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ORIGINAL: EagerToPleaseYou

I just recently received a training collar from a new Dom. I am assuming that he has accepted the responsibility of training me and that at some point he will decide whether he'd like to own me. My question is: What is the difference between being under consideration and being in training? Are they the same?

Any help would be appreciated. I pretty new to all of this and don't have all of the jargon down [:)] 

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Justme, I disagree with your definition of "assume"... the word means "guess to be true", it does not mean "not sure if it happens."

Cali

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

Never use the word assume.  Instead of saying, "I am assuming that he has accepted the responsibility of training me and that at some point he will decide whether he'd like to own me."....you should be saying, "Sir and i discussed what the collar meant to him.  After the discussion i know that he wants me to XXX and the collar will lead to YYY."    Never but never assume you know what the other is thinking. 

I'm sure you've heard the words communication, communication, communication.  Assumptions are NOT communication.  Discussion of each others' intentions IS communication. 

assuming  or having intentions.....both do mean...not sure if it happens..... 
don't see why one is communication and the other not

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ORIGINAL: EagerToPleaseYou

I do plan to ask him. I just thought that the question was pretty trivial and I wouldn't need to bother him with it. I've found out differently. I'm sure he'll have that discussion with me.

Thanks to everyone for such good insight and advice!

L.

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: Justme696
and skip the posts that say that all people who use "under consideration" are bad or wannebees.

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it is good to show people that there is more then one way...and make them think..agree

Looking at these two separate posts of yours, it's good to show people that consistency is anything you say at any given time, too!
 

Consistency as in never change your view when some one made their point clear.?
Why didn't you post the small discussion in between..afther which I made the second remark?
Beeing stuborn..is not looking strong and strict...perhaps you think so... me not.

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-first remark was when some one answered harsh in my opinion
-then that person explained what he tried to do
-second remark made, with a changed view because of the explanation
It is called communication. PErhaps you should do focus on the discussion and not what you wanna see as your opinion.

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Collared - a committment between the sub and Dom where the Dom has control over the sub physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and sexually - submission is complete and no longer questioned. To me, at this point, you would go from sub to slave, Sir would become Master. That's just the way that I can emotionally relate to this.