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Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 7:19:40 PM

asyouwishmaster

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I am very curious about the first time you were left with a mark. How did you feel the first time you were spanked hard until your ass was on fire? That first time a cane was used. That first time you were left with a bruise? Did you feel abused at all? Did it make you wonder what you were doing? Did you feel fabulous that you had something to remember the moment? How did you feel about the person who left the mark?

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 7:29:56 PM

greenie

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i didn't feel abused one little bit. How can a person be abused when it was something they willingly submitted to? i will say that it hurt like hell lol, but then i'm not a masochist. It also made me angry during but after i felt as if a great weight had been taken off my shoulders...a release of pent up emotions i think. Afterwards i had lots of heat and a few welts, but they were gone the next day.

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 7:54:51 PM

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The first time I had a scene I just felt completely serene, at peace, like a piece of myself had clicke dinto place. It was odd as I had expected I'd be all giddy and excited and anxious...but I was just completely calm. I think it worried the top.

The first time I got a mark, I thought "woowwwwwwww...coooolll"

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 8:27:05 PM

pastplayingames

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I don't remember my very first mark ever, but I can tell you about an instance of long lasting marks.

Exactly 17 days ago, I had a first really intense 'scene' (gosh I hate that word) with someone and I still have a few of the marks. His tool was a bullwhip and left some beautiful swirls and pop marks.

How did I feel about them? Well, when I crashed three days later, I questioned him about them. I was concerned that I was not healing quickly enough and was putting mederma on them.

It had been a VERY long time since anyone had whipped me and I was questioning things about myself during the drop...you know, the usual stuff..hehe:

Did I have question of being safe with him? -- No, not before, not during and not afterwards.

Did I have question as to myself? -- yes...How did I not know I was being marked like that?, Would I know when to safeword if I did not even know it was happening?, hmm..I have never safeworded.

After the drop:
I love those wonderful reminders of such a beautiful experience...happening to bump a particularly sensitive spot and thoughts of him flood my mind, a smile to carrying me through my day *s*.

Conclusion to my drop questions: I trust him to know.

~Christine

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 8:33:37 PM

foxglove716

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the first time I saw my buns glowing red I felt elated, it was the visual that matched how I felt on the inside...pink and warm

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 8:47:11 PM

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The first time I played and had noticable marks (something other than a small bruise), it came as quite a shock. It was with someone I trusted and so I had not been concerned about my safey and I certainly was a very willing participant. I just had no idea what to expect and when I turned and looked over my shoulder in the mirror and saw the condition of my ass........wow, I was stunned. After that kind of wore off, yes, I had a lot of thoughts going through my mind such as, "What the hell is wrong with me to allow someone to do this to me?" And even worse: "What the hell is wrong with me to not only allow someone to do this, but to ENJOY IT?"

I talked to the Dom I had played with and with other friends, some who relayed similar feelings, even as a top. I did not obsess over it, but it was definitely something I thought about.

At the same time, I also vividly remember going to work and sitting down at my desk and feeling a sudden wave of painful reminder, that brought a rush of pleasure to me and that I felt for quite a few days afterwards and definitely enjoyed.

So it was memorable and had a definite mixture of emotion and feelings. Since that was several years ago and I'm still playing and getting marks.....obviously the good feelings continued and the others faded, lol.

Blessed be,
harmony

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 9:11:45 PM

wipmebeetme100

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quote:

I am very curious about the first time you were left with a mark.

The first marks that i had were marks on my breasts made by a rubber type flogger. They were beautiful. You could see each individual mark....they looked like rays from the sun. I was so pleased that i showed anyone and everyone who wanted to see, friends, co workers, etc. I was very disappointed that the pictures we took did not come out.

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 9:35:50 PM

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Ok I am very new to this forum .... but eager to join in I guess. When I saw this post I could not help but reply. First question is how did I feel the first time I was spanked. It was so erotic so deeply sensual that really I could not help but grow completely sexually aroused... the harder it got the more excited I guess you could say I got. My ass on fire thrilled me beyond anything looking at the fire and welts I guess combined with the completely surrender you can give away in a scene as a masochist left me in a state of ecxtasy that could no longer be compared.

I personally never felt abused in this simply because I had consented that my body now belonged to this person conducting the acts. In truth I found it easier to surrender my will wants and desires to the person once these acts had been performed. Am I weird .... maybe .... I prefer to think of it as I am just a kinky lil freak lol.

And yes the marked served as a reminder of the person and the time spent making them and the surrender I felt then was more easily carried over as I gazed upon them. My lil momentos.

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 10:09:38 PM

kinkypinky

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i dont know if this qualifies as a true marking session, as the event that took place did not leave a physical whelp or bruise, but the first time Master ever touched me in an Ownership way was during a golden shower moment (our first scene together and last GS moment so far) and at the very moment that i felt the wetness, i felt as though i was being claimed. He made me look into His eyes as He stood above me in the bath tub and while He used His urine to mark me as HIS property, i felt no shame, no abuse, nothing but pure love and desire from the One that not only owned my body, but my heart and mind/will and soul.

Now im not one that dabbles in the golden shower play and find it a turn off. But when i think about the look in Master's eyes and the way He held me as we cuddled after our scene and feeling the Pride radiate from Him, i feel completely at one with Him.

We have been together since April 1998 and we have been best friends since the day we met. It was instantaneous. Our relationship outside of the bedroom is of equality. We do not practice our BDSM outside in the vanilla world due to living in a very hypocritical and condescending Bible Southern city. i have always been His equal and now even more so since being tagged as His property.

thanks for posting this question, it allowed me to remember again, that elation of belonging.

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 10:44:49 PM

lonewolf05

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1st time i was spanked...i just turned 50...and got 56.
how did i feel? damned happy. it was what i asked for.
cane? never had one. dunno.
my 1st D/s bruise? never really had anything deep or dark enough to worry over so i do not know yet.
no i have not felt abused. no i didn't wonder what i was doing.
something to remember the moment? i hardly remember it now...2 yrs later...wasn't THAT exciting........
how did i or do i ..feel..about the person? She is a Grand Lady and i am proud to have known Her.......and had Her as my 1st Ms.
haven't heard from Her in 2 yrs.

i hope this helps? help what i dont know...but enjoy if ya can.

wolf

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/18/2005 11:11:26 PM

perverseangelic

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Hrm. The first time I was left with a mark I did it myself.

Ah the years of partner-less S&M.

Honestly, though, if I had to have a fetish other than collars it would be visible marks. I love them. Am pleased by them. Revel in them.

I was blissfull.

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/19/2005 12:11:15 AM

Rayne58

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quote:

ORIGINAL: asyouwishmaster

I am very curious about the first time you were left with a mark. How did you feel the first time you were spanked hard until your ass was on fire? That first time a cane was used. That first time you were left with a bruise? Did you feel abused at all? Did it make you wonder what you were doing? Did you feel fabulous that you had something to remember the moment? How did you feel about the person who left the mark?

My first hand spanking I was left with bruises and red marks - I felt elated! They lasted about a week and every time I took a shower or got undressed I'd look at them and feel so proud, and also remember how I told Master I wasn't too sure I'd like the spanking thing (for the record I discovered I am somewhat of a masochist!)

Abused? Definitely not! Though I did spend a few days wondering about myself, am I weird for enjoying this? I voiced it to Master who explained that I wasn't weird I am just wired a bit differently and as He enjoys being with people who are wired the way I am it just makes it perfect for us.

I have been caned once, at a play party. I'd been flogged first and I had dropped into subspace before the cane was brought out. I took a dozen strokes and yellowed after the fourth but managed to take them all, though my butt was various shades of black and blue for a week after and sitting was a very delicate operation for a couple of days. I'm not sure I want to go that far again for a while!

I am always held and cuddled after a session and I always feel loved and cherished

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/19/2005 5:57:20 AM

EmeraldSlave2

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pastplayingames
I had a first really intense 'scene' (gosh I hate that word)

Is there a reason you don't like it so much or is it just an irrational quirk of language?

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/19/2005 6:19:56 AM

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The first time I was seriously marked I remember that my thought was "Oh my, how am I going to hide these in gym class".

Funny thing though, this question got me to thinking about how I have perceived my marks over time. It seems to me that I am always kind of shocked by my marks as when I look back after a scene the marks always seem to outweigh any actual pain I can remember experiencing. Maybe this is because I have always been fortunate enough to play with Tops who take you up on a curve and by the time we get to the "marking" stage...my perception of reality is already a bit skewed.

What I find odd though is that whenever I have recieved marks from punishment....my remembrance of the pain far outweighs the marks. I have not received many physical punishments as being a masochist most Dominants feel that pain is probably not a very effective way to punish me, but the one's that I have it seems that the pain has always been rather extreme....even though in reality it probably wasn't. Or maybe it is just that I didn't get the benefit of being taken up on that curve. Guess that the mindset plays a major role and defines the difference between "good" and "bad" pain.

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/19/2005 7:06:04 AM

krikket

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The first time I was marked (with a crop) i reacted rather badly...lol!! It never occured to me that I would actually bruise from a spanking/whipping, which is kinda nuts since I bruise very, very easily, and they tend to last for weeks. It was further complicated by the fact that I had an appointment in less than a week for my yearly ob/gyn physical, and there was noooooooo way I could have hidden the marks. (I rescheduled..lol)

Now that a number of years have passed, and on the rare time when I scene, I receive a great deal of enjoyment knowing the bruises are there, even if no one else can see them. Usually all I have to do is remember that I'm marked and I kinda zone out..yummmmmm!!!

cheers
jimini

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/19/2005 3:58:16 PM

LADYBOA

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2
The first time I got a mark, I thought "woowwwwwwww...coooolll"

The first mark I ever had was from a cane.. I yipped a couple of times when sitting down.. but I felt totally relaxed.. Almost like I was happy for the first time!

The best bruise I ever got lasted over 2 weeks and was really pretty the whole time. To me a bruise is a badge and I wear it proudly.

Never have I ever blamed the person that gave me the marks.. more like I am thanking them for them.. hehe

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/19/2005 4:16:40 PM

sudja

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ORIGINAL: asyouwishmaster

I am very curious about the first time you were left with a mark. How did you feel the first time you were spanked hard until your ass was on fire? That first time a cane was used. That first time you were left with a bruise? Did you feel abused at all? Did it make you wonder what you were doing? Did you feel fabulous that you had something to remember the moment? How did you feel about the person who left the mark?

Abused? Dear G/d, no.

Loved it.

Heck, I have deep scratch marks that are almost faded now. I will be pouting (quietly to myself, of course) once they
are gone unitl they are replaced.

The person who left them? She is my World.

sudja

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/19/2005 4:52:59 PM

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The first time my ass was smacked bright red.....I couldn't wait for it to happen again. It was something I had longed for. It was all good.

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/19/2005 4:56:11 PM

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I've just posted a message about which I'm feeling a bit weird, so what the hell, let's keep going. The first time, I was a bit wondering what I was doing. I didn't know the vocabulary of wiitwd, but it meant in fact that I'm a submissive, not really a masochist (I thought the 2 were inseperable, I think all my submission fantasies included pain). I mean, I was feeling comfortable as a submissive to her (limited to what I mention in my profile), but (of course?) spanking was the first thing we tried; so it was a bit strange not to enjoy it as much as I was expecting. Or did we try bondage first ? Anyway, the first time was a mixed feeling of what am I doing ? It's not what normal people do !, and the feeling that it was the natural thing to do... with a bit of feeling of adoration, I guess...

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RE: Your first mark, and how did you react? - 10/19/2005 5:19:56 PM

pastplayingames

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

quote:

ORIGINAL: pastplayingames
I had a first really intense 'scene' (gosh I hate that word)

Is there a reason you don't like it so much or is it just an irrational quirk of language?

EmeraldSlave2,

Call it a personal quirk, I guess. I don't like the word so much because it tends to imply connotations of acting -- as a scene in a play/film or some other dramatization of events.

While I have often seen actual 'scenes' being performed in public venues (people actually acting a part in their interactions with one another), my appreciation and interactions are more rooted in the genuineness of the interaction and energy exchanged between those involved.
Also, I find the energy exchanged between those interacting and those watching, when they really get what they are viewing, can add a certain interesting quality to what is going on as well.

Then again,
"All the world's a stage
And all the men and women merely players:..." -- Wm. Shakespeare

~Christine

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