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Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Advice needed in regard to dealing with fakes and wannabes. (5/6/2008 10:51:30 AM)
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It's a little difficult to quickly toss somebody into the fake and wanna be category.
My advice is to take things on a case by case basis with this. In terms of anybody real I've met from CM, yes, phone numbers were exchanged.
Exchanging of phone numbers happened at a time, when both parties felt comfortable with doing so. Sure, I've exchanged phone numbers in a matter of a day or two. However, it's also taken a few weeks or even a month or so before it's happened.
Normally, somebody makes the first move at this one. Sometimes, I'll toss my number out there or simply wait for the other person to do so. Regardless, if phone numbers are exchanged. I try to treat the person I'm dealing with as real.
Normally, email exchange happens, followed by either chat or phone conversation. Most of the time it moves from email to IM's then to phone.
I try to engage the other person in regular conversation as well as talk about BDSM stuff. If somebody can not focus upon having normal conversation about day to day life and they are stuck on wanting to Cyber Sex or are only interested in the 1001 ways I would do kinky stuff to them, I tend to loose interest in them. Don't get me wrong I'm one kinky Bastard, however, I'm looking for somebody who's not simply wanting to use me for online fantasy role play. If they want hot erotic stories they can find plenty on the internet.
I tend to stick to talking about kink, BDSM, sex and D/s instead of acting those things out with the other person. Sure I'll sit and talk about things I like, have done, would love to do. Not a problem. I like to talk about things that have worked out great and even mistakes and blunders from the past. Looking for a mutual exchange of past history, current status in life and future desires and goals.
Basically, covering the past, current and future in conversation. I've found many fakes tend to not want to engage into real conversation about their life or themselves. If they do, it's very brief with short made up stories.
I really don't look for any one single thing for proof if somebody is real or not. Just look to see if we can basically communicate and get to know each other. If there are strange road blocks in the way of communication and getting to know each other, then I tend to loose interest.
Some of the Best fakes or wanna be's I've encountered have had fantastic elaborate life stories, stolen pictures, and exchanged phone numbers. Yes, even talking on the phone is not proof enough. I've only had two such bad experiences with these types of fakes. Sooner or later, the more you talk with somebody, the truth will come out.
You just have to be patient when dealing with other people, because sooner or later the truth will come out. They can only keep a facade up for so long.
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