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Signs of love - 5/11/2008 7:24:39 PM

lusciouslips19

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So many of my friends here know my story. I am with a great Boyfriend/Dom/Daddy that treats me great and calls me his girlfriend. He says he is slow to develop feelings and he doesnt wear his heart on his sleeve. He would say he is not in love with me yet, but I see signs of it by actions toward me. There is something that he does, that he didn't start doing until a few weeks back. This is a physical action that I have always been convinced that a man will not do unless he has feelings of love toward you... So, I am asking what did your partner do(either past or present) that let you know that he or she was crazy about you before the actual words were said??

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RE: Signs of love - 5/11/2008 8:13:56 PM

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I don't think there is anything that I need love for before I will do it. Of course it has to me one of the things I would do in the first place.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/11/2008 9:05:45 PM

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I could see it in his eyes when he looked at me, and I could just "feel" it. I don't recall any one particular action, but rather I could feel it in a multitude of his actions.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/11/2008 9:14:42 PM

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That is something different then, yes I know that feeling well but it could mean a number of different things.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/11/2008 9:20:21 PM

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Assuming stuff like that is pretty common...and I'm not trying to rain on your parade, BUT...

People have different ways of saying, "I love you." In order to make a relationship work, we need to understand their way of saying it. If he's saying something in YOUR language, that's not him saying it...it's you assuming it because it's your language. Before you can say it's truly heartfelt, it has to come from him in his langauge.

Doesn't mean, though, that what he's doing isn't important or just down right toe curling! In fact, pointing it out to him and letting him know that IS your language and how much it means to you would be a great thing to do. He needs to know how to speak your language, too.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/11/2008 9:31:05 PM

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I felt it, we were long distance, and the end of each phone call there was a silence like something needed to be said but niether of us were quite ready to go there yet

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 7:18:51 AM

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One thing I learned in previous relationships was that when a guy says "I don't love you", believe him.

As Master Fire said, we all speak different love languages, so how we show love will vary, as will the way we need to be shown love. My Master was the one who said the "L" word first and totally caught me off guard. I could give a long list of the probable signs that He loved me before He actually said it, but they could also be viewed as simply signs of affection or friendship and not necessarily love.

I think the most blatent sign was when He said, "Would it be so awful if we fell in love?" And I looked like this -------->

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 7:46:48 AM

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Before Daddy said He loves me He constantly told me His knees hurt. Now His knees actually do hurt so I didn't catch on for a while, but one day I asked Him why they hurt so much. He just shrugged and said it was because He kept falling for me and He was getting tired of getting back up. LOL. It sounds silly but I liked it.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 7:53:47 AM

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Invariably, when they think you're not looking at them and they're staring at you with the fixed eyes of a fried haddock, they're hooked. Literally and metaphorically

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 8:49:47 AM

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I second kittinSol!

It was a long time ago that Alpha and I first fell in love... but we were even younger than we are now and so unsure. The way I could tell this time around was that he actually started listening to what I had to say, hanging on every word and waiting his turn to speak, it gave me value that I hadn't felt before. It sounds kind of odd, but the moment I knew he was really in love with me was when he was lighting my cigarette... like it was the most precious thing in the world. It just clicked at that moment. Didn't take long for me to show the same signs towards him. Engaged a month later!

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:06:06 AM

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i knew Master was in love with me before he was willing to say it. We had actually discussed love in negotiation, because i am a loveslave, and love is important to me. i need to be loved, and adored. i signed a life contract with him, which says i must petition to be released, and he told me, he would be unlikely to grant me release, without 'good reason'. So that was a negotiation point - was his not eventually falling in love with me, a 'good reason' enough? He talked about how he valued slaves who served for the service, not for love, but he said that clearly was not who i was, and that, yes, for me, not being loved was a good reason to seek release.
But, after i begged to sign his contract, after we spent his 'trail weekend' together to explore and negotiate that contract, it became clear to me that he was indeed falling in love with me, rather he said it or not.
Yes, he does a million things that show me he loves me. But as MasterFireMa'am said, what people will do for different people in their life is different for everyone. i can take the hardest beatings and the hardest play only when i am in love; another painslut can take that pain only if love is not in the mix confusing it.
It was, and still is, a look in his eyes, of naked love. It was also in his choice of me; to Master, a contract, even a life contract, is different from a collar. He has collared only women he loves. that was not something he decided, i could see it when i pointed it out to him, the minute or so of reflecting on it in surprised before he said, 'yes, that is so.'
It is that walking in with your back to them and they stand looking at you. It is the fact that with all the loving support he gives me to change, he finds me beautiful, sexy, desirable, now, i make him happy with my service now, even though it still needs to be so much more. he is able to provide the firm pressure and unyielding support for that change, but he is pleased with the girl already.
at some point, after i signed His contract, i was in His kitchen (at that point we had only our weekends together), working and cleaning, and singing (i am pretty much always singing. usually shit-kicker. gawd, how annoying must that be? really). He walked into the kitchen and stood in the doorway just watching me. then he walked out of the room, came back with a collar, went and stood behind me and locked it on.
but, more than anything else, i'd have to say the one thing that answers your question is the look in his eyes, there are times when he lets his love for me show so nakedly there. he is a very private, close man. i know that it is a concise choice on his part, to let me see that, because he knows that i need it, and i have told him how much i appreciate his willingness to let me in in that way.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:07:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: abcbsex

I second kittinSol!

It was a long time ago that Alpha and I first fell in love... but we were even younger than we are now and so unsure. The way I could tell this time around was that he actually started listening to what I had to say, hanging on every word and waiting his turn to speak, it gave me value that I hadn't felt before. It sounds kind of odd, but the moment I knew he was really in love with me was when he was lighting my cigarette... like it was the most precious thing in the world. It just clicked at that moment. Didn't take long for me to show the same signs towards him. Engaged a month later!

Awwwwww! That was lovely to read :-) .

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:10:13 AM

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Nothing. Firsthand I have seen a lot of blunders with this sort of thing; From having others think something I did meant I was crazy about them, watching others think something someone did meant that person was in love with them, to thinking the same myself when it turned out to be wrong. Actions can show love, but I just don't assume anymore. What means something to you, like being picked up without warning on a rainy day so you don't have to walk to work, could be something that they do for any of their friends.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:14:46 AM

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Can I just keep lusting for a while.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:29:00 AM

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Sir didn't tell me he loved me for over two years. I thought I needed to hear it, but as soon as I stopped telling myself that, I found I didn't actually need it.

It was clear he wanted me in his life, demonstrated by his presence, but he couldn't say the words. By his actions I knew he adored me.

Eventually he explained he didn't know what love was so he couldn't profess to love me.

Now he tells me very occasionally, perhaps two or three times a year. So when he does say it, I really am honoured and I knpow damn straight that he means it.

Actions speak louder than words.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:29:03 AM

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For you, exceptions will be made.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:38:52 AM

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Personally, I think you have to look at what people do, and not worry too much about what they say. People say all kindsa shit, and sometimes they even mean it, at least at that moment. What the person does is the only thing that matters. What is it, "Actions speak louder than words"? Every once in a while, those cliches are true.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:43:57 AM

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Does it matter if he "loves" you or that he treats you in a manner which makes you happy? Is it good enough that he wants you in his life and that he will care enough about you and your happiness that he will be mindful of your state of mind?

Love is such a fluid word that it really can mean different things to different people. I know people who use it flippantly and I know others who take it very seriously, so I guess I'm not so much into someone declaring their love for me but I dig that they show me that I am an intragal part of their life.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:44:04 AM

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Master told me he loved me and continues to show me to this day (2+ years later) I always tell Master i love him and when i ask if i say it too much he says never enough. I asked him the other day do you know how much i love you? He said you show it every day sweetheart. I like to hear the word though as well as the actions.

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RE: Signs of love - 5/12/2008 9:52:30 AM

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Some of us have a hard time saying it (yes Ray-- I finally told him).

This is sort of how it used to go for me

The Boyfriend: Do you love me?
Me: Sure
TB: But you never say that you do, how can I know?
Me: didn't I just clean out your science experiments from the refridgerator yesterday?
TB: what does that have to do with anything?
Me: trust me, I couldn't do that if I didn't love you

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