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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 7:10:18 AM

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Jenny can I have a peek before you cover it. If your Americanised then your culture has little to do with it. If your new to this country then it has a lot to do with it.

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 7:15:06 AM

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Not a chance, sorry. *chuckle*

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 7:34:23 AM

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I was raised Roman Catholic, I am a 1/4 each Shawnee Indian, German, Italian, and Scottish. So yeah, Im a mutt. But the Catholic part influenced Me the most. I grew up in a very female Dominant home, but mainly because My mother is insane, and she kept us all under lock and key and pop was too drunk to give a damn...

When I started out learning about sex, I felt I was always doing something wrong, or that it was a sin, or what have you. As I got older, I realized it was a natural progression, and found that in most of My behaviors I was extreamly submissive due to the way I was raised. I had serious fears of confronting people about what I felt or how they effected Me.

By the time I was in My early 20's I realized that I wanted control and I wanted power...but I still had alot to over come and to learn...so I began to journey into the life style.

I dont think that My immediate area has a great deal to do with what I do D/s wise with kitten or with Damien... I do what I want to do and just dont care for what others say and baiscally disregard the general population in this area. I dont feel as if My surroundings make up My culture...but more that I am culture unto Myself with in My surroundings. I set My own pace, I make My own rules, and I do what I think is right, fair or decent in any given situation.

When it comes to how I work around the surroundings, I make simple rules for kitten when we are in public...walk behind Me or beside Me...do not walk in front of Me. Yes Ma'am No Ma'am...and thats that. Yes, I get strange looks, but as I said, I dont feel as if these people in this place, which is a culture based on Southern Baptist beliefes, influence who I am or what I do. When I realized how the church, My mother and what ever else I was allowing to influence Me was doing so in a manner that I did not feel was what I wanted to be, I changed it over and took charge based on what I wanted and what I needed and what I wanted to be.

Hope that makes sense.

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 12:36:28 PM

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...I am British ...spent many years living in Poland ... she 'trained' me over 5 years ... trained as a slave and this was common knowledge to her friends and family ... Eastern European culture is much different and BDSM is much harder than here in the West ...world of difference eevn between Polish BDSM and Russian BDSM ...When my Mistress, a short plump lesbian hit me with a riding crop it hurt, and I mean really hurt, the sting was just like being hit with a cane. ...I've lost that 'island mentality', and have retained much of Polish or Eastern European culture in my lifestyle

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 12:40:38 PM

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I started to reply to some threads and then read all the way through. To many to comment on. WoW... what a great thread. You gotta' love the CM community when they take an interest in something sincerely... /hats off to the OP for starting this one.

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 12:44:10 PM

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My culture and professional job would not condem such a lifestyle, but it is my choice that i want to break free from the norm and commit to being a slave.

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 1:09:36 PM

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my culture has absolutely nothing to do with my kink interests.

we (Daddy/i and pet/i) prefer to keep this behind closed doors because that's the way we are - we're not into public display/play.

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 2:00:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

my culture has absolutely nothing to do with my kink interests.

we (Daddy/i and pet/i) prefer to keep this behind closed doors because that's the way we are - we're not into public display/play.

I don't quite get your connection there but I'm trying to.What part of having a history or culture means behind closed doors? I can see how a culture that you are living in can effect how a person acts but not ones own history influencing it. History, being able to look around where you stand and see centuries of history is not something most Americans have the option of doing. I've always felt that lack when I'm in places with rich lengthy histories and wished I could have come from it. Trying not to drift from the topic too much, I also wonder if this all plays a part in the social difficulties the US is facing right now. There isn't much cohesion in so many areas but then not living in another culture I can't say for sure it isn't same all over heh. It just all feels so fractured here to me. Anyhoo, I haven't a tapestry of ancestors to look over or live up to that I know of. There is no religious or cultural history in my family as far back as I can trace (admittedly not far) so it boggles me a bit trying to understand certain things sometimes. eta, because I just had more to write

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 5:57:54 PM

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LIFESTYLE CHOICE but the question is just how much does the culture you live in choose your choices for you just how free are you to live out those choices with your partner ? or is everything you do behind closed doors ?
many who are into BDSM will say they are into the Alternative lifestyle what does that term mean to you ?

Compared to most of the world, I'm pretty darn free. It's safe to say I feel in general as comfortable being my full self at kink events as I do as non-kink events.

Which should not be taken to suggest I feel fully comfortable in either.

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 10:37:47 PM

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My culture comes from three areas.

Australian post WW2 (very British in thinking and values. man ruled the home and work woman wasn't allowed in hotel bars etc.)

British (Scots/irish) Aristocracy

European (Prussian/Dansk) Aristrocracy.

The valuse of these are so alike to my lifestyle choice as Victorian era. They do not per se dictate my choices, but I chose according to circumstances and what I see as correct for us. I recognise that we need to comply with most of societies legal requirements but I do not recogninse the requirement of following what society does in their blinkered living.

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RE: How much does your culture control your choices in ... - 5/6/2008 10:50:30 PM

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Believe it or not, the Ukrainian culture tends to treat women very well. They're still expected to run the household, but in return, the men worship the ground they walk on. They know where their next meal's coming from, dammit! Case in point, when my darling and I are ready to start a family, he has already stated that he will be caring for me throughout the entire pregnancy, no matter what. This is what his father did for his mother and his grandfather for his grandmother. The women tend to be very outspoken and are certainly not repressed or dominated as they are in other cultures.

Now this isn't to say that there aren't Ukrainian men out there who beat their wives or act like assholes to them, but as a general rule? Women on top, woohoo!

Nevertheless I still think it's happy coincidence that I'm a Domme. It does make family gatherings easier, though -- when I'm bossing him around it doesn't look like anything out of the ordinary, just another happy Ukrainian couple.

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