Hello again to one and all.

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

Hello again to one and all.

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> Hello again to one and all.

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Hello again to one and all. - 10/19/2005 9:53:27 AM

SuperbigGoddess

Posts: 8
Joined: 9/16/2005
Status: offline

What is the problem with some men, they pretend to be subs but are clearly not, why bother. I think thats a problem with most BDSM Sites they are plagued by players and nit wits.

If only there was a clear way to detect them before you get involed in deep conversation with them.

Ho Hum, oh well do have one sub so can not complain.

Goddess

< Message edited by SuperbigGoddess -- 10/19/2005 9:54:14 AM >

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: Hello again to one and all. - 10/20/2005 12:23:43 PM

NakedOnMyChain

Posts: 2431
Joined: 11/29/2004
From: Indiana
Status: offline

It's not just a problem with BDSM sites, it's a problem wherever you go, online or off, male, female, or other. There will always be players and posers and nitwits mixed in with those of us that are true to ourselves. Just look at them, be glad you're not a poser too, and steer clear.

_____________________________

"Oh, it's torture, but I'm almost there."
~The Cure

"I ask for so little. Just fear me, love me, do as I say, and I will be your slave."
~The Labyrinth

(in reply to SuperbigGoddess)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: Hello again to one and all. - 10/20/2005 12:34:32 PM

EmeraldSlave2

Posts: 3645
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

Yeah...but what really gets my goat is people who want everything handed to them and then complain when they actually have to use their skills of good judgement because the world isn't doing what they want it to.

(in reply to SuperbigGoddess)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: Hello again to one and all. - 10/20/2005 4:17:45 PM

GoddessDustyGold

Posts: 2822
Joined: 4/11/2004
From: Arizona
Status: offline

I'm not sure these boys (and probably girls, too) are pretending so much, as they don't really understand what submissive means, or to what extent each Domina expects submission. And this really applies to the Dom/mes that really should identify in the written protion of their profile as "Tops". Although there are some out and out posers who are just trying to get some kinky hook-up, even those are sincere, and just make assumptions that because they are willing to allow the use of their bodies for submissive sexual acts, that makes them submissive. The most distressing to Me is when I make so clear My personal definitions of submissive and slave vs. bottom, and those definitions are still ignored.
As to finding out prior to getting into deep conversation, I can usually tell pretty quick. The first clue for Me is that they are incapable of any deep conversation in the first place! *S*
You say in your profile that you are new. Your profile, itself sounds like you are up for play time as long as the boy can book a hotel room, and they are financially stable. So it sounds like you aren't looking for any sort of in depth relationship. This might be wrong, but it is what is sounds like. When you present yourself in that manner, you will get many boys who will contact you since, for the price of a hotel room, they can get an afternoon or evening of BDSM delight. And that is often a lot cheaper than a Pro.
If you are speaking, on the other hand, of boys who contact you and then fade away, or just want to cyber for free, you should be able to drop them pretty quickly and move on.
You will get the hang of it.
Welcome to the boards.

_____________________________

Dusty
They that give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety
B Franklin
Don't blame Me ~ I didn't vote for either of them
The Hidden Kingdom

(in reply to SuperbigGoddess)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: Hello again to one and all. - 10/20/2005 5:00:28 PM

Faramir

Posts: 1043
Joined: 2/12/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Yeah...but what really gets my goat is people who want everything handed to them and then complain when they actually have to use their skills of good judgement because the world isn't doing what they want it to.

TARGET - CEASE FIRE. DRIVER BACK UP - DRIVER STOP.

(in reply to EmeraldSlave2)

Profile

Post #: 5