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FlamingRedhead -> RE: Same Old Problems for a Newbie! (5/13/2008 11:31:32 AM)
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The real problem here, as I see it, is that you are not, in fact, dominant. There's a difference in being a top and being dominant. You can learn to be a top. All it takes it a little practice with the implements. If you were truly dominant and knew what you really wanted, i.e. your wife to do this with you, you'd find a way to bring her around. You'd devise a plan. You'd start introducing it little by little into the bedroom and also in day to day activities. Hell, if you were dominant, you'd be the head of the household already, and your wife would know who's boss. If you can't control someone you've known all these years, how do you propose to control someone else? Do you imagine that submissives are easier and require little effort? Wrong! There is always resistance. Learning to overcome resistance is part of being a dominant.
By the way, I was married for 10 years with 1 child, and I got a divorce essentially because he was not dominant and didn't want to be what I needed him to be. It costs like hell to get what you want. You'd better make damn sure you know what you want and that it's worth it in the end.
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