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whats next, - 5/9/2008 6:45:35 AM   
babygirlalways


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Status: offline 		Hello A/all again
i guess  i wanted to post a new thread, for those who are reading for the first time short backround, my dom was comparing me to his painslut, sayin how he wished i was like her and that i could f**k him like she does, i talked to him a min of 3 times about this and explained how i felt, at the end he said "well then i guess you dont want me anymore and i guess you dont love me and its over isnt it?"
NOW time for my question, the other day he wrote to me asking if we were going to have a session this coming monday, i told him no but he told me that he still wants me? how can i tell him its over when i have already told him.  any suggestions
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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 6:46:57 AM   
Asherdelampyr


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Status: offline 		Restraining orders work wonders for getting a point across
seriously though, write him a letter, youd be amazed what happens to people when they get something in writing


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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 6:48:30 AM   
Aileen1968


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From: I miss Shore, New Jersey
Status: offline 		"Fuck off"  usually works well.

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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 6:53:17 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Ignore him and don't show up to the session.

Is there a BDSM group in your area where he's known?  If so, an appeal to them to ask how to keep him away should work wonders.


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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 6:57:07 AM   
MasterGreg43


Posts: 79
Joined: 6/7/2006
From: Fla, Ga, NY, NJ, MD, VA, now PA
Status: offline 		Well variety is the spice of life, I have a pain slut, and one that only love spanking, and serving, I have one that done not like pain at all only if it pleases this Master so she was use as My babygirl when I mostly needed to see a tenderside of My pets, I agree write Him a letter explaining that u both came to a decision and at this time ur relationship is no longer and then ask Him not to make contact if that is what u want a full and total seperation from Him then ask for it, now if those step are not respected then "Restraining order or report as a starker" comes to mind

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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 7:01:59 AM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		you put this in your other thread didn't you?

I recall saying this... don't answer the phone

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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 8:18:03 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: babygirlalways

Hello A/all again
i guess  i wanted to post a new thread, for those who are reading for the first time short backround, my dom was comparing me to his painslut, sayin how he wished i was like her and that i could f**k him like she does, i talked to him a min of 3 times about this and explained how i felt, at the end he said "well then i guess you dont want me anymore and i guess you dont love me and its over isnt it?"
NOW time for my question, the other day he wrote to me asking if we were going to have a session this coming monday, i told him no but he told me that he still wants me? how can i tell him its over when i have already told him.  any suggestions

there is no next, imho. 

he kept comparing you to the past and you said what you said basically walking away without a reponse to your question from him.

since he wrote you and you've declined, there's nothing else to be said to him ...because the more you say, the easier it might be for you to return to him.

that's my opinion.


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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 8:23:08 AM   
OmegaG


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IMO he still wants you because you are unfinished business, the relationship ended on a timeline that wasn't his own and he's not taking closure gracefully.

I would suspect that if you sessioned with him you are setting your self up to be yo-yoed and manipulated by him and that his desire to change you into his design would not stop.  I think that it's up to you to take charge of your life and persue what will make you happy.

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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 8:30:44 AM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		Ignore him,you already said no.

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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 8:40:45 AM   
kinkypuppy2


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Status: offline 		Some times people are a little to vague.. be more specific..

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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 9:25:06 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Come on Aileen Im proof that that dose'nt work well. Hello op does the delete or Igonre button mean anything to you. This is not the Here to tell you what to do forum. Pay attention to the advice given and make up your mind what you should do.

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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 12:29:07 PM   
KatyLied


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From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline 		Have you tried ignoring him?  That usually sends a strong signal.

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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 3:31:40 PM   
RuheMaus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

"Fuck off"  usually works well.


I was just about to suggest this...


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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 4:21:33 PM   
batshalom


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Hold your ground, sweet pea. He's banking on you not being able to resist him. (If you go back, you're undermining yourself and your own power, not only to him but also to yourself.)

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RE: whats next, - 5/9/2008 11:50:52 PM   
OldBastardly1


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From: Atlanta, GA
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterGreg43

Well variety is the spice of life, I have a pain slut, and one that only love spanking, and serving, I have one that done not like pain at all only if it pleases this Master so she was use as My babygirl when I mostly needed to see a tenderside of My pets, I agree write Him a letter explaining that u both came to a decision and at this time ur relationship is no longer and then ask Him not to make contact if that is what u want a full and total seperation from Him then ask for it, now if those step are not respected then "Restraining order or report as a starker" comes to mind


Yes, you are quite the stud master. But wtf is a starker?

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RE: whats next, - 5/10/2008 10:10:58 AM   
azropedntied


Posts: 1829
Joined: 7/25/2005
From: Phx AZ
Status: offline 		Ask him to come over cuz your Father is visiting and wishes to show him his wepons collection .
Tell him how you really would love to have a family of atleast 13 children  and you will be needing a nanny for each of them while your shopping , your also going to need that glod car with no spending limit .
Change your number and make it unlisted , if he stalks you slap  a restraining order on him .If you have clearly told him it is over there is no need to give him a call nor take his calls , more so if he can not be freinds .Perhaps you can write him a letter NOT an email  not a call explaining why it is over , how you have learned better what it is your seeking  now and wish him well .

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RE: whats next, - 5/10/2008 10:54:47 AM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Personally I would go with the do not answer phone etc...however if you want to be snotty about it (and sometimes I can be)..you can always say..I do not love you, we are no longer in a relationship of any kind..and if you need an intepreter, ask the pain slut you compared me to....Tempting..

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RE: whats next, - 5/10/2008 4:30:45 PM   
hopelessfool


Posts: 988
Joined: 7/29/2005
Status: offline 		Oh Tempting your being snarky....

Personally if you wish more snark this has worked in the past. I ignored 15 of his screen names and 3 profiles on collarme. I called the police on him real life 4 times. He still didnt get the message but after this it sunk in.

Dear such and such:

It has come to my attention that I have grossly missunderstood your intelligent level. You have not realized that I have moved on and am quite happy with the change in my life. I will make it clear to you, I am not into poly, you have a sub, be happy with her. Take your hand away from my cookie jar. Its mine not yours. You have clearly violated our agreement making it nothing more then fire fuel.
I Would rather fuck an animal then come anywhere near that tiny excuse you try to pass off as a penis. Please leave me the fuck alone, or i will be forced to show you just how good I am at aiming a whip...

=Respectfully yours.

Kitten

Feel free to copy and paste and change to suit your needs.
If this doesnt work Im sure I could find more snark to add if you  are just to kind hearted...

As for anyone else, really Im not this cruel on a usual baisis, he just really WOULDNT get the message.


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RE: whats next, - 5/10/2008 4:57:30 PM   
Focus50


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From: Newcastle, Australia
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quote:

ORIGINAL: babygirlalways

Hello A/all again
i guess  i wanted to post a new thread, for those who are reading for the first time short backround, my dom was comparing me to his painslut, sayin how he wished i was like her and that i could f**k him like she does, i talked to him a min of 3 times about this and explained how i felt, at the end he said "well then i guess you dont want me anymore and i guess you dont love me and its over isnt it?"
NOW time for my question, the other day he wrote to me asking if we were going to have a session this coming monday, i told him no but he told me that he still wants me? how can i tell him its over when i have already told him.  any suggestions

There's no quick-fix for his level of immaturity.  You need to make allowances for the fact that his dick protrudes forward and that he's one who seems obliged to follow where that anatomical lead takes him.
 
And now he's confused - you want out and that's disturbed the dust covering his brain and he's getting mixed messages from within; that his brain is conflicted with the status quo of his dick normally making decisions....
 
One of two things will happen; if he doesn't die prematurely then he'll inevitably grow up.  Well....., maybe....  For you, you remain adamant that it's over because one of you needs to be guided by their brain.
 
Focus.

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RE: whats next, - 5/10/2008 5:19:26 PM   
corsetgirl


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Status: offline 		Quite simply, delete, ignore and block!!  I would not put up with being compared to an ex-sub and besides, if he likes her that much, he should go to her and leave you alone!

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