:26 AM >

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/24/2008 12:13:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		i dont think they always think they can buy their way in..but money is power jus as sex is, so for a lot they believe if they give up of that , it shows they are giving of themself

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RE: Turning DOWN tribute? - 5/26/2008 6:29:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are many who come here specifically to elicit cash from the hapless crowds. They are easy to spot. Their writing usually gives them away. The tone of the writing might seem off key, or they'll present inconsistent arguments, complex rationalizations or they'll show they don't have a clue about the life. High production value pictures can be revealing in their 'vanillaness'. In scene photographers generally have a distinct style. Those who are indeed scene models, usually say so and speak the language.

There are more than a few who will work the 'con', and go to great lengths to lure and hook the catch. I have played along a few times just to see how far they would take it. Of course, the most telling sign is their failure to go through the methodical process of checking out who you really are (SSC). Or their story is 'too good to be true'.

CM members who receive hundreds of emails do need a way to identify the folks they may actually be interested in talking to, but the exchange of money corrupts the process. You will never know what true motives are.

The transfer of money might seem to symbolize the transfer of power but it is not is not a transfer. That money is an exchange. Implicit in this exchange is the idea that the dominant is giving something up. The person paying buys time or attention, and that attention is then owned by the buyer. There is no true power exchange or exploration here. It is simply a deal which diminishes the dominant and empowers the sub.

Clearly there are more subs than dominants and this kind of imbalance provides opportunity for profiteers. A request for tribute can be well intentioned (as described in previous posts), but I have trouble seeing how it benefits either party.

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